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DaniJude
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
My best friend, and my son's Godfather, is a man.
We used to hang out with my husband, when I was married, all the time. They are still good friends bc me and Ex-DH are amicable. And we would also hang out alone. Then, he would hang out alone sometimes with Ex-DH. Now, my best friend hangs out with my boyfriend and I, same thing.
And yeah, we go out alone all the time - always have, always will.
It's lunch, shopping, and/or dinner - It's not like I am sitting on his face  
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DaniJude
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
OMG so funny too because I just remembered - a few years back my sister and I saw a friend of my brother's that he works with and he was with this woman, they gave each other this HUGE hug and a kiss on the cheek and they were allllllll sorts of happy to see each other. They were laughing, smiling, chatting. I was like wow - she's real pretty and I wonder if his wife knows. My sister was like OMG do you think he has someone on the side?
Yeah it was his first cousin
We felt like such asshats
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by Lola0703
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by PearlJamChick
I have had breakfast, lunch, dinner, drinks, snacks, bags of chips, coffee, fries off of the other person's plate because I asked for a side salad, and yeah, I'll take a piece of gum if it's offered...with friends of both genders and it never led to either of us removing our underwear and touching genitals.
ETA: and so has my husband. Two of his closest friends are women and they've gone out for dinner. No biggie. They're cool people who I love and the fact that they are really good friends to both myself and DH is what's important.
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I agree!!
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NervousNell
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by DaniJude
It's lunch, shopping, and/or dinner - It's not like I am sitting on his face
You just like saying that!!!!
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DaniJude
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by DaniJude
It's lunch, shopping, and/or dinner - It's not like I am sitting on his face
You just like saying that!!!!
It's like my tagline -- like you and shit-ton LOL.
I say it allllllll the time and it pertains to so much!
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
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Umm never
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KwaaksNest
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How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Just my brother from time to time otherwise never for either of us
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by olive98
Posted by Lola0703
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by PearlJamChick
I have had breakfast, lunch, dinner, drinks, snacks, bags of chips, coffee, fries off of the other person's plate because I asked for a side salad, and yeah, I'll take a piece of gum if it's offered...with friends of both genders and it never led to either of us removing our underwear and touching genitals.
ETA: and so has my husband. Two of his closest friends are women and they've gone out for dinner. No biggie. They're cool people who I love and the fact that they are really good friends to both myself and DH is what's important.
Best answer on the thread
I agree!!
It's really
Interesting to see some of the responses. I agre with this post. No problem either way. Never will be a problem either way.
I wonder if the people answering "ummm, no" have any kind of problems. I mean no disrespect. Truly. I just never understood the issue of no trust or being uncomfortable when there is "no reason" to be. (Reasons may include rocky relationship, cheeting in past).
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
I have 3 kids and no babysitter! My husband and I Never get to go out to dinner alone! I would be very angry if he went alone with a female friend!
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Sash
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by olive98
Posted by Lola0703
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by PearlJamChick
I have had breakfast, lunch, dinner, drinks, snacks, bags of chips, coffee, fries off of the other person's plate because I asked for a side salad, and yeah, I'll take a piece of gum if it's offered...with friends of both genders and it never led to either of us removing our underwear and touching genitals.
ETA: and so has my husband. Two of his closest friends are women and they've gone out for dinner. No biggie. They're cool people who I love and the fact that they are really good friends to both myself and DH is what's important.
Best answer on the thread
I agree!!
Drinks, dinner, lunch, happy hour and sometimes with multiples guys and I was the only female.  I don't see it as a big deal.
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by Paramount
Posted by olive98
Posted by Lola0703
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by PearlJamChick
I have had breakfast, lunch, dinner, drinks, snacks, bags of chips, coffee, fries off of the other person's plate because I asked for a side salad, and yeah, I'll take a piece of gum if it's offered...with friends of both genders and it never led to either of us removing our underwear and touching genitals.
ETA: and so has my husband. Two of his closest friends are women and they've gone out for dinner. No biggie. They're cool people who I love and the fact that they are really good friends to both myself and DH is what's important.
Best answer on the thread
I agree!!
It's really
Interesting to see some of the responses. I agre with this post. No problem either way. Never will be a problem either way.
I wonder if the people answering "ummm, no" have any kind of problems. I mean no disrespect. Truly. I just never understood the issue of no trust or being uncomfortable when there is "no reason" to be. (Reasons may include rocky relationship, cheeting in past).
I get what you are saying and the bottom line is if both people in the couple are okay with it and no one feels disrespected then that's great for them! If one of the 2 aren't okay with it for whatever reason the other has to respect that.
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by Paramount
Posted by olive98
Posted by Lola0703
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by PearlJamChick
I have had breakfast, lunch, dinner, drinks, snacks, bags of chips, coffee, fries off of the other person's plate because I asked for a side salad, and yeah, I'll take a piece of gum if it's offered...with friends of both genders and it never led to either of us removing our underwear and touching genitals.
ETA: and so has my husband. Two of his closest friends are women and they've gone out for dinner. No biggie. They're cool people who I love and the fact that they are really good friends to both myself and DH is what's important.
Best answer on the thread
I agree!!
It's really
Interesting to see some of the responses. I agre with this post. No problem either way. Never will be a problem either way.
I wonder if the people answering "ummm, no" have any kind of problems. I mean no disrespect. Truly. I just never understood the issue of no trust or being uncomfortable when there is "no reason" to be. (Reasons may include rocky relationship, cheeting in past).
No marital problems here, I just don't see a reason for DH to spend alone time with another woman or for me to be out with another man. If either one of us has the ability to get out for dinner we'd just rather be with each other!! But all that being said, we also don't have any close friends of the opposite sex like some others do so it's really not even an issue.
People always seem to jump to the "no trust" thing but I really don't think that is always the issue, at least for me. I would just find it weird if DH would rather have a nice dinner with another woman instead of me.............especially now when the ability to get out without kids is so limited. KWIM?
If we both had mutual or childhood friends of the opposite sex I'm sure I'd feel differently because I don't really see that as an issue and obviously being married we'd know each other's friends pretty well. However, if it was dinners with some random woman I really knew nothing about, that would just feel a little strange to me and I wouldn't be cool with that, just doesn't feel necessary as a married man.
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Paramount
Posted by olive98
Posted by Lola0703
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by PearlJamChick
I have had breakfast, lunch, dinner, drinks, snacks, bags of chips, coffee, fries off of the other person's plate because I asked for a side salad, and yeah, I'll take a piece of gum if it's offered...with friends of both genders and it never led to either of us removing our underwear and touching genitals.
ETA: and so has my husband. Two of his closest friends are women and they've gone out for dinner. No biggie. They're cool people who I love and the fact that they are really good friends to both myself and DH is what's important.
Best answer on the thread
I agree!!
It's really
Interesting to see some of the responses. I agre with this post. No problem either way. Never will be a problem either way.
I wonder if the people answering "ummm, no" have any kind of problems. I mean no disrespect. Truly. I just never understood the issue of no trust or being uncomfortable when there is "no reason" to be. (Reasons may include rocky relationship, cheeting in past).
No marital problems here, I just don't see a reason for DH to spend alone time with another woman or for me to be out with another man. If either one of us has the ability to get out for dinner we'd just rather be with each other!! But all that being said, we also don't have any close friends of the opposite sex like some others do so it's really not even an issue.
People always seem to jump to the "no trust" thing but I really don't think that is always the issue, at least for me. I would just find it weird if DH would rather have a nice dinner with another woman instead of me.............especially now when the ability to get out without kids is so limited. KWIM?
If we both had mutual or childhood friends of the opposite sex I'm sure I'd feel differently because I don't really see that as an issue and obviously being married we'd know each other's friends pretty well. However, if it was dinners with some random woman I really knew nothing about, that would just feel a little strange to me and I wouldn't be cool with that, just doesn't feel necessary as a married man.
ITA. I trust my dh and he has gone to a concert with a coworker of mine but we don't really go out with our opposite sex friends alone. I guess because we always just go as couples and never found the need.
I have read some of these posts and if it looks like a duck, swims like a duck and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck.
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Paramount
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Paramount
Posted by olive98
Posted by Lola0703
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by PearlJamChick
I have had breakfast, lunch, dinner, drinks, snacks, bags of chips, coffee, fries off of the other person's plate because I asked for a side salad, and yeah, I'll take a piece of gum if it's offered...with friends of both genders and it never led to either of us removing our underwear and touching genitals.
ETA: and so has my husband. Two of his closest friends are women and they've gone out for dinner. No biggie. They're cool people who I love and the fact that they are really good friends to both myself and DH is what's important.
Best answer on the thread
I agree!!
It's really
Interesting to see some of the responses. I agre with this post. No problem either way. Never will be a problem either way.
I wonder if the people answering "ummm, no" have any kind of problems. I mean no disrespect. Truly. I just never understood the issue of no trust or being uncomfortable when there is "no reason" to be. (Reasons may include rocky relationship, cheeting in past).
No marital problems here, I just don't see a reason for DH to spend alone time with another woman or for me to be out with another man. If either one of us has the ability to get out for dinner we'd just rather be with each other!! But all that being said, we also don't have any close friends of the opposite sex like some others do so it's really not even an issue.
People always seem to jump to the "no trust" thing but I really don't think that is always the issue, at least for me. I would just find it weird if DH would rather have a nice dinner with another woman instead of me.............especially now when the ability to get out without kids is so limited. KWIM?
If we both had mutual or childhood friends of the opposite sex I'm sure I'd feel differently because I don't really see that as an issue and obviously being married we'd know each other's friends pretty well. However, if it was dinners with some random woman I really knew nothing about, that would just feel a little strange to me and I wouldn't be cool with that, just doesn't feel necessary as a married man.
ITA. I trust my dh and he has gone to a concert with a coworker of mine but we don't really go out with our opposite sex friends alone. I guess because we always just go as couples and never found the need.
I have read some of these posts and if it looks like a duck, swims like a duck and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck.
Absolutely fair. That's why I said "with respect". Everyone is different. Every relationship is different. I guess because a lot does not bother me I wonder why it DOES bother others. And I realize now how unfair thAt statement is.
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StaceyWill
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How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
I don't want to keep quoting, but I have the same thinking as Hofstra26. When DH or I get an opportunity to go out to dinner, why would we want to go with anyone but eachother? I trust him, he trusts me. That's not the issue at all. My DH works security and there are always women around him. After work, he'll have a drink with the people he works with. I don't care about that - I'm home sleeping. But, the OP asked about having dinner with someone of the opposite sex and that's just something we don't do.
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by Paramount
Posted by afternoondelight828
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Paramount
Posted by olive98
Posted by Lola0703
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by PearlJamChick
I have had breakfast, lunch, dinner, drinks, snacks, bags of chips, coffee, fries off of the other person's plate because I asked for a side salad, and yeah, I'll take a piece of gum if it's offered...with friends of both genders and it never led to either of us removing our underwear and touching genitals.
ETA: and so has my husband. Two of his closest friends are women and they've gone out for dinner. No biggie. They're cool people who I love and the fact that they are really good friends to both myself and DH is what's important.
Best answer on the thread
I agree!!
It's really
Interesting to see some of the responses. I agre with this post. No problem either way. Never will be a problem either way.
I wonder if the people answering "ummm, no" have any kind of problems. I mean no disrespect. Truly. I just never understood the issue of no trust or being uncomfortable when there is "no reason" to be. (Reasons may include rocky relationship, cheeting in past).
No marital problems here, I just don't see a reason for DH to spend alone time with another woman or for me to be out with another man. If either one of us has the ability to get out for dinner we'd just rather be with each other!! But all that being said, we also don't have any close friends of the opposite sex like some others do so it's really not even an issue.
People always seem to jump to the "no trust" thing but I really don't think that is always the issue, at least for me. I would just find it weird if DH would rather have a nice dinner with another woman instead of me.............especially now when the ability to get out without kids is so limited. KWIM?
If we both had mutual or childhood friends of the opposite sex I'm sure I'd feel differently because I don't really see that as an issue and obviously being married we'd know each other's friends pretty well. However, if it was dinners with some random woman I really knew nothing about, that would just feel a little strange to me and I wouldn't be cool with that, just doesn't feel necessary as a married man.
ITA. I trust my dh and he has gone to a concert with a coworker of mine but we don't really go out with our opposite sex friends alone. I guess because we always just go as couples and never found the need.
I have read some of these posts and if it looks like a duck, swims like a duck and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck.
Absolutely fair. That's why I said "with respect". Everyone is different. Every relationship is different. I guess because a lot does not bother me I wonder why it DOES bother others. And I realize now how unfair thAt statement is.
I get that and everyone's relationship is different with the opposite sex so it is unfair to see I would never do it nor would my dh. It just has not come up in our relationship, TO do it. We either go out together, with kid/kids, couples, friends, family, coworkers. Just not with the opposite sex alone.
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ChristinaM128
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Never. Lunch with a colleague on very few occasions.
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by afternoondelight828
I have read some of these posts and if it looks like a duck, swims like a duck and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck.
Can you explain that? I'm more like you - we don't do that in our partnership. but this part confused me.
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Dani
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
i have a ton of male friends and my dh has a ton of female friends. we have a great, trusting supportive relationship. but neither of us is going out to dinner with the opposite sex alone. for what?
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by EatingMyVeggies
Posted by afternoondelight828
I have read some of these posts and if it looks like a duck, swims like a duck and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck.
Can you explain that? I'm more like you - we don't do that in our partnership. but this part confused me.
Regarding the people who posted that they have seen others out with the opposite gender and thought it was fishy.
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Sash
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by Dani
i have a ton of male friends and my dh has a ton of female friends. we have a great, trusting supportive relationship. but neither of us is going out to dinner with the opposite sex alone. for what?
For what? Just to answer that question - to me one of my male friends asking me for a drink/dinner/lunch is the same as a female friend asking me. But maybe its because I always had better friendships with males than females. So personally I can't distinguish the difference between my DH or myself going out with some of the same sex vs. opposite. It's just the way we are.
And I understand the babysitter point because I live it, but I feel guilty sometimes regardless if it's with my girlfriend or guy friend. If DH and I haven't had a date night in awhile. I will always ask are you sure you're fine with me going out!
I think it's one of those things that just work differently for different people/relationships. I don't think it automatically means you don't have a trusting relationship.
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
A lot. Almost all of my friends are guys, my BFF is a guy. I got out with them frequently (sometimes Im the only girl in a group of 5 or so guys). I also go out to lunch with male coworkers alone all the time. There is NOTHING going on with any of us. There never will be. THey are like brothers to me, childhood friends.
As for not spending "free time" with DH....if Im out to dinner with someone else we DONT have free time. We dont have a sitter, only ONE of us can go. If we have a night off, no kids, babysitter, then OF COURSE we are going out together. But in the cases where I go out with my guy friends, its NOT a free night, **I'M** free bc DH is home with the kids.
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
never
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Juliet
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
DH goes to the gym and lunch with a coworker, she's 10 years older and like a bug sister to him. We actually use her daughter as a babysitter. I have no problem at all with it.
I don't have any male friends around here but when one of my best guy friends is in town, we go out alone, hold hands, hug and kiss on the cheek and goof off. But before you all raise eyebrows, he's gay! And his husband loves me and is cool with it, too.
Friends of the opposite sex are no biggie to me. And it's dinner, not a week long vacation! !
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Re: How often do you or your spouse go out to dinner with opposite sex alone?
Posted by 2BadSoSad
A lot. Almost all of my friends are guys, my BFF is a guy. I got out with them frequently (sometimes Im the only girl in a group of 5 or so guys). I also go out to lunch with male coworkers alone all the time. There is NOTHING going on with any of us. There never will be. THey are like brothers to me, childhood friends.
ds.
How do you know none of those guys doesn't have a thing for you given the opportunity? If they are not gay and you get along great etc all you need is a little attraction and.....
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