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Laurie106
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Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
Hi all-
So my daughter is 20 months old and she's usually a very good baby. I'm also 35 wks pregnant. We switched her room a week 1/2 ago and she went to bed that night w no problem. I es actually shocked because she's never slept anywhere other than her own room some she was a baby.
Since I've changed her room, she's refusing to take any naps. She has also had a minor cold & sticking her fingers in the bk of her mouth. Advil doesn't seem to make any difference, she still won't nap. What concerns me most is that I catch her in the baby monitor hysterical crying, sticking her fingers down her throat. She's forcing herself to gag & throw up. I feel shes doing this for attention. I do not know how to get her back on her schedule and to stop vomitting. I even stopped so low and didn't run in to pick her up, she vomitted twice and the third time was really a lot that I had to get her. She's not sick and no longer has a cold. I don't know what to do and honestly, I need her to nap.. I'm SO exhausted!!!
Has anyone been through this w their toddler & what did u do to resolve it? All advice is appreciated & welcome!
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Re: Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
Can you try putting her back in her old room for a little while? See if she will calm down? And maybe she will eventually want to go to her new room where all her stuff is?
Just thinking out loud...
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| Posted 8/22/13 2:24 PM |
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Laurie106
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Re: Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
Her crib is already moved to the new room. & she sleeps every night just fine in the new room. That's why this is so confusing. I feel like ahe'll never nap again & I'm losing my mind! She is so fresh & cranky without her naps. She seems to love her new room & gets excited to read bed time books & play there. But once the sound machine goes on for a nap, she FLIPS out!!
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| Posted 8/22/13 2:27 PM |
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Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
My Twins are 21 months & also doing the gag thing trying to make themselves throw up. It's not because of the room, they are getting there 2yr old molars & in alot of pain. I am sure the moving of the room is fine if not other issues.
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| Posted 8/22/13 2:28 PM |
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Laurie106
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Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
That's what I was thinking too. Her molars are not even near the surface. I'm a teacher, go bk to work soon, leaving her w a new sitter, & having a new baby. I feel terrible for my little one. I wish she was happier. Do your twins nap? & do u give hylanda or Advil... Anything? Nothing seems to work with my daughter.
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| Posted 8/22/13 2:36 PM |
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Re: Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
could her throat hurt? DS did this when he had coxsackie
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| Posted 8/22/13 3:25 PM |
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Laurie106
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Re: Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
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could her throat hurt? DS did this when he had coxsackie
She doesn't have any cocsackle blisters. She had a fever. But it was low grade. No fever anymore. I assumed the fever was related to the 2 yr molars. Think I should bring her to the dr?
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Ltdentway99
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Re: Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
Please bring her to the dr.
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| Posted 8/22/13 3:57 PM |
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Laurie106
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Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
I give her plenty of compassion, trust me. I am aware she is a baby which is why I'm asking for others advice. She's a baby quickly changing into a toddler. It's important that babies get their rest.. You don't understand because your not watching over us. I've tried everything. Hugs, kisses, CIO, rocking, books, attention. All she does it try to play if I'm in the room with her. Everything that has worked for these two yrs no longer work.
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| Posted 8/22/13 4:18 PM |
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I know it may sound terrible to do, but if she's throwing up for attention you have to try not to give it to her. When she makes herself throw up, go in and change her and the crib while giving her minimal attention (no hugs, no talking, etc). Have everything set up and ready to go to make the change as quick as possible and put her back down. My sister just went through this with her daughter. Good luck. I hope this phase is over soon!!
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Re: Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
I feel so bas for you. I can only imagine how hard this is (I'm 38 wks preggo with a 2 1/2 year old so I feel your pain). I may take her to ped just to ease your OWN mind that its for attention and nothing else - which it sounds like it is. Good luck! Try to hang in there and just keep consistently putting get down for the naps regardless of the fits. Hopefully it will lessen the severity of her tantrums each time.
On a side note can I just say that the previous posters comment to you is why I stay as far away as possible from posting questions or commenting on ANYTHING on this page. There is no need to make a mother feel bad for whatever actions she's taking with her child. I have been meaning to post something like this for a while but this comment really put me over the edge. We are all women, mothers, professionals and most if all ADULTS. Some of the comments I've seen on here are downright embarrassing to me as all of the above. Kindness towards us all - in any situation were in - is what matters more than anything. Please be aware of how words can be hurtful and completely and utterly uncalled for before you type your next snarky comment to make yourself feel better!!!!
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| Posted 8/22/13 11:03 PM |
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Laurie106
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Re: Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
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I feel so bas for you. I can only imagine how hard this is (I'm 38 wks preggo with a 2 1/2 year old so I feel your pain). I may take her to ped just to ease your OWN mind that its for attention and nothing else - which it sounds like it is. Good luck! Try to hang in there and just keep consistently putting get down for the naps regardless of the fits. Hopefully it will lessen the severity of her tantrums each time.
On a side note can I just say that the previous posters comment to you is why I stay as far away as possible from posting questions or commenting on ANYTHING on this page. There is no need to make a mother feel bad for whatever actions she's taking with her child. I have been meaning to post something like this for a while but this comment really put me over the edge. We are all women, mothers, professionals and most if all ADULTS. Some of the comments I've seen on here are downright embarrassing to me as all of the above. Kindness towards us all - in any situation were in - is what matters more than anything. Please be aware of how words can be hurtful and completely and utterly uncalled for before you type your next snarky comment to make yourself feel better!!!!
Thank you so much. After reading her post I thought I was being too sensitive. It bothered me for about 1/2 hr and I wanted to delete my post. You are exactly right, she wrote that just to make herself feel better. She must have read your post because she edited her comment and deleted the belitteling remarks. No one truly understands another's situation unless they are in that room putting that child go bed. Today, I drive my daughter aroun for 3 hrs in the car just so she would get some rest. If anyone is compassionate, it is me. I stopped to the lowest levels when I did that this afternoon. I may bring her to the dr like you suggestedt. I just feel so bad because she appears to just be teething and cranky. She is terrified of the dr and I don't want to torture her more. I might just bring her though just to ease my mind. I'm a teacher & go back to work soon. She will start with a new nanny and I reallllllly need her bk on schedule. I know the nanny will not give her the kind of attention like her own mother.
Good luck with your pregnancy!! You are almost there!!!
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| Posted 8/23/13 12:25 AM |
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Re: Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
I feel your pain!! My DD was doing that gag/throw-up thing starting at 2 years old and occasionally does it when she doesn't get her way (shes almost 3) She especially did it in the car because she thought we were going to the dr. and because of the windshield wipers were on (crazy i know). Also when she didn't want to sleep in ehr room. Because we both worked full-time we both had no choice but to have her sleep with us.
Her Dr. said that this basically is a temper tantrum. Some kids kick and scream and bang their heads and others just throw-up.
It did slow down as she got older while but on occasion it happens. I am now more prepared. I have little buckets lined with a shopping bag so when it happens it goes right in there, even in the car!
Not much you can do unless you bring her back to her old room temporarily maybe? this is her way of communicating wanting her way.
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Re: Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
Posted by seanmeg10092009
I feel so bas for you. I can only imagine how hard this is (I'm 38 wks preggo with a 2 1/2 year old so I feel your pain). I may take her to ped just to ease your OWN mind that its for attention and nothing else - which it sounds like it is. Good luck! Try to hang in there and just keep consistently putting get down for the naps regardless of the fits. Hopefully it will lessen the severity of her tantrums each time.
On a side note can I just say that the previous posters comment to you is why I stay as far away as possible from posting questions or commenting on ANYTHING on this page. There is no need to make a mother feel bad for whatever actions she's taking with her child. I have been meaning to post something like this for a while but this comment really put me over the edge. We are all women, mothers, professionals and most if all ADULTS. Some of the comments I've seen on here are downright embarrassing to me as all of the above. Kindness towards us all - in any situation were in - is what matters more than anything. Please be aware of how words can be hurtful and completely and utterly uncalled for before you type your next snarky comment to make yourself feel better!!!!
100% Agree....I posted about this topic many times and one response I got was a little judgmental. Some people are just unreal. At the end we are all mother's and just look for some support.
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| Posted 8/23/13 9:52 AM |
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Laurie106
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Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
That's exactly how I feel. Thank you!!
I brought my daughter to the dr just to make sure she was ok. He checked her out and said she is fine. He said she is a combination of smart & spoiled... Not a good mix. He told me I should try to let her cry. This is something I've done before but she was little & much easier!! When I got home, I gave it a try. She kept gagging herself on purpose. She cried for 1 hr 10 min and I gave up. I had tO get her. By the time I got her she was SO worked up she was quivering & breathing so erratically. That was simply torture for her. I'm not strong enough to do this. She calmed down and had some milk. Se lasted all day, not even looking tired. Went to bed for the night happy & awake on her own. Is it even possible at 20 months that she is dropping her nap??!! The dr said she is too young but why does she go down so easily at night and terrified at nap time. Also every morning, she's been waking up at 5;40-6 instead of her usual 7am. I am SO confused by this child. Someone tell me what to do.... I'm desperate!!
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| Posted 8/24/13 5:55 AM |
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Im glad its nothing medical. Have you tried to nap her in another room. When DS would go on a nap strike I would set him up with a low key movie and his blankie in the den. I told him it was quiet time. I would sit and read or work quietly in the kitchen (he could see me) but would not interact with him. He would usually be out in 10 min.
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Re: Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
Posted by Laurie106
Posted by MrsW2010
could her throat hurt? DS did this when he had coxsackie
She doesn't have any cocsackle blisters. She had a fever. But it was low grade. No fever anymore. I assumed the fever was related to the 2 yr molars. Think I should bring her to the dr?
OMG DD has been dong this gagging thing for over a month now and she's 17 months. I'm glad she's not the only one. She is also grinding her teeth too. Drives me nuts! Not much advice. Just it will get better
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| Posted 8/24/13 10:17 AM |
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Laurie106
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Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
I WISH she would nap somewhere else!! She won't even nap in the car. I had her on too strict Ida schedule and routine since she was a baby. Now look at what that has caused!! She won't nap anywhere but her own room. But what's with the bedtime sleeping??! She sleeps like an angel! Wtf!
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| Posted 8/24/13 11:13 AM |
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Re: Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
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Posted by MrsW2010
could her throat hurt? DS did this when he had coxsackie
She doesn't have any cocsackle blisters. She had a fever. But it was low grade. No fever anymore. I assumed the fever was related to the 2 yr molars. Think I should bring her to the dr?
OMG DD has been dong this gagging thing for over a month now and she's 17 months. I'm glad she's not the only one. She is also grinding her teeth too. Drives me nuts! Not much advice. Just it will get better
I'm glad I'm not alone!!!
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| Posted 8/24/13 11:14 AM |
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Re: Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
Posted by Laurie106
I WISH she would nap somewhere else!! She won't even nap in the car. I had her on too strict Ida schedule and routine since she was a baby. Now look at what that has caused!! She won't nap anywhere but her own room. But what's with the bedtime sleeping??! She sleeps like an angel! Wtf!
Maybe try making the nap later so she's exhausted. When I took the pacifier away from DD we had napping issues. I pulled her out and she fell asleep in her high chair while I was giving her a snack.
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| Posted 8/24/13 11:26 AM |
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Re: Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
When she doesn't nap, is she going to bed earlier or same time?
My kids all stopped napping regularly when they turned a year. By the age of 2, no matter how hard I tried, they were not napping, unless we did something extremely exhausting.
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| Posted 8/24/13 11:42 AM |
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Laurie106
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Re: Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
Posted by Michelle1123
When she doesn't nap, is she going to bed earlier or same time?
My kids all stopped napping regularly when they turned a year. By the age of 2, no matter how hard I tried, they were not napping, unless we did something extremely exhausting.
Yesterday she didn't nap all day. She started getting cranky and tired an hour before bedtime. She usually goes to bed a 7 and wakes up tired at 6am. I was worried if I put her to bed at 6, she would wake up at 5. What do you think? Think she's not ready to skip a nap?
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| Posted 8/25/13 8:58 AM |
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Re: Pregnant mommy & mommy to toddler... Need advice!!
I also have a 20 month old who skipped her nap a couple of times. I always keep bedtime at the same time no matter how tired she is. I have no advice on the gagging but I would try making her nap later. My lo is up at 6 and goes down for a 2 hour nap at noon and bed at 8. I find six hours awake time between nap and bed works well for us. Good luck and hang in there I hope it's just a stage and passes quickly for you!
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