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nickipa
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Re: WWYD ? re: my sister's pregnancy
If it were me, I would say something......I am sure she is aware of the risks, but perhaps doesn't know how to quit or worse, doesn't want to. I have dealt with cancer patients who are in remission and continue to smoke....it seems crazy but so many people out there are simply addicted. I would start by having a discussion about the smoking, see if she has any want to quit, express your concern for not only the child, but her. I don't think you are making a big deal out of nothing.......
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Re: WWYD ? re: my sister's pregnancy
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i would say something an occasional drink is a glass of wine...
btw sorry if im a lil blunt here but am i the only one that wouldnt be comfortable with my fil as the obgyn?? i dont think i could have him look at my hoohaw and then sit at the dinner table.. i guess its just me... sorry for the crash..
no---u are not the only one...it freaked me out reading it...lmao..I am soooooooooo not comfortablelike that!i dontneed him looking at my chunnie! lmao
It's not her sister's FIL it's Dana's FIL. BUT STILL she does she him for occasions I'm sure! Wierd and I agree but to each is own.
Dana- cna;t you have a private talk with your FIl and tell hiim how concerned you are. Maybe he can get through to her since he is her dr.
Very tough situation. I will pray for her to become healthy and stop smoking and drinking. I pray that hte DC is healthy and not delayed like your nephew is.
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| Posted 5/19/08 8:33 PM |
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Palebride
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Re: WWYD ? re: my sister's pregnancy
I would 100% say something to her. She is harming an innocent unborn baby. I, personally, couldn't live with myself if I sat back and watched her do those kids of things, and then the baby arrived and there was something wrong. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome is serious. And devestating. And totally preventable.
I am a teacher and I currently have a boy in my class whose mother smoked crack while she was pregnant (I know what your sister is doing is not as serious as crack, but I'm just making a point). This poor boy's life is forever effected because of his mother's decision. His life will never be normal. He can never behave like other children. And it's just not fair. It breaks my heart to see people being so selfish!
Say something! Try to get her to stop! I would even involve her doctor - especially if I knew him!!
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| Posted 5/19/08 8:50 PM |
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Re: WWYD ? re: my sister's pregnancy
Posted by nickipa
If it were me, I would say something......I am sure she is aware of the risks, but perhaps doesn't know how to quit or worse, doesn't want to. I have dealt with cancer patients who are in remission and continue to smoke....it seems crazy but so many people out there are simply addicted. I would start by having a discussion about the smoking, see if she has any want to quit, express your concern for not only the child, but her. I don't think you are making a big deal out of nothing.......
The difference is, the cancer patient is harming himself, not an innocent child he/she is carrying.
Shame on your sister!! I seriously think it should be considered child abuse to drink and smoke while one is pregnant and punishable. Especially since I believe there a state that bans smoking in cars with children.
I'm skeeved that the FIL is the OB/GYN also! Blech!!
OP, I would start sending her email links with stats on drinking and smoking while pregnant and maybe throw in a few EI links as well. I'm sure she knows the dangers though, but I would be a pest about it with the hope that it will finally sink in.
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| Posted 5/19/08 9:53 PM |
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my3boys
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Re: WWYD ? re: my sister's pregnancy
I am going to be the odd ball but I wouldn't say anything. For 1 she's an adult she knows what smoking and drinking can do however she still chooses to do it. 2nd if she was going to stop it would be because she realizes it could be dangerous for the baby not because her sister told her so. 3rd if you are close to one another this could make you two a little distant, she may feel that you think your a better mother then her because you chose not to do the above while pregnant. It deff. is a tough situation. My mom smoked with all 4 of us, my sister smoked with all 4 of hers, my sil smoked with all 3 of hers however I would quit once I got a BFP not I know it's bad that I eventually go back however I do not agree with smoking while pregnant but I know my sister wouldn't of quit just because I told her she could hurt the baby because like I mentioned people aren't dumb they know what their doing. JMO and good luck with your decision 
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| Posted 5/19/08 10:57 PM |
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partyof6
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Re: WWYD ? re: my sister's pregnancy
Posted by Cakes
Posted by lastchance1222
Posted by twinboys425
i would say something an occasional drink is a glass of wine...
btw sorry if im a lil blunt here but am i the only one that wouldnt be comfortable with my fil as the obgyn?? i dont think i could have him look at my hoohaw and then sit at the dinner table.. i guess its just me... sorry for the crash..
no---u are not the only one...it freaked me out reading it...lmao..I am soooooooooo not comfortablelike that!i dontneed him looking at my chunnie! lmao
It's not her sister's FIL it's Dana's FIL. BUT STILL she does she him for occasions I'm sure! Wierd and I agree but to each is own.
Dana- cna;t you have a private talk with your FIl and tell hiim how concerned you are. Maybe he can get through to her since he is her dr.
Very tough situation. I will pray for her to become healthy and stop smoking and drinking. I pray that hte DC is healthy and not delayed like your nephew is.
omg I get it now! I thought it was her sister father in law! geez! sorry!
I was not getting it! 
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CrankyPants
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Re: WWYD ? re: my sister's pregnancy
Posted by my3boys
3rd if you are close to one another this could make you two a little distant, she may feel that you think your a better mother then her because you chose not to do the above while pregnant. It deff. is a tough situation.
I think it is worth the risk-I would feel compelled to say something, not necessarily in an attempt to educate her but more to call her out on it and let her know that I am not okay with it. In my opinion, your silence is your consent. There are certainly times to not offer your two cents, but I don't think this is one of them.
Also, I think the OP and anyone who quits smoking during pregnancy IS a better mother than someone who continues to smoke despite knowing the risks to the baby-So far, the only thing she really needs to do as a parent is keep herself healthy in order for the baby to be healthy and she isn't doing it. Until the baby is born and we see other demonstrations of their parenting skills (which I hope are better), I would say anyone who doesn't smoke and drink during pregnancy is a better mother than someone who does-not that it's a contest but just a thought given the above comment.
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Ang-Rich
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Re: WWYD ? re: my sister's pregnancy
The other day I saw a woman outside the building smoking...and very pregnant  but that's not my business...
My sister...I would say something. Chances are it would fall on deaf ears or maybe cause some tension but I would have to at least voice my concern otherwise I would regret it for the rest of that child's life if I saw something wrong.
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Disneygirl
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Re: WWYD ? re: my sister's pregnancy
Wow if this was my sister we probably wouldn't be on speaking turns already (I'm assuming she did the same thing with her first pregnancy?) There is no way I can just sit there quietly while she selfishly puts her unborn child and baby(I'm sure they get plenty of secondhand smoke exposure) at risk.
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| Posted 5/20/08 10:30 AM |
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Janice
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Re: WWYD ? re: my sister's pregnancy
I am always brutally honest with my siblings. I would definitely say something.
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