WWYD about this - Santa gift spoiler

So here is the scenario (don't quote)

Sitting at table with DC (figure less than 7) a family member and me (mom)

Christmas list comes up for DC. DC mentions that they told Santa one gift in particular (DC saw Santa already) and that Santa said he will bring it as long as they behave etc etc.
I agree (in front of DC) and say to the other family member yes... I have a huge feeling is you are really good this year Santa will bring you this gift.
DC has been talking non stop about this gift. And yes "Santa" already bought it.

20 min later....
DC tells me this family member just told her something and that they arent allowed to tell mommy. And doesn't know what to do. I tell my DC you never keep secrets from mommy it's ok to tell me. DC bursts out "so and so (family member) is going to buy me "that special gift" but I'm not allowed to tell you they are.

And to add- this person sees my DC on Xmas Eve.
ETA: when I was speaking in front if my DC I was trying to make the point to the ADULT in the room that the gift was bought (any adult would see what I was doing in front of my believe in Santa child).
I couldn't be anymore clear at that moment.

Opinions please

Message edited 11/12/2015 7:03:02 PM.

WWYD about this - Santa gift spoiler

Call the family member and tell them you already bought the gift and it will be from Santa. Tell them not to buy it. In plain terms. Do not sugar coat or try to be nice. Be honest and up front. Otherwise it will create issues.

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I would talk to DC and tell them that can't be, because Santa already has it on his list to deliver.

And speak to the family member and tell them they are NOT to buy the gift and do not ever tell DC to keep a secret from you.



I wouldn't be happy about any of it.
Sorry but that really crossed a line.

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You privately tell X 1. never tell Dc to keep secrets from you., 2. You already purchased the present as a from Santa gift. 3. They need to apologize to Dc for telling them not to tell you a secret and they were wrong and that Santa may be bringing it if they are good, but they will get you something else.

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Thats really messed up to be messing with "Santa's delivery". I'd be pissed........Tell them absolutely not and back off! lol

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I did... Immediately. Well I made DH handle it... But I'm still fuming mad

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I would be most irritated at the secret keeping. That is a perfect setup for child molesters. I wouldmake it clear to DD that we do not keep secrets and I would go off on the adult who suggested they do so. The gift stealing is really wrong also but on a different level.

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I don't like any of this. Keeping secrets isn't cool (good for your DC coming to you anyhow). It's also not cool for her to TELL your daughter that SHE'S getting the gift when she clearly believes in Santa and was excited about him getting it for her (not to mention there's the incentive there to be GOOD in order to 'earn' it). Usually one would assume to talk to mom about it before purchasing so as to make sure it's not a double-gift. I would definitely talk to her. And I'd tell my DC that Grandma (or whoever) can't get it since Santa already said that HE would if she's good.

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Honestly, I would have flipped the fuk out.
That's what I would have done.
Flipped the fuk out on this person.

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1. Tell your relative that there is no need to buy the gift since you already bought it.

2. Move on with your life.

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Call the family member and rip them a new one for telling your child TO LIE TO YOU -

The fact that they are being sneaky and spiteful is the smaller part of the problem IMO - God only knows WHY you'd want to ruin a child's Christmas morning Santa surpirse for them, AND for their parents) ........but that's secondary to telling a kid "don't tell Mommy BUT ......."

I'm very hypersensitive to that - It makes me furious.
Even if something silly like "don't tell Mommy I bought you ice cream" - it seems very innocent, but you're teaching my child that it's perfectly acceptable to lie to me AND, as a trusted family member you're putting that child in the position of choosing to lie to their parent, or get you into 'trouble'

What happens, if God forbid, they are put in the same position by a not so innocent person - "Don't tell Mommy I touched you, she'll be very mad ........"

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Posted by MarisaK

Call the family member and rip them a new one for telling your child TO LIE TO YOU -

The fact that they are being sneaky and spiteful is the smaller part of the problem IMO - God only knows WHY you'd want to ruin a child's Christmas morning Santa surpirse for them, AND for their parents) ........but that's secondary to telling a kid "don't tell Mommy BUT ......."

I'm very hypersensitive to that - It makes me furious.
Even if something silly like "don't tell Mommy I bought you ice cream" - it seems very innocent, but you're teaching my child that it's perfectly acceptable to lie to me AND, as a trusted family member you're putting that child in the position of choosing to lie to their parent, or get you into 'trouble'

What happens, if God forbid, they are put in the same position by a not so innocent person - "Don't tell Mommy I touched you, she'll be very mad ........"

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I would be on the phone with said person and tell them:
1. You are an ashole.
2. Do NOT ever tell my kid to keep secrets from me.
3. Santa bought the gift. You can take the one you bought and shove it up your ass.

I am pretty laid back but that would bring out my temper for sure.

WWYD about this - Santa gift spoiler

Thanks everyone. Yes I've been fuming for over a week. Very upset iver this.

WWYD about this - Santa gift spoiler

Every one I see is a potential child molester. It is one of my fears. I would flip out about the lying part, and be average pissed about the present part. Tell DC that he already asked Santa for the gift so we have to wait till Xmas.

WWYD about this - Santa gift spoiler

Thanks to all

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I would be so livid about the secret keeping that I would probably forget all about the purchasing of the gift. No one tells my kids to keep things from me. No way. Not even their grandparents.

WWYD about this - Santa gift spoiler

I guess everyone figured it out that it was a MIL

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