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Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
I posted previously about my whole family outing me on FB. For some reason, "telling people" = FB announcement to my in laws 
So now obviously people are commenting on my page and congratulating me. So I get into a convo with one of my friends and tell her that on Monday I go for a sono and Im hoping they can tell me the sex (Ill be 17 w) She replies to keep her updated.
Ok, so my MIL must have been stalking my page b/c she sees this exchange and writes:
"Youre not going to tell everyone what sex the baby is if you find out are you - you know how i am about superstitions. no no no- let them wait with baited breath while you are in labor. Only the grandmas and of course the hubby, the rest will have to be surprised..."
Ummm yeah I can see how superstitious you are by the way you posted I was pregnant on FB after I had 2 m/cs and told you I was still nervous 
Plus when we find out, I want to paint the room and buy things specific to the gender so I want everyone at the shower to know what sex to buy for. My DH agrees. We have both always said the sex would be no secret.
How do I respond to this? I dont want to start a fight on FB but shes being ridiculous.
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Pray4Baby2010
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
I would ignore it- and then I would set my facebook so that she could not see when I posted something 
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:07 PM |
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springsandra
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
(1) I'd delete her comment from your page -- that is SO not something that needs to be aired in public!!!
(2) I'd tell anyone and everyone you want to and she can put that in her pipe and smoke it. This is YOUR pregnancy and YOUR child and it's entirely YOUR prerogative who you tell what to!
I say, tell the world!!!!!!!! Paint the room!!!! Shout it all from the rooftops if you'd like to!!!!
She'll get over it. Or not. But it's not your problem her hangups.
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:07 PM |
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
don't post the sex just post the name you've chosen. . like
we are not posting the sex to honor my MIL's superstitions but names we are considering are
charles
james
don
Message edited 7/15/2010 1:10:16 PM.
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:08 PM |
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MRnMRSNurse
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
She really expects you to have a gender neutral shower because SHE doesn't believe in telling? So dumb!!
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:08 PM |
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gporka23
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
I would ignore the comment completely.. and then when you do find out the sex make a nice big facebook announcement.
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:09 PM |
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MrsList
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
I would post this
Ummm yeah I can see how superstitious you are by the way you posted I was pregnant on FB after I had 2 m/cs and told you I was still nervous
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:11 PM |
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melbalalala
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
How about a simple "actually we are" and leave it at that. Ignoring it and deleting it won't make it go away, this needs to be nipped in the bud ASAP.
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:12 PM |
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gporka23
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
Posted by MRnMRSNurse
She really expects you to have a gender neutral shower because SHE doesn't believe in telling? So dumb!!
My MIL asked me to do this too.. all because SHE doesnt want to know the sex until the baby is born. I called her the other day and invited her to dinner tomorrow night where we will reveal the sex (if the baby cooperates at our appointment tomorrow)... she said that she didnt want to come because she didnt want to know. I said too bad.. needless to say she is coming.
I have no time to deal with it.
I love her.. but honestly its MY pregnancy..
and the same goes for the OP.. its your pregnancy.. do what makes you happy. She will get over it.
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:12 PM |
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Posted by MRnMRSNurse
She really expects you to have a gender neutral shower because SHE doesn't believe in telling? So dumb!!
Not only that, but then she tells me some of her sisters probably wont go to the shower because they "dont believe" in them. Can you imagine?? Who the frig are these people to impose their superstitions?
Gee Im so sad my husbands nasty aunts who dont gives a rats a** about us wont come to my shower because they are superstitious. Boo Hoo....
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:15 PM |
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teach24
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
I think that decision is between you and DH not you and your MIL. Do what you think is right!
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:16 PM |
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Posted by MrsList
I would post this
Ummm yeah I can see how superstitious you are by the way you posted I was pregnant on FB after I had 2 m/cs and told you I was still nervous
I might just say this to her. Most people Im friends with on FB dont know about the prior losses.
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
Posted by Pray4Baby2010
I would ignore it- and then I would set my facebook so that she could not see when I posted something
I would do the same
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:19 PM |
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mlny
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
Posted by pteradactylmama
don't post the sex just post the name you've chosen. . like
we are not posting the sex to honor my MIL's superstitions but names we are considering are
charles
james
don
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:28 PM |
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Posted by mlny
Posted by pteradactylmama
don't post the sex just post the name you've chosen. . like
we are not posting the sex to honor my MIL's superstitions but names we are considering are
charles
james
don
LMAO this is exactly what Ill do and just let people draw their own conclusions 
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:34 PM |
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MarisaK
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
A. set your FB page so she can't see anything and everything
B. Don't respond to her post
C. Do whatever the hell you damn well please - it's YOUR pregnancy and YOUR child - SHE is a guest at this event. It may be her Grandchild, but Grandmas aren't grated privlidges for calling the shots - sorry !!
And I find it funny that she's so superstitious - yet SHE can know the sex????
You said she wrote "Of course Grandma, and hubby - but that's it" right?
Soooooooooooooo, what exactly is her superstition? I don't get it -
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:40 PM |
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Posted by MarisaK
And I find it funny that she's so superstitious - yet SHE can know the sex????
You said she wrote "Of course Grandma, and hubby - but that's it" right?
Soooooooooooooo, what exactly is her superstition? I don't get it -
This was my first thought exactly. I really feel like asking her to explain.
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:42 PM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
I would just ignore the comment on FB and would actually delete it.
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:43 PM |
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
I would just write, "of course we are sharing with everyone, can't wait to buy clothes and decorate in pink o blue"
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| Posted 7/15/10 1:45 PM |
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
Hey!!
So 1st, I would delete the posts on FB!
I wouldn't even get into it with MIL, you dont need the stress or aggravation.
I would though have DH talk to her, and say " we have been through enough this year, and do not need to be told to not do things out of Superstition!!"
This is our baby and our family we our creating and we want to share the news right away! We just you need you to support us and without comments!!
I can't wait for Monday, to find out if it's a  or  !!!!
When you do find out, share whatever news you want with whomever!!! If that means Writing on Facebook "it's a girl" or "It's a boy" You deserve to scream it from a roofttop!!!!
You certainly have waited long enough with your 2 m/c, dont let someone else's superstition take away from what makes you HAPPY!!!
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| Posted 7/15/10 2:38 PM |
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
I am just so angry for you, I wish I had advice!!!!
My MIL doesn't have FB BUT when we told her at SIX WEEKS PREGNANT, she immediately told our hair lady, the nail lady AND the people at the supermarket (no joke, I worked there for 6 years so everyone I knew!). I had to run damage control and call people like MY BROTHER AND COUSINS so that they wouldn't find out the next time they wanted to buy a case of beer!!!
OMG I STILL get angry just thinking about it, you will remember her actions forever!
She needs to be blocked on FB ASAP.
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| Posted 7/15/10 2:49 PM |
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1stimemom
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
oh geeze Just ignore her
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| Posted 7/15/10 3:21 PM |
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Re: Do I need to explain myself?? WWYD
I wouldn't respond at all.
If you want to share the sex of the baby with everyone than it's your's and your DH's decision... NOT your MIL"s.
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