Please tell me it gets easier

Went to a "sprinkle" today and its just so difficult to see pregnant women. DH still doesn't get it either. I'm sitting here on the couch and he's like "did you have a bad time or something because you seem like you're in mood". Seriously? I really need to explain this to him?

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Uggghhhh ...now thats hard. Like it isnt bad enough. You have to go to a sprinkle/shower. Kudos to you for still going. Not many would have had your courage/strength. Men are just clueless.

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I give you a lot of credit for still going.

I totally get why it put you in a bad mood after. I found out another one of my DH's cousins was pregnant yesterday and I immediately started BAWLING!!

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It is so hard...I had to go to a baby shower last weekend and it was like torture for me. But I felt like it was the right thing to do to go. I am still so green with envy every time I see or hear of another pregnant woman, I really hate that about myself but I cant help it right now.
With time it will get easier....I hope!
Sending you lots of

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I remember this feelling all too well and yes it will get easier. I applaud you on the strength that you do have as I was not able to attend any baby showers after my miscarriage. Whether it was relatives, friends or colleagues, it was just way too tough for me. Those who truly cared about me completely understood and respected that this was part of my own healing process. To this day, when I see those babies that were born around the time my baby was due, it still brings back some feelings of sorrow but those feelings are much easier to deal with now.

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you are amazing for even attending...i'll be honest and say that i know i couldn't do that right now...sometimes i still cry at the sight of a pregnant woman (3 months later) so i don't think i could deal with a sprinkle/shower...

my DH took the miscarriage thing pretty hard and sometimes even he doesn't "get" why certain things are upseting to me....i mean he understands why i get upset but he doesn't understand why i let it hurt me so much...i just think there are aspects of pregnancy and miscarriage that men just can't understand...

my sister in law is due a week after i would have been...july is going to be a cruel month and i'm still hoping that i can pull myself together in time...its going to sting so bad....

like you, i really hope things get easier...i know the last 3 months things have gotten easier but the hole in my heart is def still there...i don't think that will ever go away, it will just be easier to deal with...

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Ughhh!!! I know EXACTLY what you are going thru.

I actually have a baby shower to go to at the end of month and reallllly taking my time in RSVP'ing. The girl who's shower it is...........got pregnant a week after I found out. So this pregnancy hits me wayyyy too close to home. A few close friends are going.........so its hard to come up with just any excuse. But I do plan on going (b/c her and her DH are mutual friends of ours) but I plan on leaving as soon as shes ready to open gifts. Im not sure Im going to be able to deal with the "ooh's and aah's" of it all.

Around this time, would have been my shower; and it really stings. I have not seen her; so seeing her with her big belly is going to be a reminder that I would be just as big right now too had I not lost mine. : (

Ugh.........I so f'ng hate this. I truly do!

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it was hard for a few weeks... i avoided tday at my gmas because i knew i wasnt ready... but by Christmas I was ok!!!

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I had a mc last Jan.... and I was invited to 2 baby showers. One was a few months later and the other was literally my due date weekend (about 7 months later or less).

I honestly didn't go to either one. I just couldn't do it.

I did send a gift. I don't regret not going but I'm glad I did the right thing and sent a gift.

Now that I'm finally pregnant again (after trying for a long time) and it's shower talking time, honestly if one of my friends was going though a mc and or the lasting emotional issues surrounding the mc and couldn't come because of it, I would totally understand.

you need to do what's best for you and don't be upset or sad about it.

it would help if DH understood more about it. Do you guys ever talk about it at all? DH and I talked a lot about it. So when I didn't want to attend these events or would be sad, he totally understood why. It helped that he knew what I was thinking and feeling.