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MrsBurtch525
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Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
Such a sad story but shows the ultimate bond between mother and child and the motherly instinct to protect her child....thought i would share...
Linky----Warning:SAD!
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
This is sad..however I'm not completely sure how I feel about her decision, especially having another child. I guess it's a "I would have to be in her shoes" situation.
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bicosi
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
I couldn't do that to my already born child..If I could have a CHANCE to live and watch my already born child grow, I'd do whatever it takes to do that.. I know I'd mourn and be sad about my baby that I was pregnant with but I don't think I could die and leave my son behind like that.
I know it's a personal choice but I cannot imagine what that child will go through when he learns that his mommy sacrificed her life for his sibling.. I can imagine that he would grow resentful.
All in all, I'm torn and pray I'm never put in that situation because it's one that you never know what you'd truly do unless you were in that situation.
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| Posted 4/21/11 4:14 PM |
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
Wow that's incredible.
I don't know why they felt like the doctors were lying to her about her options, but I guess since she never actually made it to the third trimester, she was right that it would've still harmed the baby.
I can't help but thinking that they have quite the lawsuit against the doctor who told her the lump in her throat was nothing initially... did it say "read the chart wrong"??? Perhaps surgery could've even removed it before it spread... who knows. So sad for their family, but glad they have strength and support and comfort.
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annoyedTTCer
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
If I knew the treatments just meant a few more weeks/months and not a totally recovery I would do what she did.
Either way she was dying, no need for the baby to die as well.
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eroxgirl
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
I can't even imagine... and my religious convictions are not all that strong so it's very likely that I would have made completely different choices.
I think I agree with Bicosi.. I couldn't leave my children that are already born without a mother for one that wasn't born yet.
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
Posted by bluekat16
This is sad..however I'm not completely sure how I feel about her decision, especially having another child. I guess it's a "I would have to be in her shoes" situation.
ITA
Obviously this pro-life site is encouraging her decision, but for me, I don't know if I could have made such a choice. She was already a mother to one child and not having treatment was not guaranteeing that she'd make it to the end of the pregnancy. It was only guaranteeing that she was closer to death for herself AND possibly the unborn baby.
My initial thought would be to be there for my 2.5 year old and husband.
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Tine73
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
Posted by bicosi
I couldn't do that to my already born child..If I could have a CHANCE to live and watch my already born child grow, I'd do whatever it takes to do that.. I know I'd mourn and be sad about my baby that I was pregnant with but I don't think I could die and leave my son behind like that.
I know it's a personal choice but I cannot imagine what that child will go through when he learns that his mommy sacrificed her life for his sibling.. I can imagine that he would grow resentful.
All in all, I'm torn and pray I'm never put in that situation because it's one that you never know what you'd truly do unless you were in that situation.
ITA.
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ruby
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
Posted by MrsPJB2007
Posted by bluekat16
This is sad..however I'm not completely sure how I feel about her decision, especially having another child. I guess it's a "I would have to be in her shoes" situation.
ITA
Obviously this pro-life site is encouraging her decision, but for me, I don't know if I could have made such a choice. She was already a mother to one child and not having treatment was not guaranteeing that she'd make it to the end of the pregnancy. It was only guaranteeing that she was closer to death for herself AND possibly the unborn baby.
My initial thought would be to be there for my 2.5 year old and husband.
Same. I also feel like there was a lot of details missing and/or glossed over from this website. I'd be interested in a more detailed medical prognosis from a less religous/pro-life POV.
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pickles16
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
Posted by Tine73
Posted by bicosi
I couldn't do that to my already born child..If I could have a CHANCE to live and watch my already born child grow, I'd do whatever it takes to do that.. I know I'd mourn and be sad about my baby that I was pregnant with but I don't think I could die and leave my son behind like that.
I know it's a personal choice but I cannot imagine what that child will go through when he learns that his mommy sacrificed her life for his sibling.. I can imagine that he would grow resentful.
All in all, I'm torn and pray I'm never put in that situation because it's one that you never know what you'd truly do unless you were in that situation.
ITA.
I feel the same way
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mamabear
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
I didn't read the story--I know it will make me cry.
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| Posted 4/21/11 4:58 PM |
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jasmine
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
I understand being pro-life but isn't the mother a life too? Why are they celebrating this? I feel like the life of a living person should trump the life of a potential living person... that's just my non-religious pro-choice opinion though...
(that said, I do understand that it's not that black and white and my dad's mother died in childbirth with his brother - who survived. It was known to be a very high risk pregnancy but I don't know the details and what her options were as this was 50+ years ago)
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
Posted by pickles16
Posted by Tine73
Posted by bicosi
I couldn't do that to my already born child..If I could have a CHANCE to live and watch my already born child grow, I'd do whatever it takes to do that.. I know I'd mourn and be sad about my baby that I was pregnant with but I don't think I could die and leave my son behind like that.
I know it's a personal choice but I cannot imagine what that child will go through when he learns that his mommy sacrificed her life for his sibling.. I can imagine that he would grow resentful.
All in all, I'm torn and pray I'm never put in that situation because it's one that you never know what you'd truly do unless you were in that situation.
ITA.
I feel the same way
ITA!
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
Posted by lvdolphins
Posted by pickles16
Posted by Tine73
Posted by bicosi
I couldn't do that to my already born child..If I could have a CHANCE to live and watch my already born child grow, I'd do whatever it takes to do that.. I know I'd mourn and be sad about my baby that I was pregnant with but I don't think I could die and leave my son behind like that.
I know it's a personal choice but I cannot imagine what that child will go through when he learns that his mommy sacrificed her life for his sibling.. I can imagine that he would grow resentful.
All in all, I'm torn and pray I'm never put in that situation because it's one that you never know what you'd truly do unless you were in that situation.
ITA.
I feel the same way
ITA!
ITA. It's not right to me not to consider the needs of the first child. To me, a living child takes priority over an unborn child. 
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
I'm not sure how I would have handled it, but I definitely do not think it is anything but selfless. I would not call her selfish in the least. Yes, she already had a born child, but to some, to many who are devote Christians, life begins as conception.
Is it unfair that these cards were dealt to her? Yes, definitely. But as a mother - of two in her eyes, she was definitely selfless.
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Ladybug3
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
So sad.
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baby-o
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
Posted by jasmine
I understand being pro-life but isn't the mother a life too? Why are they celebrating this? I feel like the life of a living person should trump the life of a potential living person... that's just my non-religious pro-choice opinion though...
I agree completely. It's like pro-life is pro-fetus...Not pro "already living". I respect their decision to do what they did but now this poor father is raising a toddler and a medically fragile infant without a mother or a wife.
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Can you imagine the guilt the child will have to live with when he/she finds out what happened to his/her mother?
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
Posted by bicosi
I couldn't do that to my already born child..If I could have a CHANCE to live and watch my already born child grow, I'd do whatever it takes to do that.. I know I'd mourn and be sad about my baby that I was pregnant with but I don't think I could die and leave my son behind like that.
I know it's a personal choice but I cannot imagine what that child will go through when he learns that his mommy sacrificed her life for his sibling.. I can imagine that he would grow resentful.
All in all, I'm torn and pray I'm never put in that situation because it's one that you never know what you'd truly do unless you were in that situation.
agree with everything you said.
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julz33
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
If she only made it 23.5 weeks after diagnosis, her cancer must have been in a very advanced stage. Treatment may not have extended her life at all at that point. IMO she did the right thing and I would have done the same.
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mlny
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
Such a tough decision 
So sad
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CucumberGirl
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
Posted by julz33
If she only made it 23.5 weeks after diagnosis, her cancer must have been in a very advanced stage. Treatment may not have extended her life at all at that point. IMO she did the right thing and I would have done the same.
this is what I was thinking too - it really sounded like she knew there was no saving herself so she wanted to try to save the baby instead...
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Disneygirl
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
First I have to point out the error they made when the article initially claims she made it into her 3rd trimester then proceeds to deliver a 23wk baby. 
Gotta wonder if the decision would have been different if the cancer was caught when she originally started to have symptoms.
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| Posted 4/21/11 11:04 PM |
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Jacksmommy
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
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Can you imagine the guilt the child will have to live with when he/she finds out what happened to his/her mother?
This is my thought already. In addition, what the other child may feel growing up knowing why he doesn't have a mother. I feel for the husband who will now have to grieve for the death of his wife - which obviously essentially happened in like a 4 or 5 month time span and raising 2 children. *I* personally do not think *I* would have made that choice!
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Re: Young Mother Sacrifices Herself for her Unborn Child
Posted by bicosi
I couldn't do that to my already born child..If I could have a CHANCE to live and watch my already born child grow, I'd do whatever it takes to do that.. I know I'd mourn and be sad about my baby that I was pregnant with but I don't think I could die and leave my son behind like that.
I know it's a personal choice but I cannot imagine what that child will go through when he learns that his mommy sacrificed her life for his sibling.. I can imagine that he would grow resentful.
All in all, I'm torn and pray I'm never put in that situation because it's one that you never know what you'd truly do unless you were in that situation.
ITA
Although I found this part disturbing:
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The treatment question came up again when the baby reached the third trimester. At that point, says Clint, the decision was much more difficult, with the doctors claiming that the risks were minimal because the baby was almost fully developed.
However, Jessica still refused the treatments for the sake of her unborn child – a decision that Clint says left her doctors “very confused.”
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It sounds more like they were Christian Scientists if she was refusing treatment. I do put more faith in biology & medicine though so I'm pretty sure I would choose a different path.
I think of DebG who found out she had a brain tumorwhile pregnant. She is still fighting cancer after finding out the tumor was cancerous. Joseph is going to be 5 this year. I can't imagine him missing the opportunity to grow up with her as a mom. Fight Deb! Fight!
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