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MrsPornStar
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Please tell me it gets easier
I am sick to my stomach at the thought of going back to work. I've known all along that I had to return but never imagined it would hurt this much. I keep crying every day when I think about being apart from him. Right now there is no way I can stay home.
Please tell me it gets easier. If you have any suggestions on how to handle it, I would greatly appreciate it.
Signed,
A heartbroken mommy
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
 
Message edited 1/6/2009 2:05:47 PM.
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jea128
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
I promise it gets easier. Once you're in a routine it will be easier. The first week or so was definitely the hardest for me. I cried every morning when I left DD.
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Belladonna219
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
It really does get easier
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
it will get a little easier!!
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MrsPornStar
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
Thanks everyone. I honestly didn't think it would hurt this much since I prepped myself that I had to return to work. Was your child happy to see you when you picked him/her up?
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MST9106
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
It does get so much easier! But I'll be honest, now that Michael is older and running around, when I'm with him non-stop for over a few days at a time, it is soooo much harder to leave him to go to work. When they're so little, they really don't know, they don't know when you come home etc. When I get home now, I get a big smile and Michael runs to me when I walk through that door.
Aidan is going to be in good hands, thats what matters the most!
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jellybean78
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
It really does get easier. I was a hot mess the first week but it does get better
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jea128
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
Posted by MrsPornStar
Thanks everyone. I honestly didn't think it would hurt this much since I prepped myself that I had to return to work. Was your child happy to see you when you picked him/her up?
Yeah, she was happy to see me, because I was still nursing 
I would say it wasn't till 9-10 months that she actually acknowledged when I would come home.
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Charly
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
Posted by MrsPornStar
Thanks everyone. I honestly didn't think it would hurt this much since I prepped myself that I had to return to work. Was your child happy to see you when you picked him/her up?
Before having DD I thought it would be so easy to just put her in daycare and return to work. After I had her, it was an entirely different story. I had a really hard time adjusting. I agree with the other ladies that it does get easier once you are in a routine, but I just never really accepted it.
I was lucky that I got to work 2 days from home for 18 months and then after DS was born I went PT. I still wish I was home all the time, but I'm very grateful to have the extra time with them.
...and yes they are always soooo happy to see me when I pick them up!!!
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| Posted 1/6/09 1:26 PM |
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I wish I had some advice but I just wanted to offer
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Annie91606
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
I agree with the PP's. Once you are in the routine it is easier.
The worst week for me was actually the week BEFORE I went back to work. I was sick and dreading it. But then I actually went back, and I am busy and the days fly by. There are still days I wish I could stay home, but most days I am okay.
DS (almost 1) is very excited when I come home.
I also cherish every moment with me now, much more so than during my leave. to you.
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karjules
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
Posted by jea128
Posted by MrsPornStar
Thanks everyone. I honestly didn't think it would hurt this much since I prepped myself that I had to return to work. Was your child happy to see you when you picked him/her up?
Yeah, she was happy to see me, because I was still nursing
I would say it wasn't till 9-10 months that she actually acknowledged when I would come home.
Same here! Since I am still nursing she practically attacks me since she grazes all day. I would say she has 5 oz all day and then eats non stop when I get home 
But I degress...as for going back to work....you can look at my past posts, I really thought I would lose it and NOT be able to handle it. I have been back 7 days (but who is counting) and it is really OK. I have to say, having my husband drop off DD makes it SOOOO much easier on me! I get to see her for the pick ups which is soo great!! I am soo happy to see her. She is only 5 months and does not react when she sees me other than her usual smile. I don't think they have the same concept of time (like Mommy has been gone all day), etc.
Good luck, you will get through this as I did, b/c we have no choice, so it has to work!
If you need to FM, I am here to talk, we can cry together!
ETA: I think the hardest part was the anticipation of going back. As someone described it to me (another fellow mommy on here), it is like waiting for death row! My anticipation was much worse than the actual part of going back.
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MrsFlatbread
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sometimesmommy
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
It will. Its been ove a year now and its definitely easier.
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neener1211
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
I was so upset as well when I had to go back to work after 6 weeks. The first day I cried as I got out of the shower, into the car, at my MIL's to drop him off, getting back in the car, then at work.
When I picked him up, he gave me the biggest smile. The second day, was so much easier bc I knew that we could do it. It definitey gets easier, even though you still want to be home with them.
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HillW9608
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lovemy2boys
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
here I am my second day back. it's harder than I thought. I cried last night, and again this morning. I really broke down this AM and got into an argument w/ my DH. it's really hard, and I feel like I can't do this. I am going to give it 3 weeks before I make any decisions. when I am here, I'm ok, but I miss him terribly
eta h e didn't seem to notice that I was gone all day yesterday LOL he did smile but it wasn't the reunion I was hoping for! actaully a good thing bc I knew he was ok
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Goobster
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here I am my second day back. it's harder than I thought. I cried last night, and again this morning. I really broke down this AM and got into an argument w/ my DH. it's really hard, and I feel like I can't do this. I am going to give it 3 weeks before I make any decisions. when I am here, I'm ok, but I miss him terribly
eta h e didn't seem to notice that I was gone all day yesterday LOL he did smile but it wasn't the reunion I was hoping for! actaully a good thing bc I knew he was ok
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browneyedgirl
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
i'm right there with you
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littlejoy06
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
I know how you feel. It does get easier, just hang in there. Instead of thinking about being apart, think of the smile he will have on his face when you come home from work each day. That should cheer you up!!
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headoverheels
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
oh hollie i won't lie - it SUCKS at first. but yes, it does get easier.
now when i come home DS is usually napping but if he is awake he stares at me for a second like he is trying to remember who i am... and then he breaks into the BIGGEST smile, and if i don't come and pick him up, he cries 
make sure you take lots of pics to work with you - showing him off to the other ladies at work and talking about him definitely helped
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DmarieK
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
I will probably going through this soon too
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pinkandblue
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Re: Please tell me it gets easier
I am not going to lie, the first week SUCKS, after that, yes, it does get easier
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