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Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out
In December I became pregnant with baby 4. At my first appointment there was no sac. I had a blighted ovum. I had a D&C shortly after. Fast forward to May, I became pregnant again. I was so sick right up until August. I had 3 appointment ,all times things were great. I went this morning for a scheduled appointment. The Dr couldn't find the heartbeat on the doppler. I was nervous but she said sometimes this happens. So they had me wait 4t mins for the sonogram tech. I went into her room, and she showed me my baby. I knew instantly. There was no heart beat. No movement. My beautiful baby is gone at 17 weeks. I am devestated. I was alone, as it was a normal appointment. This has been the worst day of my life. I though December was bad, but this time there was an actual baby on the screen. I am scheduled for a D&C on wed. I don't know what to do, do I name this baby? I feel like a part of me has died.
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ANewDayHasCome
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Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out
I'm so sorry. There are no words. As far as naming, if it were me I think I would give them a name to honor them.
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| Posted 9/11/17 3:58 PM |
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Thank you.
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| Posted 9/11/17 4:05 PM |
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RainyDay
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I am so sorry for your loss. I agree....I would name the baby.
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| Posted 9/11/17 4:16 PM |
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lightblue
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out
I am so sorry  and yes I would probably name the baby to remember them. But its your personal decision. 
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| Posted 9/11/17 4:16 PM |
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StaceyWill
It's a girl!!!
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I am so, so sorry. It is the absolute worst thing to happen to a woman.
As for a name - it's such a personal decision...Do what you feel.
SO many hugs to you and your family
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| Posted 9/11/17 4:19 PM |
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Momma2015
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out
I have no advice to give, but I'm so sorry for your loss.
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| Posted 9/11/17 4:30 PM |
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IUIGirl
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out
Oh my goodness, life is so cruel. I am so very sorry for your loss, just awful! 
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| Posted 9/11/17 6:21 PM |
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MrsT809
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Like some others said, it's a very personal choice. I know mother's who named the baby and others who didn't even want to know the gender.
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| Posted 9/11/17 6:25 PM |
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luckyduck
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out
I'm so terribly sorry. It must be truly heartbreaking. I think if I were in your shoes I would probably name the baby but it's a personal decision. No right or wrong answer. I'm so sorry.
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| Posted 9/11/17 6:26 PM |
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Laraaidan
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out
Oh no im so sorry.
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| Posted 9/11/17 6:37 PM |
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loveus
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I'm sorry.
They should test the baby and therefore you will find out the sex. I personally would give the baby a name and it would help mourn your child.
I'm so sorry.
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| Posted 9/11/17 7:28 PM |
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Michi
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I am so terribly sorry. There are no good words, it is so unfair.
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| Posted 9/11/17 8:24 PM |
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I am so sorry. I have been there and know some of your pain. I cannot imagine being alone. You need to do what is best for you. I just recently put up something in my home that just reminds me of her. It's a rainbow heart. I am just sharing that part because it had 15 months before I could even just look at something without tearing up thinking about her. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
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edfilippi
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I'm so sorry. I think I would name the baby even if it was something I kept to myself.
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| Posted 9/11/17 9:31 PM |
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Jenn79
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I'm so sorry for what you are going through! As for naming I would. My cousin lost her baby around the same time. She had a plaque made up with the name and it's at the national shrine of divine mercy as a memorial.
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| Posted 9/11/17 9:33 PM |
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MrsMango
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I am so so sorry for your loss. I cant imagine the hurt in your heart.
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| Posted 9/12/17 8:27 AM |
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summerBaby10
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I am so sorry for you loss
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Dolphinsbaby
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I am so sorry. I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks (before I had my twins) and it devastated me. I still cry when I think about my 4th baby (I have 3 now-that baby would have been my first).
I probably would name the baby if I were you, but of course do what you feel. There is no right or wrong. There are no words. So truly unfair. Sending you many prayers and hugs.
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I am so so very sorry for your loss. As far as the name goes, there is no right or wrong answer. Do what you feel is best in your heart.
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| Posted 9/12/17 11:32 AM |
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MayBbaby21
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I'm so sorry. Totally heartbreaking.
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| Posted 9/12/17 11:56 AM |
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Hope2beamom
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out
I am so sorry.
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| Posted 9/12/17 12:11 PM |
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BabyBearA
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Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out
I'm so sorry! I know the pain all too well and it's absolutely heartbreaking! Terrible!
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| Posted 9/12/17 9:07 PM |
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MrsB612
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MrsS2005
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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