Had my baby shower today- vent

So today was my baby shower and it was definitely a great day dont get me wrong. We had like 43 ppl come out of like the 50 or so we invited. My mom put a lot of effort into it and she did a great job. Everyone was really generous and thoughtful. What I am annoyed about is people cancelling last min or just now showing up. I guess I was just raised differently but I would never just not show up to an event after rsvping that you are coming. One of my moms cousins just didnt show up. One of my girlfriends just didnt show up. I texted her afterwards and she said she didnt want to upset me so she was going to tell me after the shower was over. Um ok- it would have been nice to know beforehand esp since my mom paid for her. Another friend of mine cancelled like an hr before saying her grandma was in the hospital. Ok that I can understand. Completely except for the fact that I saw on facebook that she was out to brunch with her friends and then a bar. Anyway- all in all it was a nice day and my close friends and family were there. I feel like I am always somewhat disappointed with these type of events in general but I just dont understand how some ppl can be so rude and inconsiderate. And before anyone responds it has absolutely nothing to do with getting gifts. I would honestly rather just have ppl there with me celebrating. I also think it teaches you who your true friends are. Anyway - anyone else have a similar situation happen?

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:( same exact thing happened to me for my bridal shower and wedding. In fact, we had six people not show up at our wedding with no notice or mention afterwards until they were confronted!!

Like you, I just relished in who was there. It def shows who your true friends are.

Glad you had fun otherwise!!!

Had my baby shower today- vent

Unfortunately these things happen. I had two people cancel last minute for my shower but both had illnesses- I totally understand when someone cancels for a legitimate reason and is kind enough to call. I think it shows you who your real friends are- maybe next time you should consider only inviting close friends. Do not let the no shows take away from a great day.

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I had 2 of my aunts cancel last minute bc they got sick. That didn't annoy me at all. I understand and I'd rather them not share their stomach virus with everyone. What annoyed me is I had someone who RSVPed no show up anyways.. and I had someone bring their 16 year old daughter with them- who didn't even say hello or goodbye to me. But at least it evened out and my mom paid for the right amount of people in the end.

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my shower is next week and am already over the people not rsvping such as an aunt and a cousin.

I stuck with family and close friends this time and due to getting screwed from my wedding and bridal shower have learned. Funny how some people even asked why they weren't invited

Maybe I'm bitter but I expect this of people

Had my baby shower today- vent

Unfortunately in these joyous situations you find out who really cares and who is in our lives because they just are. I had an extremely close friend not come to my bridal shower because she went to the Belmont Stakes. When confronted she said "I don't have time for this. I wanted to see my friends." I no longer speak to her.

That friend who ended up going to brunch and then a bar should be confronted. I feel as though if people are important enough to be invited to such special occasions then you should be able to talk to them.

Good luck and try to enjoy the time you have left. Surround yourself with those that love you. When the baby comes, you will need the support and the people to talk to. Let go of the negative, babies can feel that!

Had my baby shower today- vent

Okay so your friend said her grandma was in the hospital and so she couldn't come, but then was really at brunch and then out to a bar?!?! Definitely she needs to be confronted. Who would do such a thing?! I've lost all four of my grandparents and I remember three of them being in the hospital and it was the most horrible time. That's pretty sick to use your poor grandma as an excuse not to go somewhere, only to go somewhere else. She is not a true friend. Ew.

On a side note, I did have two no-shows at my wedding at the GCH in 2010, and also a friend text me an hour before my son's christening in November of 2012, saying she didn't feel good and couldn't come. People are annoying.

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My family is in the catering/party industry and I have to say this happens All. The. Time. Not saying it's okay - it irks me too - but what we've learned to do is give a headcount of 2-3 less people than we are expecting. The hall/restaurant/etc will usually be willing to add someone on but rarely will give you $ back for no-shows. You can even tell them you are expecting ## but there's a possibility one or two more may come. Logisitcally (seating, etc) it's harder to do for a wedding but it is generally fine for a smaller party. That said - aside from the $$ issue, for me it all depends on the person's reason. I had 3 cancellations to my shower but I was happy they had cancelled because they were sick and as an expecting mama I appreciated that respect.