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Mother's Guilt! Advice, please...
I am still EBF DS. My sister in-laws bachelorette party to AC is in 2 weeks. We are going overnight. Problem is DS is majorly attached to me. He sleeps with me at night and gets hysterical when I am not around him day or night. He is only 5 months, and not ever leaving him for very long has been very trying on me. I wouldn't mind the break, and the chance to have a little fun, but I feel so guilty leaving!
DH is also not super confident watching him and although we have plenty of other help, my mom and MIL, I'm still nervous being gone for so long. I also have the added pain in the *** of having to pump while away. Can I even drink??? I don't even know.
Any advice??? I'm so torn here. What would you do?
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Posted 5/21/11 10:32 AM  |
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mosh913
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Re: Mother's Guilt! Advice, please...
I had an overnight bachelorette party when DD was around 3-4 months and I just didn't go. If you're not comfortable being away from your baby, don't go. But if you really want to go, then you should! My point...do what you want 
I would just pump and dump if I went. I think you should pump every 3 hours to keep supply up.
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| Posted 5/21/11 10:40 AM |
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DRMom
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Melissa
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Re: Mother's Guilt! Advice, please...
GO! Your son will survive. It's only a day and it will be great for you! he's also getting to the age where you may want to transition him out of your bed. Pump and dump. At 5 mos your supply should be well established so I would say you could even stretch the pumping time to 5 or 6 hrslso
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| Posted 5/21/11 10:54 AM |
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LadyBug1209
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Re: Mother's Guilt! Advice, please...
I went to an overnight BP about 2 months ago... DS was 3 months. I was very nervous too and had a pit in my stomach the entire drive up to Foxwoods. In the end it was fine! I didn't drink very much so I didn't have to pump and dump and I left as soon as I woke up in the morning. I knew he was in good hands (DH and my Mom) so I made the best of the time off. Go and have a great time!!! 
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| Posted 5/21/11 1:30 PM |
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hdrd0411
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Re: Mother's Guilt! Advice, please...
If it was me I know I wouldn't go...but you should!! :)
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| Posted 5/21/11 3:39 PM |
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KennysMommy
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Danielle
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Re: Mother's Guilt! Advice, please...
Just keep in mind that whenever you pump (or BF) after drinking, as long as you are sober enough to drive, the milk is safe for your LO to drink. If not, pump and dump... I would try to pump around the same time you should nurse.
I would say do what you think is best as far as going or not. If the time away would be GREAT for you, GOOOOOOOO!!!! If you are not going to enjoy yourself while being away, don't bother.
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| Posted 5/21/11 3:51 PM |
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Re: Mother's Guilt! Advice, please...
I would go but take your own car in case you need to get home.
Your DS is young enough that he won't remember and you should have a break.
I vote - GO!
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| Posted 5/21/11 5:01 PM |
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JandJ1224
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Re: Mother's Guilt! Advice, please...
I also EBF and my DD now almost 8 mo's is VERY attached to me too, nurses at night still etc.
If I were you I would see if your DH can go and stay in a room with your DS, that way you can still go have fun and just run up to your room to nurse your DS to bed and return to the party.
You can drink, as long as you would be comfortable driving you can nurse. Otherwise just wait till you are to nurse.
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| Posted 5/21/11 6:19 PM |
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