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Xelindrya
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
We have one week to remove any collection of excess brush, mulch, building materials, waste, trash or any other materials from the front of our property.
Can't quote it verbatim but its something like that. I had 4 yards of 'fill' dropped off on my drive way. i had it all removed in two days. It was a lot. Got friends and family to help wheel barrel it into our backyard.
If it stays longer than a week, we get a nasty note from the HOA and after 72hrs you'll get fined and the fines continue. If you don't pay your fines they can put a lien on your home.
Your garbage bin has to be removed within 24hrs after the assigned pick up day and cannot been left in anyway visable from the street.
rules. rules. rules. But I have to say, it keeps the neighborhood looking nice.
all that... and I'd say this.. i dont CARE that you don't like the mulch, you don't put a 'free mulch' sign up on MY property on something that is MINE, unless you plan to pay for it.
to me, they were rude.
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LittleDiva
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Rude neighbor or justified?
havent read thru all the posts, but i think its rude to leave mulch in the street for that long! but then again, i get super annoyed when people mow their grass and edge the yard...but dont take care of all the leaves/grass/weeds in front of the yard on the street and curb area! its part of owning a home....keep it neat and clean!
i def. wouldnt leave a note like that, but i could see my husband doing it to certain neighbors who NEVER take care of their yard.
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| Posted 7/22/13 11:55 AM |
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Kitten1929
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Rude neighbor or justified?
The OP hasn't come back LOL maybe because the majority doesn't agree with her!
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| Posted 7/22/13 11:59 AM |
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JennZ
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Rude neighbor or justified?
Why was it on the street? All my neighbors have it put in their driveway. Im not going to lie, If I had to look at that for a month, I'd be pissed too.
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| Posted 7/22/13 12:03 PM |
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Christine2
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
Posted by Kitten1929
The OP hasn't come back LOL maybe because the majority doesn't agree with her!
Actually, I have been reading these posts, but while some are decent in their reply, others are downright arrogant and self righteous. It is what can make LIF a real turnoff. Especially one that said something like, "Great way to make neighbors, good luck with that!" 
I get it -- it is rude to leave the mulch. It was an overestimation on DH's part. I asked, it was 20 yards. It has been a real family effort. We both are hard at it (as well as the kids and in laws). We both work full time and Sunday is the only day to get to it.
The pile was not left there intentionally to piss anyone off. It has been getting smaller and smaller.
Quite honestly, I was taken aback at the posting of the sign. I thought it was passive aggressive and mean spirited. I actually thought DH placed it there and was shocked that a neighbor would actually do something that mean.
BTW, my neighbors left their xmas lights until April -- never said anything. They light fireworks in their driveway -- we actually sit on the porch and watch them. They had parties until 2pm the other night -- never complained. Sh*t happens.
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| Posted 7/22/13 12:36 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
Posted by Christine2
Actually, I have been reading these posts, but while some are decent in their reply, others are downright arrogant and self righteous. It is what can make LIF a real turnoff. Especially one that said something like, "Great way to make neighbors, good luck with that!"
I get it -- it is rude to leave the mulch. It was an overestimation on DH's part. I asked, it was 20 yards. It has been a real family effort. We both are hard at it (as well as the kids and in laws). We both work full time and Sunday is the only day to get to it.
The pile was not left there intentionally to piss anyone off. It has been getting smaller and smaller.
Quite honestly, I was taken aback at the posting of the sign. I thought it was passive aggressive and mean spirited. I actually thought DH placed it there and was shocked that a neighbor would actually do something that mean.
BTW, my neighbors left their xmas lights until April -- never said anything. They light fireworks in their driveway -- we actually sit on the porch and watch them. They had parties until 2pm the other night -- never complained. Sh*t happens.
I don't think you can equate home decor (icicle lights) to something that's on the street or sidewalk.
I get that you & your DH work hard. Believe me, I understand that. My husband works a physical job, six days a week & is off only on Sundays. But when we did get a mulch delivery, he was out shoveling it every day and we had it in our driveway.
It was ballsy of your neighbor & it doesn't make for a good relationship. Knocking on your door & asking what the deal was with the mulch would have been the way to go.
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| Posted 7/22/13 12:42 PM |
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Daisy32
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
Your neighbor sounds like an idiot.
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| Posted 7/22/13 12:46 PM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
In my neighborhood you would be fined for leaving mulch on the street and there are a lot of neighbors who would have complained after a week. While I would not have ever put a sign up, I do think that you are in the wrong for letting it sit there for over a month regardless of your reasons.
Message edited 7/22/2013 1:03:37 PM.
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| Posted 7/22/13 12:47 PM |
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Daisy32
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
Posted by Kitten1929
The OP hasn't come back LOL maybe because the majority doesn't agree with her!
Real nice.
Maybe its bc of the uneccessary rudeness going on. She asked a question. Feel free to anwser it (or not) and move on.
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| Posted 7/22/13 12:51 PM |
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LeeCR7
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
I would never notice if someone left mulch or anything on the curb. I'm just not observant about things like that. My husband, however, would have noticed the day it was dropped off and would have tracked it getting smaller (not to be nosy, but because things like that interest him so he would notice). I asked him and he said it would annoy him a little and he'd probably see if the neighbors needed help moving it. He was shocked that someone put a sign like that on your pile and said that would have infuriated him.
We both agree that it is incredibly rude to leave a sign like that. Although you may have been a little slow in removing it, to me it is so much worse to not only touch something on my property without my permission, but to have the nerve to put a sign on it giving away something I paid for is immoral, and possibly illegal.
IMO, what the neighbor did was so much worse. I wish you knew who did it so you could be cautious around that neighbor.
Good luck!
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| Posted 7/22/13 12:57 PM |
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
Posted by Daisy32
Posted by Kitten1929
The OP hasn't come back LOL maybe because the majority doesn't agree with her!
Real nice.
Maybe its bc of the uneccessary rudeness going on. She asked a question. Feel free to anwser it (or not) and move on.
Its so frustrating when trying to read interesting posts and someone always has to chime in and  not every spends their whole day on LIF
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| Posted 7/22/13 1:06 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
I usually try and stay away from drama posts or posts that get too long. In this case the poster was not looking to start drama.
A simple... I think it's wrong to keep mulch on the street for a long period of time.
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| Posted 7/22/13 1:26 PM |
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jams92
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Rude neighbor or justified?
I see both sides. I don't think you were right to leave it on the street for so long but I would never put a note on it- I would have said some to you in person.
I also don't think you can compare Christmas lights on a house to mulch on public property.
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| Posted 7/22/13 1:35 PM |
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LittleDiva
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
Posted by Christine2
Posted by Kitten1929
The OP hasn't come back LOL maybe because the majority doesn't agree with her!
Actually, I have been reading these posts, but while some are decent in their reply, others are downright arrogant and self righteous. It is what can make LIF a real turnoff. Especially one that said something like, "Great way to make neighbors, good luck with that!"
I get it -- it is rude to leave the mulch. It was an overestimation on DH's part. I asked, it was 20 yards. It has been a real family effort. We both are hard at it (as well as the kids and in laws). We both work full time and Sunday is the only day to get to it.
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20 yards of mulch left on the street i can totally see why your neighbor was annoyed now! we get 4 yards left in our driveway and its ALOT!
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BunnyWife
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
Posted by LittleDiva
Posted by Christine2
Posted by Kitten1929
The OP hasn't come back LOL maybe because the majority doesn't agree with her!
Actually, I have been reading these posts, but while some are decent in their reply, others are downright arrogant and self righteous. It is what can make LIF a real turnoff. Especially one that said something like, "Great way to make neighbors, good luck with that!"
I get it -- it is rude to leave the mulch. It was an overestimation on DH's part. I asked, it was 20 yards. It has been a real family effort. We both are hard at it (as well as the kids and in laws). We both work full time and Sunday is the only day to get to it.
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20 yards of mulch left on the street i can totally see why your neighbor was annoyed now! we get 4 yards left in our driveway and its ALOT!
60 FEET of mulch! Yea. Rude. Get it out of the street/sidewalk ASAP.
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
Posted by Christine2
What bothers DH is what if someone helped himself/herself to it? We just moved in and our entire back and front yard needs landscaping. He is sunburnt and sore every Sunday from hard work putting flower beds in place. I know the neighbors see this.
Granted, it is taking a long time, to think it is "funny" to give someone else's things away for free is something I cannot rationalize.
I think there are a few factors playing into this.
You're new to the nabe. As a result, people don't know what your story is, how you're gonna be, how proactive you're going to be about keeping things clean/neat, etc.
Your neighbor, I think, was trying to be somewhat subtle and a huge chicken shit about their dismay with your pile of mulch still in the street after a few weeks. I don't think they really think your mulch is up for grabs, per se. Just that if it's left in the street for a certain amount of time, it's fair game because I'm guessing that's technically the law or something to that effect? The bottom line, is that they should have just come over and talked to you guys. Who know, maybe NOT been a jackass and OFFERED your husband a hand in helping move the mulch to your driveway. Which is where it really belongs.
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
Posted by BunnyWife
Posted by LittleDiva
Posted by Christine2
Posted by Kitten1929
The OP hasn't come back LOL maybe because the majority doesn't agree with her!
Actually, I have been reading these posts, but while some are decent in their reply, others are downright arrogant and self righteous. It is what can make LIF a real turnoff. Especially one that said something like, "Great way to make neighbors, good luck with that!"
I get it -- it is rude to leave the mulch. It was an overestimation on DH's part. I asked, it was 20 yards. It has been a real family effort. We both are hard at it (as well as the kids and in laws). We both work full time and Sunday is the only day to get to it.
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20 yards of mulch left on the street i can totally see why your neighbor was annoyed now! we get 4 yards left in our driveway and its ALOT!
60 FEET of mulch! Yea. Rude. Get it out of the street/sidewalk ASAP.
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DeniseMarie
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
I think it was rude of your neighbor. They should have spoke with you directly. If your intention was not to leave it there forever, then they need to get over it, or offer to help you!
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| Posted 7/22/13 2:30 PM |
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PearlJamChick
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
Posted by Christine2
Posted by Kitten1929
The OP hasn't come back LOL maybe because the majority doesn't agree with her!
Actually, I have been reading these posts, but while some are decent in their reply, others are downright arrogant and self righteous. It is what can make LIF a real turnoff. Especially one that said something like, "Great way to make neighbors, good luck with that!" .
What I said wasn't arrogant and self-righteous.
Leaving twenty yards of stinking, dirty mulch on public property for over a month in the summer heat is arrogant and self-righteous.
So, yep. Good luck with earning friends as neighbors.
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onebighappy
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Rude neighbor or justified?
Oh my gosh, thank you. Where are you located. We have a ford pick up truck, how much do you think we can fit in it? Can you and your husband help us load some up? Wow, I'm new to the area and you seem so nice offering everyone the mulch you won't be using. Is it the good kind thats dyed a color or the cheap stuff?
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ElizaRags35
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
Posted by onebighappy
Oh my gosh, thank you. Where are you located. We have a ford pick up truck, how much do you think we can fit in it? Can you and your husband help us load some up? Wow, I'm new to the area and you seem so nice offering everyone the mulch you won't be using. Is it the good kind thats dyed a color or the cheap stuff?
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| Posted 7/22/13 5:03 PM |
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I think really, the OP is demonstrating a classic case of self-righteousness and not the other way around.
This is a classic example of the attitude that exists with some on this island, that the world needs to revolve around them, and then when either their neighbors get pissed, or someone steals something that shouldn't have been left out in the first place, everyone except them is in the wrong.
Again, just my opinion. 
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| Posted 7/22/13 5:39 PM |
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Mere09
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
Posted by onebighappy
Oh my gosh, thank you. Where are you located. We have a ford pick up truck, how much do you think we can fit in it? Can you and your husband help us load some up? Wow, I'm new to the area and you seem so nice offering everyone the mulch you won't be using. Is it the good kind thats dyed a color or the cheap stuff?
Where did this come from?? LOL
I think it's rude to leave mulch in the street for as long as you have.
BUT...
I think it's extremely rude that they left that sign on your mulch. I hate nothing more than passive aggressiveness so I would have been infuriated.
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| Posted 7/22/13 7:35 PM |
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BeachGal
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
Extremely rude of your neighbor! What if you DH got injured after delivery or has a bad back and can't do it as fast as expected? People are way too uptight. We are super cool neighbors and wouldn't care!
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| Posted 7/22/13 9:47 PM |
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CallaLily
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Re: Rude neighbor or justified?
Your neighbor sounds like a real asshole. Even if they were annoyed, they had no right to put a sign like that up. Sorry you are dealing with this. 
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