Having kids so you have someone to leave your assets to

I'd like to get opinions on this. Basically, I was telling a coworker that my friend's Mom is engaged to someone 18 years or so younger. They have been dating for years. Now, according to my friend, the fiance never wanted children. My friend also has a baby (so basically her mother is a grandma- a young grandma though). I mentioned this to my coworker because we were talking about age differences in relationships.

This coworker claimed that this relationship (my friend's mom and the much younger fiance) won't work. She said that he is going to want kids. I told her that he supposedly does not want kids and obviously is aware of the fact that my friend's mom can no longer have them. My coworker claims that when he gets to be a little older he is going to start to want kids. She said that "he is not going to want to leave his money to his step grand-baby when he dies. He will want to leave his money to his own kids."

I thought this was so ridiculous so I stopped even arguing with her because I was getting annoyed. If I remain child-free and I have a few bucks in my name when I die, I have no problem leaving it to my favorite charities. I'm just wondering what everyone else's thoughts are. Is this a common reason for wanting kids?

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I would hope not. To have kids just because you need someone to leave your assets to? Crazy IMO, and I would feel bad for the kids.

We plan on using our money, and Little Shelter in Huntington will get whatever is left over. Maybe they will build a new cat house in our name.

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I too, plan on using my money and whatever is left over will be split amongst my niece and nephew.
They also get the title to our vacation home.
Any valuables from my side go to my niece and nephew, and any valuables from DH's side go to whomever he wants (he has no siblings and his first cousins have all died).

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Unfortunately it is one of several reasons for why people have kids. My grandmother on my moms side is like this..she had 5 daughters, and specifically got pregnant 3x (the first 2 were byproducts of whirlwind romances with local hometown boyfriends) and said her reason for having her "clan" was so she could pass along her assets..my mom is the oldest so she already has certain properties deed-ed to her (my grandma is a property manager and holds properties overseas).

My grandmother is also one of those people who expect her kids to actually be by her deathbed when she goes (and calls my mom anytime she even much as coughs just for attention). My mom actually said she is happy that she stopped having any more kids after I wqs born because she thinks that whole "leaving assets to your kids" is hogwash...when my mom passes, the only thing I will be inheriting is her credit card bills!!

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I've always heard the 'have them so they can take care of you in your old age' reason...but not to leave your assets to

My brother (or his kids if he has any) will get everything when the time comes.

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Why can't he leave them to charity or other relatives?

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When I was deciding to have children or not, that was definitely not one of the factors.
We have plenty of Godchildren, nieces and causes to leave assets to.

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Posted by Blazesyth
We plan on using our money, and Little Shelter in Huntington will get whatever is left over. Maybe they will build a new cat house in our name.

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Oh crap...now I have to have a kid so my stuff goes to the right people! Glad I come here to learn how the world really works!!