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Joann
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Working moms whose babies don't STTN
I have a question for those moms who went back to work while their babies were still waking up for night feeds (especially if breastfeeding). How did you do it? Did you just get used to waking up and going back to sleep? Or do you just get used to being tired all the time at work?
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NervousNell
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Re: Working moms whose babies don't STTN
I went back when DD was 8 weeks and she was up every hour. She had horrible colic. And to top it off, DH worked overnight 5 nights a week- so I was alone 5 nights a week with no relief or help.
To be honest, you get used to it. I was tired, I drank more coffee then I ever did in the past, but eventually you just get used to it and it doesn't seem that bad after a few weeks.
If I had to go back and do it now, now that I have been sleeping like a normal person for all these years, it would be rough, but at the time, it just became the "new normal"
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| Posted 10/17/17 12:22 PM |
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pinkiegirl
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Re: Working moms whose babies don't STTN
Posted by NervousNell
I went back when DD was 8 weeks and she was up every hour. She had horrible colic. And to top it off, DH worked overnight 5 nights a week- so I was alone 5 nights a week with no relief or help.
To be honest, you get used to it. I was tired, I drank more coffee then I ever did in the past, but eventually you just get used to it and it doesn't seem that bad after a few weeks.
If I had to go back and do it now, now that I have been sleeping like a normal person for all these years, it would be rough, but at the time, it just became the "new normal"
All of this!
My daughter was over a year old before she FINALLY started sleeping consistently through the night. I was by myself because my husband was working overnights. I went back to work when my DD was 12 weeks and I also had a 6 year old. Commuting to NYC every day..getting two kids out the door by 715... I cant even tell you how tired I was... falling asleep on the train, etc was just awful
You just get used to it. But I can also tell you it does get better!!!! Hang in there!
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| Posted 10/17/17 2:28 PM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Working moms whose babies don't STTN
I went back to work when DD was 3.5 mo. She didn't sttn until 6+ mo when we did CIO (Best. Thing. Ever.).
It was hard and I felt like a zombie some days. What was worse is that I started a new job in there, so I was proving myself while still being sleep deprived. You just take it a day at a time. All babies sleep better one day!
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| Posted 10/17/17 2:47 PM |
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janjanjan2
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Re: Working moms whose babies don't STTN
side feeding! it is the only way I could survive. so I was able to sleep while feeding her.
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| Posted 10/17/17 3:05 PM |
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babyvibes
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Re: Working moms whose babies don't STTN
I went back when DD was 13 weeks. She didn't STTN until 22 months  . I was BFing so DH never got up with her, it was all me. I had to save pumped milk for when I was at work and couldn't afford to use it overnight. It was HARD. I was essentially a zombie for 2 years.
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| Posted 10/17/17 7:15 PM |
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PitterPatter11
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Re: Working moms whose babies don't STTN
Posted by babyvibes
I went back when DD was 13 weeks. She didn't STTN until 22 months . I was BFing so DH never got up with her, it was all me. I had to save pumped milk for when I was at work and couldn't afford to use it overnight. It was HARD. I was essentially a zombie for 2 years.
Literally my life. I was a nursing Zombie until my son turned 22 months. I never got used to it. Nights were rough in our house. My son would be crying and I'd be crying. My husband would wake up and try to help on rough nights but my son wanted no part of him. It was a disaster honestly and part of the reason I currently only have one. lol
There were many nights I'd be getting 3-4 hours of interrupted sleep total. It was rough.
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| Posted 10/17/17 7:58 PM |
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Bebelove
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Re: Working moms whose babies don't STTN
Our son is 18 months now and wakes up multiple times per night. He is a terrible sleeper! I'm always tired , my husband is exhausted. Some nights I move to the couch when I really need sleep. I can't believe he still wakes up so much, I guess we have to sleep train one day.
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| Posted 10/17/17 9:20 PM |
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ali120206
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Working moms whose babies don't STTN
I started writing yesterday.
DS 1 was STTN when I went back to work when he was 11 weeks.
The first day of daycare, he caught a horrible stomach bug and didn't STTN again until about 2.5.
I managed. Napped while I could. If DH didn't have to work, he did the night shift, we coslept, slept in our recliner, etc.
I do have to say - it probably had an impact on my professional growth but, we got through.
We didn't go out much either - because when we did, he seemed to be up even more.
DS 2 didn't STTN until he was around 1 - but, he only woke up in short increments so it was more bearable (and we were still up for a good chunk of it with DS 1 anyway lol).
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| Posted 10/18/17 8:01 AM |
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alli3131
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Working moms whose babies don't STTN
I just worked through it. It does get easier but I will say my done if 5 and I still hear everything so I’m not sure I will ever sleep through the night again.
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| Posted 10/18/17 8:02 AM |
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Working moms whose babies don't STTN
My twins did when I first went back. They did great and I felt so rested until they were 6 months. We moved them to the crib and stopped swaddling and our sleep has been hell for the last 3 months. I charge about $500 a month at Starbucks....
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| Posted 10/18/17 8:31 AM |
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CSK
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Re: Working moms whose babies don't STTN
Posted by ali120206
I started writing yesterday.
DS 1 was STTN when I went back to work when he was 11 weeks.
The first day of daycare, he caught a horrible stomach bug and didn't STTN again until about 2.5.
I managed. Napped while I could. If DH didn't have to work, he did the night shift, we coslept, slept in our recliner, etc.
I do have to say - it probably had an impact on my professional growth but, we got through.
We didn't go out much either - because when we did, he seemed to be up even more.
DS 2 didn't STTN until he was around 1 - but, he only woke up in short increments so it was more bearable (and we were still up for a good chunk of it with DS 1 anyway lol).
My son slept through the night at 13 months. Before that he was up frequently, and sometimes during the week would be up for hours crying, with us in the room. I helped my wife a lot when it wasn't just feeding, we cut out the feedings in the middle of the night at some point.
It was crazy when you get him in bed, get everything reset for the day, as soon as you go to bed at 11ish hes up and won't go back down until 2, then up again sometimes.
We were so tired. sooo tired.
It definitely hurt my professional development. My boss basically said you need to focus and get work done, you're not doing that now, He took a large project away from me and gave me some other responsibilities. He was right, but it doesn't make you feel good. I ended up spending the next few months working late most nights, skipping dinner in order to make up for the lost time and lack of focus in order ot make sure I kept my job.
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| Posted 10/18/17 9:25 AM |
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babyvibes
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Re: Working moms whose babies don't STTN
Posted by PitterPatter11
Posted by babyvibes
I went back when DD was 13 weeks. She didn't STTN until 22 months . I was BFing so DH never got up with her, it was all me. I had to save pumped milk for when I was at work and couldn't afford to use it overnight. It was HARD. I was essentially a zombie for 2 years.
Literally my life. I was a nursing Zombie until my son turned 22 months. I never got used to it. Nights were rough in our house. My son would be crying and I'd be crying. My husband would wake up and try to help on rough nights but my son wanted no part of him. It was a disaster honestly and part of the reason I currently only have one. lol
There were many nights I'd be getting 3-4 hours of interrupted sleep total. It was rough.
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drpepper318
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Re: Working moms whose babies don't STTN
It seemed that my kids woke up more often during the night once I went back to work. 
Just had to get used to being exhausted all the time.
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| Posted 10/18/17 11:20 PM |
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Momma2015
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Re: Working moms whose babies don't STTN
DD slept through the night when I first went back, but she regressed for about 2 months from like 6-8 months. I just got used to waking up. I was in bed super early every night, but I also woke up to pump every night at 1:00 AM for almost a year. Your body can adjust to anything, it's crazy. Just know it's temporary and try to hang in there.
ETA: There were some nights when I just couldn't do it, or it was so close to the time I'd wake up, that I would just put her in bed with me and lay on my side and we'd both fall asleep while I nursed. I know co-sleeping isn't for everyone, but when I needed it, it worked for us.
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| Posted 10/19/17 8:48 AM |
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MrsS2005
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Re: Working moms whose babies don't STTN
DS1 STTN at 7 months. I went back to work when he was 3.5 months and he was still waking at least twice per night and taking 45-60 minutes to nurse. I'm not a coffee drinker. I got used to it, but was also tired. He slept in our arms for the first 6 months. We tried to get him into the crib before I went back to work, but it failed miserably and he was waking up every 10-20 minutes. DH would take him for the first long stretch of the night so I could get some uninterrupted sleep, but then I took over when he was ready for bed.
DS2 STTN at 10 weeks, which was so nice to be rested when I went back to work.
DD needs to be held at night and I have a feeling we'll go down a similar path as we did with DS1. I'm kind of used to the light, broken sleep, but I hope things get better before I go back to work.
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