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MrsD121011
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
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Posted by jessnbrian
I'm amazed at how insensitive people on here have been to a NEW MOTHER! The OP is the new mother of a THREE MONTH OLD, she's not a seasoned veteran. OF COURSE she's going to be upset when someone moves her BABY! Try to remember how you felt when your first was only 3 months old.
Thiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiis.
Smartest thing posted on this entire thread - some people need to remember what it was like when they had their first baby and how their emotions were all over the place so early on.
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
Thy are too busy calling her a biotch,a ****,paranoid,questioning why her hand was off the stroller,why she had a cart and a stroller and even why she was food shopping with a baby
Nobody even remarked that after op responded (and IMO wasn't mean or rude) the woman called a her a f'in biotch and yet she's a saint bc she couldn't get toilet paper fast enough
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| Posted 8/21/15 2:57 PM |
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Seawolf
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
I'm impressed some of you can push a cart and a stroller. I've run over my own foot a few times with just a cart. It seems difficult!
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| Posted 8/21/15 2:59 PM |
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
Posted by Seawolf
I'm impressed some of you can push a cart and a stroller. I've run over my own foot a few times with just a cart. It seems difficult!
I am bad enough with a cart (and always manage to get one with a wonky wheel) so I have never attempted the stroller and cart. I can only do one wheeled contraption at a time
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| Posted 8/21/15 3:11 PM |
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
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i personally wouldn't care if someone moved my stroller a foot or so, so to me yes I think the OP overreacted.
And to answer some of the people comments on the push pull thing.....I never saw it or even heard of it until LIF. It was something that never occurred to me to do. I still have never seen in it the grocery store.....In fact when I shop I rarely even see a stroller but it may just be the times I shop.
I thought maybe I was the only one who never saw the push pull of stroller and cart! I've been food shopping for 36 years, never seen it and I'm in all different supermarkets at least 2x a week!
I've never seen someone pulling/pushing strollers and carts together. I always bring my kids food shopping with me (I have 3 kids) and I don't think I could handle doing all that at once lol
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| Posted 8/21/15 3:18 PM |
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
Because the OP asked... I won't say that her visceral feelings are invalid; how could any of us?
But she came across as hotheaded in the story. Though so do a lot of people on here.
Like all the people so quick to be like "If anyone messed with my child, they'd be dead" Or "I'd be in jail."
Yeah. Cause the rest of us don't care enough about our kid. A big overblown, blustering pronouncement like that establishes that you REALLY love your child. Unlike the rest of us.
Too many hotheads.
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klingklang77
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
Posted by alli3131
And to answer some of the people comments on the push pull thing.....I never saw it or even heard of it until LIF. It was something that never occurred to me to do. I still have never seen in it the grocery store.....In fact when I shop I rarely even see a stroller but it may just be the times I shop.
Yes, this. I have never seen this push pull thing. I thought maybe it was because I'm not in the US, but I now see it's an LIF thing, lol. I've never really had to do serious grocery shopping in the US.
Here one uses a stroller and that's it. They pick up a few things and they pay. If I do see a cart and stroller, it's usually a couple. One parent has the stroller and the other has the cart or basket. Come to think of it, a lot of people shop as couples here. And I go to the grocery store 2-3 times a week as does DH. We split it.
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| Posted 8/21/15 3:29 PM |
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gina409
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by alli3131
And to answer some of the people comments on the push pull thing.....I never saw it or even heard of it until LIF. It was something that never occurred to me to do. I still have never seen in it the grocery store.....In fact when I shop I rarely even see a stroller but it may just be the times I shop.
Yes, this. I have never seen this push pull thing. I thought maybe it was because I'm not in the US, but I now see it's an LIF thing, lol. I've never really had to do serious grocery shopping in the US.
Here one uses a stroller and that's it. They pick up a few things and they pay. If I do see a cart and stroller, it's usually a couple. One parent has the stroller and the other has the cart or basket. Come to think of it, a lot of people shop as couples here. And I go to the grocery store 2-3 times a week as does DH. We split it.
It don't mAtter if anyone has ever seen it. If she is the only woman on the Planet doing it.
She has the right and prob me need. People
Telling her she shouldn't be shopping is ridiculous
And for what it's worth it's how I shop and I've seen it many many times
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| Posted 8/21/15 3:34 PM |
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klingklang77
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
Posted by gina409
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by alli3131
And to answer some of the people comments on the push pull thing.....I never saw it or even heard of it until LIF. It was something that never occurred to me to do. I still have never seen in it the grocery store.....In fact when I shop I rarely even see a stroller but it may just be the times I shop.
Yes, this. I have never seen this push pull thing. I thought maybe it was because I'm not in the US, but I now see it's an LIF thing, lol. I've never really had to do serious grocery shopping in the US.
Here one uses a stroller and that's it. They pick up a few things and they pay. If I do see a cart and stroller, it's usually a couple. One parent has the stroller and the other has the cart or basket. Come to think of it, a lot of people shop as couples here. And I go to the grocery store 2-3 times a week as does DH. We split it.
It don't mAtter if anyone has ever seen it. If she is the only woman on the Planet doing it.
She has the right and prob me need. People
Telling her she shouldn't be shopping is ridiculous
And for what it's worth it's how I shop and I've seen it many many times
I'm not saying she shouldn't shop this way. I'm just saying I've never seen it. It's also a lot of space and I could see why someone might move the stroller. Would I do it? Probably not. But I would say excuse me and if that person didn't hear, then I'd probably move it.
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| Posted 8/21/15 3:40 PM |
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
Posted by gina409
Posted by klingklang77
Posted by alli3131
And to answer some of the people comments on the push pull thing.....I never saw it or even heard of it until LIF. It was something that never occurred to me to do. I still have never seen in it the grocery store.....In fact when I shop I rarely even see a stroller but it may just be the times I shop.
Yes, this. I have never seen this push pull thing. I thought maybe it was because I'm not in the US, but I now see it's an LIF thing, lol. I've never really had to do serious grocery shopping in the US.
Here one uses a stroller and that's it. They pick up a few things and they pay. If I do see a cart and stroller, it's usually a couple. One parent has the stroller and the other has the cart or basket. Come to think of it, a lot of people shop as couples here. And I go to the grocery store 2-3 times a week as does DH. We split it.
It don't mAtter if anyone has ever seen it. If she is the only woman on the Planet doing it.
She has the right and prob me need. People
Telling her she shouldn't be shopping is ridiculous
And for what it's worth it's how I shop and I've seen it many many times
I am not saying don't do it either but people have not seen it and think its odd so I was just giving an opinion.
and honestly I don't think it matters if she had 12 carts. If you have lots going on in the aisle be aware of everythign and keep them out of the way. She admitted the wheels were in the way.
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MrsM84
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Would you have reacted the same as I did?
Believe me everyone, I'd love to not have to do the pull/push cart/stroller combination -- going grocery shopping with my husband would be a dream and I'd love the help but its just not feasible. DH leaves the house M-F at 7AM and comes home around 9PM. He rarely gets to see DD during the week and the only time they get to spend together or that we all really get to spend together as a family is on the weekends. I try to run all the errands during the week so that weekend time can be family time. I know a trip to the grocery doesn't take all day and I know DH would be happy to help, but its important to me that that time is reserved for us to relax as a family.
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
Posted by jessnbrian
I'm amazed at how insensitive people on here have been to a NEW MOTHER! The OP is the new mother of a THREE MONTH OLD, she's not a seasoned veteran. OF COURSE she's going to be upset when someone moves her BABY! Try to remember how you felt when your first was only 3 months old.
Not being snarky, but then, lesson learned then I hope. Never step away from your stroller with a 3 month old. Never take both hands off your stroller. That you never know who might reach in and touch your baby, move your stroller, etc. I never step away from my cart ever, even for a second, when my pocketbook is in it, let alone my 3 month old in a stroller. Clearly we now know there are people who would think nothing of moving your infant stroller with child in it, so it's your job to make sure that does not happen if you do not wish it to.
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jessnbrian
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
Posted by Goobster
Posted by jessnbrian
I'm amazed at how insensitive people on here have been to a NEW MOTHER! The OP is the new mother of a THREE MONTH OLD, she's not a seasoned veteran. OF COURSE she's going to be upset when someone moves her BABY! Try to remember how you felt when your first was only 3 months old.
Not being snarky, but then, lesson learned then I hope. Never step away from your stroller with a 3 month old. Never take both hands off your stroller. That you never know who might reach in and touch your baby, move your stroller, etc. I never step away from my cart ever, even for a second, when my pocketbook is in it, let alone my 3 month old in a stroller. Clearly we now know there are people who would think nothing of moving your infant stroller with child in it, so it's your job to make sure that does not happen if you do not wish it to.
No snark taken, I don't disagree. Typically, I have not behaved like a first time mommy since having DS, but for the first few months I still would never have left the stroller alone like that... I also would never have gone shopping without DH... I was back at work by 9 weeks and there is NO WAY I would have had the energy for it. That said, I understand why the OP did what she did, and why she reacted the way she did. I hope she would take this as a reason to maybe tell DH that she can't do the major shopping without him and set a weekly schedule.
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| Posted 8/21/15 10:08 PM |
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jessnbrian
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
Posted by MrsM84
Believe me everyone, I'd love to not have to do the pull/push cart/stroller combination -- going grocery shopping with my husband would be a dream and I'd love the help but its just not feasible. DH leaves the house M-F at 7AM and comes home around 9PM. He rarely gets to see DD during the week and the only time they get to spend together or that we all really get to spend together as a family is on the weekends. I try to run all the errands during the week so that weekend time can be family time. I know a trip to the grocery doesn't take all day and I know DH would be happy to help, but its important to me that that time is reserved for us to relax as a family.
DH usually leaves the house at 5am and gets home around 7 (that's on an average day, a few nights a month he gets home closer to 9, some nights he has to stay in Jersey for work - we live in Massapequa), so basically same schedule.. I also work full time, with DS in daycare, has been this way since he was 9 weeks old. Find time on the weekend if you don't want to run into this issue, say first thing on Saturday morning. I get wanting to spend time as a family, but you need to do what you need to do, and clearly going shopping alone is not working out. OR, if you are resorted to going alone, go more often and do smaller trips, so that you don't need the cart and can put the groceries in the storage section of the stroller - there is a lot of room down there, trust me!
These are just suggestions to help avoid this situation again, seeing the responses on this thread, I am certain you will experience the same issue again, and again, and again.
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| Posted 8/21/15 10:12 PM |
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
Posted by jessnbrian
Posted by MrsM84
Believe me everyone, I'd love to not have to do the pull/push cart/stroller combination -- going grocery shopping with my husband would be a dream and I'd love the help but its just not feasible. DH leaves the house M-F at 7AM and comes home around 9PM. He rarely gets to see DD during the week and the only time they get to spend together or that we all really get to spend together as a family is on the weekends. I try to run all the errands during the week so that weekend time can be family time. I know a trip to the grocery doesn't take all day and I know DH would be happy to help, but its important to me that that time is reserved for us to relax as a family.
DH usually leaves the house at 5am and gets home around 7 (that's on an average day, a few nights a month he gets home closer to 9, some nights he has to stay in Jersey for work - we live in Massapequa), so basically same schedule.. I also work full time, with DS in daycare, has been this way since he was 9 weeks old. Find time on the weekend if you don't want to run into this issue, say first thing on Saturday morning. I get wanting to spend time as a family, but you need to do what you need to do, and clearly going shopping alone is not working out. OR, if you are resorted to going alone, go more often and do smaller trips, so that you don't need the cart and can put the groceries in the storage section of the stroller - there is a lot of room down there, trust me!
These are just suggestions to help avoid this situation again, seeing the responses on this thread, I am certain you will experience the same issue again, and again, and again.
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| Posted 8/21/15 10:45 PM |
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
I brought my stroller and used a cart once, then realized what an enormous pita it was for me and everyone else shopping. I am going to go out on a limb and guess you looked up at the woman when she said excuse me, but it did not register that she spoke to you. Why else would you have looked up? So in the strangers mind she said excuse me, you noticed her and did nothing. So she moved your stroller over rather than bumping and inadvertently hitting your child. Then you went balistic on her. You might not have cursed but reading what you said the tone was the same. I remember being a new mom, you are tired, I get it. But you were wrong. I would either wear your dc, go shopping very early on the weekends, or put the baby carrier in the shopping cart. The 3-6 month period before they can sit is difficult. But before you go up in arms there are things you could do differently next time to prevent what occured.
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
Posted by MrsM84
Believe me everyone, I'd love to not have to do the pull/push cart/stroller combination -- going grocery shopping with my husband would be a dream and I'd love the help but its just not feasible. DH leaves the house M-F at 7AM and comes home around 9PM. He rarely gets to see DD during the week and the only time they get to spend together or that we all really get to spend together as a family is on the weekends. I try to run all the errands during the week so that weekend time can be family time. I know a trip to the grocery doesn't take all day and I know DH would be happy to help, but its important to me that that time is reserved for us to relax as a family.
I honestly think something like pea pod would make your life a lot easier. I know that it isn't the same as actual grocery shopping, there are some things you actually need to go to the store for. But it would cut down a lot on what you need and allow you to put the infant carrier in the basket. I am sure you are sleep deprived and totally drained, especially with your husband being gone all day. I've been there. Anything you can do to make your life easier will be a huge benefit.
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
Posted by MrsM84
Believe me everyone, I'd love to not have to do the pull/push cart/stroller combination -- going grocery shopping with my husband would be a dream and I'd love the help but its just not feasible. DH leaves the house M-F at 7AM and comes home around 9PM. He rarely gets to see DD during the week and the only time they get to spend together or that we all really get to spend together as a family is on the weekends. I try to run all the errands during the week so that weekend time can be family time. I know a trip to the grocery doesn't take all day and I know DH would be happy to help, but its important to me that that time is reserved for us to relax as a family.
You don't have to explain/justify your reasons for food shopping. Do what you have to do! Just be mindful of how much space you're taking up. When my DD was that young, I did more frequent smaller food shops (it gave us something to get out of the house for). I would keep her in the stroller and fit whatever I could in the bottom basket and in a reusable bag that I carried on my shoulder.
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Would you have reacted the same as I did?
I truly can't believe this post is still going on, ridiculous!
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
You both had a minor lapse in judgement. We have all had strangers try to touch our babies feet, cheeks, preggo belly, ask too personal questions or invade our comfort zone in public. We have to deal and protect our babies the best we can.
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| Posted 8/22/15 10:51 AM |
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MrsD121011
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
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I truly can't believe this post is still going on, ridiculous!
I agree!
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| Posted 8/22/15 1:58 PM |
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
No, I wouldn't have reacted like you did. What she did was kind of weird if like you said she didn't ask you to move it yourself first but, no, I wouldn't think her actions called for your reaction. I've been in a he position so many times where it took twice as long grocery shopping because people were blocking the shelves I needed to get to (and I am never alone in the grocery store either) so honestly I can really feel for the woman as well. I guarantee you with your cart and stroller that end would annoy you as well ;)
All that said, I also don't have the luxury of having my husband home often so I do everything myself alone with two kids in tow as well and always have. Fresh direct was and is a lifesaver and huge time saver for me. We eat basically all organic and tons of fresh fruits, veggies and meats etc and I can pretty much get everything I need from fresh direct down to pull ups and baby food. I do fill in here and there but I could make do with rarely going in a store.
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Would you have reacted the same as I did?
This just makes me glad I usually go food shopping at odd times. I Can't deal with crowds and lines lol.
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KarenK122
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Would you have reacted the same as I did?
I didn't read the whole thread but what it all boils down to is have respect for people. Don't leave your stroller in the aisle so you are in the way, don't move a stroller without saying excuse me first. Everyone feels so entitled today that I really feel bad for the next generation. There are no manners anymore. My DD was impossible to shop with as she would not sit in a cart so I did Peapod. That solved alot of issues. If I had to take her shopping, I just used her stroller and put items in the bottom.
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Re: Would you have reacted the same as I did?
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I truly can't believe this post is still going on, ridiculous!
I agree!
Oh this post is good for another two pages at least
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