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nicrae
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WWYD? So annoyed UPDATE
Every year we have christmas eve with my dad and step-mom at their house. This year SM e-mails me to say they are both working during the day and not sure what the plans are. I offer to do it at my house because DH and I are both off and it would be easier to have DD at home.
NO REPLY...NOTHING.
So yesterday I call my dad and tell him again that we would like to have christmas eve at our house since they both have to work during the day. He says he'll have to run it by SM. UMMM HELLO??? haven't you already talked about this??
He said he'll get back to me and here we are at 6pm the night before with still no answer.
What do I do? Call AGAIN? or just assume they aren't coming? I don't know if I should cook and clean or just make other plans.
Also I am kinda hurt because it is DD's 1st christmas and they really don't seem to care.
If you are still reading thanks for listening
UPDATE: Just got a call saying they were going to "take a pass" on tomorrow night??  I just don't get it.....
Message edited 12/23/2008 6:32:20 PM.
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed
I'd give it until 8pm or so and then call back. Be honest with them...tell them you have to go shopping and start cooking in the AM, and you really need to know (and hope they are!) coming.
Hope it works out!
ETA: My IL's "took a pass" on our family Thanksgiving dinner at our home with DD. Don't try to make sense of it, you'll only drive yourself crazy. Enjoy those who ARE with you. It's their loss.
Message edited 12/23/2008 8:56:33 PM.
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| Posted 12/23/08 6:15 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed
Do you normally do a big Christmas Eve with alot of food - because if so I would be freaking out right now. I'm a mess for Christmas Day and my table is already set, and the food has been bought.
Do they think they can just call you up tomorrow and say then are coming over tonight for dinner?
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| Posted 12/23/08 6:17 PM |
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Karen
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed
Posted by Rooster
I'd give it until 8pm or so and then call back. Be honest with them...tell them you have to go shopping and start cooking in the AM, and you really need to know (and hope they are!) coming.
Hope it works out!
Totally agree with this! I don't know what it is about this year, but it seems like a LOT of people are working. Just found out that most of DH's family is working so the plans don't even start until 7pm tomorrow night  . I have no clue how that is going to work for us since we have a 14 month old who's asleep by 7 most nights  .
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| Posted 12/23/08 6:17 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed
What do you want to do?
Waiting around to see if they show for dinner so you can be angry doesn't sound like a good plan.
I would call and tell them what you want. If they aren't coming, what would you do? Quiet Eve with just you guys or with friends?
At this point you've extended the invite so as a courtesy, call & say you've made other arrangements since you didn't hear back from them.
For us Christmas morning is an open invitation kind of thing. We have a ton of food & whoever wants to stop by, can. Very casual;no appointment necessary. Could they be under the impression this is one of those type of things?
From what I'm reading, it sounds like this is about more than Christmas Eve.
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| Posted 12/23/08 6:20 PM |
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nicrae
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed
Posted by Diana1215
Do you normally do a big Christmas Eve with alot of food - because if so I would be freaking out right now. I'm a mess for Christmas Day and my table is already set, and the food has been bought.
Do they think they can just call you up tomorrow and say then are coming over tonight for dinner?
We are italian so we usually do the fish and pasta and we are not the type that just show up...everything is usually very formal. That is what is making me so angy.
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| Posted 12/23/08 6:27 PM |
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nicrae
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed UPDATE
Posted by nrthshgrl
From what I'm reading, it sounds like this is about more than Christmas Eve.
I'm starting to get that feeling too....
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| Posted 12/23/08 6:33 PM |
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Kotka
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed UPDATE
I would definently call back. If it were me, I know my mom always makes 12 dishes- a dish for each apostle (I love Xmas Eve with my mom, lol) Also since its your DDs first Christmas I would want her experience to be a happy memorable one.
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| Posted 12/23/08 6:35 PM |
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shellybean
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed UPDATE
I(f it were me I would call AGAIN and tell them you wree really lookig forward to DD 1st xmas and think it would be great if they could come etc...
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| Posted 12/23/08 6:39 PM |
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed UPDATE
DEFINITELY call to confirm, but I'd have to assume since they didn't get back to you they're not coming??? It's incredibly rude that you have to 'chase' them for an RSVP though. If it were me, I'd be cooking just for DH and DC, if they dared to just show up they'd be given the leftover Chinese food fermenting in the refrigerator. But that's just me.
Ugggh just saw your update. That s*cks and I'm sorry they're being so weird. Try to enjoy the day anyway, its your baby's 1st Christmas so that by definition will make it wonderful. Whatever the "root" of the issue is will be worked out, don't fret over it on Christmas.
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| Posted 12/23/08 6:41 PM |
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KristinasMama
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed UPDATE
Oh Nicole.... I'm soooooo sorry...
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| Posted 12/23/08 6:57 PM |
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sometimesmommy
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed UPDATE
Definitely call and open communication--although you shouldnt have to. I dont know if its about anything else sicne I dont know your family but I think it is unfair for him not to give you an answer considering this milestone in DD's life.
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| Posted 12/23/08 7:08 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed UPDATE
ugh - that is so frustrating and upsetting. Will you see your father at all on Christmas Day? Sorry you have to deal with this BS!
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| Posted 12/23/08 7:48 PM |
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nicrae
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed UPDATE
Posted by Diana1215
ugh - that is so frustrating and upsetting. Will you see your father at all on Christmas Day? Sorry you have to deal with this BS!
Thanks...no christmas day we spend with my mom.
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| Posted 12/23/08 8:09 PM |
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Melissa77
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LJSMommy
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed UPDATE
Ugh....I hope you guys can just do your best to have a queit enjoyable night TOGETHER! That's what DH & I are doing after much controversy this week!!
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CrankyPants
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed UPDATE
Sorry to hear this, from their response that "they are going to take a pass" I agree that there is probably more going on.
However, I wouldn't try to get into now, it could just ruin you holiday. I would do you own thing for Christmas Eve-either make other plans or start your own family tradition this year.
Since it is DDs first, it is the perfect opportunity to start your own traditions in your own home
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| Posted 12/24/08 8:56 AM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed UPDATE
Posted by niikki-8-18-06
UPDATE: Just got a call saying they were going to "take a pass" on tomorrow night?? I just don't get it.....
Honestly I would let your Dad know (after the holidays) how very hurt you were that they didn't come and waited till the last minute to tell you. I would also mention that it was DD's first Christmas and you felt like they didn't care at all.
Merry Christmas!!
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| Posted 12/24/08 9:00 AM |
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed UPDATE
Sorry your dad did that to you. I hope you will enjoy the night with your little one!!
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| Posted 12/24/08 9:02 AM |
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NoahsArkTummy
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Re: WWYD? So annoyed UPDATE
so sorry to hear that! You cannot force people to want to be involved..but DO NOT let it ruin even one second of you enjoying your DD's xmas! They are the ones missing out...
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