WWYD? Comments from family member about DD..

I dont know if this person is on this site but if she is i guess she'll know how upset i am. This weekend we went camping with my family. While sitting around the camp fire with everyone someone was setting off fireworks. My dd was holding her ears cause she doesnt like big bangs. Well my uncle's dd tells my dd that she needs to see a dr. Her mom quickly sushed her and yelled over her talking to look at the fireworks, to change the subject. I had 2 people come up to me and say what the heck was that about. Her mom reacted so quickly to shut her dd up. That just makes me think that my uncles wife was talking about my dd and her dd heard and blurted out what her mother said. I doubt a 5 year old would put that together about my dd being scared and needing to see a dr. My dd came up to me later and asked why she had to go to the dr and was upset. I just told her that she didnt and not to listen to her cousin. Everytime were with them she makes these comments that her dd isnt scared of anything and my dd is or how tiny her dd is and my dd is breaking her back or she is big boned...meanwhile she is a good 6-7 in taller then her dd and is very skinny. My dd asked a few times if she is fat after being around them. Another time we were supposed to do something together and my plans changed and i said we couldnt go. Her dd tells my dd "jeez, my mom said that your mom dont take you anywhere". So its always something. I feel like she thinks its a competition. I dont know if i should say something to her now 3 days later or let it go until next time. wwyd?

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i would let it go. bringing it up would just cause more drama and generate more gossip. Not worth it.

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that would drive me nuts but there is unfortunately 1 of those in every family!

I would nip it right in the bud..

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def sound like competition, totally sucks

sometimes it bring out good things, but I personally don't enjoy it, especially when children are being compared and told they need to see a dr... what idiot would say that

I can't say I relate exactly, but my DS is only a few months younger than his cousin, and they are always being compared.

"My son is a boxer, yours is a wimp" "My son runs, yours is lazy"
then 2 weeks later, DS is hitting and running. Its not fair to him and I don't know what I would do if he actually heard and understood the idiotic comments.

I would never compare it hurtful to a child or even adult for that matter.

But I don't know I would love to hear responses on how to deal with this. Do you say anything to parents? Do you teach your DC about competition and self esteem?

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WOW...you're right, a 5 y/o isnt going to come up with those things on her own, so someone is definitely saying something. I think I would confront her and let her know how it is affecting you and your DD. I would also, if at all possible, try to limit interactions with them, b/c your daughter does not need that negativity around her.

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Thank you all! I think I'm going to ask her about it. Obviously if she did say it she's not going to admit it but I just want to let her know I don't appreciate her comparing my child to hers when they are complete opposites. I'm sure this will start something in the family but I don't want her to think she can walk all over me or my dd. Thanks again!

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Message edited 8/26/2011 5:46:45 PM.