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Jax430
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Thanks for your input and listening to my vent!
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Bxgell2
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
TOTALLY inappropriate. Totally. I would NEVER allow my child to go to a neighbor's party. NEVER! Not just because it's rude, but there are safety implications as well! You aren't talking about a mature 10 year old child, you're talking about a 5 year old!
I'm wondering if it was a mistake and that's why Mom came in and escorted him out without saying anything? Maybe he wasn't supposed to be there and she was embarassed? Definitely NOT an excuse though...
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Stefanie
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
That is so STRANGE! I would never send my child over to someone's home unsupervised like that. I cannot believe that they wouldn't come over as well. They have some nerve expecting you to watch their child.
Very weird...
I probably would have escorted him home.
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Briannasmommy
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
i would never leave my child any were. Unless i was there. If i was invited i would come too and hangout not leave my child there unatted.
What if something happened.
I hate when pp do that with there children just think that someone else can watch there kid for them.
Sorry u had to go though that
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headoverheels
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
Posted by Bxgell2
I'm wondering if it was a mistake and that's why Mom came in and escorted him out without saying anything? Maybe he wasn't supposed to be there and she was embarassed? Definitely NOT an excuse though...
i was wondering this too... but HOW do you not realize your child is missing for an extended period of time and not bother to go next door to look for him? SO strange and inappropriate!!
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LightUpOurLife
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
I don't think you are wrong in the least. They have nerve sending the kid over unsupervised. You were hosting the party, not providing babysitting services. I would have told the kid to go home.
Sort of related.... I've made it a point lately at parties to say to my siblings that just because my older nieces are 15, doesn't mean they are there to provide daycare (me either). They are constantly asking the older ones to watch the younger ones. They're your kids, you watch them. Otherwise pay up. Why should the older ones not enjoy themselves and have to run after someone elses child?
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Bxgell2
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by Bxgell2
I'm wondering if it was a mistake and that's why Mom came in and escorted him out without saying anything? Maybe he wasn't supposed to be there and she was embarassed? Definitely NOT an excuse though...
i was wondering this too... but HOW do you not realize your child is missing for an extended period of time and not bother to go next door to look for him? SO strange and inappropriate!!
EXACTLY what I'm thinking, even if it was a mistake and he wasn't supposed to be there, a parent of a 5 year old should know at all times where their child is. It's just bizarre...
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Jax430
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
Posted by Bxgell2
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by Bxgell2
I'm wondering if it was a mistake and that's why Mom came in and escorted him out without saying anything? Maybe he wasn't supposed to be there and she was embarassed? Definitely NOT an excuse though...
i was wondering this too... but HOW do you not realize your child is missing for an extended period of time and not bother to go next door to look for him? SO strange and inappropriate!!
EXACTLY what I'm thinking, even if it was a mistake and he wasn't supposed to be there, a parent of a 5 year old should know at all times where their child is. It's just bizarre...
Knowing what I know about them, I think they had told him it was okay to come over and play with my nephews.
I am going to call my friend who works with her later and get some feedback on what she thinks happened.
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JP826
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
Wow.. How RUDE!!! Did these people think you wouldn't notice him? Thats unbelievable. God forbid something happened to that child- the parents would have held you guys responsible.
Who in their right mind does these things?
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LaurenExp
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
I have stepkids, not a natural child, but I would NEVER let either of my stepsons at that age go over to someone's house unsupervised. And I think it especially rude that she came, picked up the kid and left. She could have come out and said "thank you" or something to you. If the kid is 5 he needs supervision. If my 15 year old stepson goes to a friend's house, I'm fine with it. Or when my 11 year old stepson was young and he was INVITED for a playdate, I would let him go unsupervised. But I would NEVER let my kid go to someone's house who was having a PARTY alone. Did they expect you to watch the kid for them?
Ridiculous. You better draw the line quick...this kid will be at your house every day!
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1stimemom
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
Tottaly wrong on their part. How can they go all day not knowing if their 5 yr old is ok? Let alone if it was ok with you to have him there. I would say something to the parents today, nicely.
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Bxgell2
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
Posted by Jax430
Posted by Bxgell2
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by Bxgell2
I'm wondering if it was a mistake and that's why Mom came in and escorted him out without saying anything? Maybe he wasn't supposed to be there and she was embarassed? Definitely NOT an excuse though...
i was wondering this too... but HOW do you not realize your child is missing for an extended period of time and not bother to go next door to look for him? SO strange and inappropriate!!
EXACTLY what I'm thinking, even if it was a mistake and he wasn't supposed to be there, a parent of a 5 year old should know at all times where their child is. It's just bizarre...
Knowing what I know about them, I think they had told him it was okay to come over and play with my nephews.
I am going to call my friend who works with her later and get some feedback on what she thinks happened.
That's a total disgrace, and really, REALLY disturbing. No offense to you, but you were having a party with a bunch of adult strangers, and she thought it was ok to send her 5 year old over, unsupervised, with a bunch of strangers other than the hostess?
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june262004
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
We are having a similar story day. 
I just can't imagine a mother not caring but I guess it happens. When we first moved in we had a huge July 4th party. im doing things and all of a sudden I notice this neighborhood kid in my backyard I know him but NOT his mom or dad. Never even saw what they look like 
I asked John if his mom knew where he was (thinking this would be a great way to send this kid home ) and he says "yeah" Kid eats 3 hot dogs and a burger helps himself to ketchup and salads. Later on we had birthday cake for my FIL he blows out my FIL candles
Since I didn't know his mom I just let it go. I just kept thinking how does this mom know what kind of people are at my party?
Being you know her, I would probably say something next time you see her. "You knew Johnny was over right? I asked and he said you did"
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Goobster
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
I would be fuming! But I am confused. Did they really send him or did he come over on his own and they didn't realize somehow?
Either way, I would have felt the same as you and this child did NOT belong at your party. I would actually say something to the parents about how it was an "adult" party and you were in no position to be entertaining their child. I think your foot needs to be put down now...that was very rude!
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
Mayeb he told his mom that he was going to play with your nephews and she just assumed it was OK? Were they invited? Maybe she was upset she wasn't? Maybe she thought it was fine (I don't think it is btw) and then she heard you venting about her and that's why she didn't say anything to you when she came in?
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BunnyWife
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
So strange. You should probably have a talk with that childs' mother and ask her why she thought it would be OK to send her kid over unsupervised?
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
I would probably not have a problem with him being there while your nephews were there. However, like you said, I would've walked him home after they left.
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BaroqueMama
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
Holy crap, what the hell? Obviously he was there for a few hours, so I'm not buying the idea that she was embarrassed. I would NEVER IN A MILLION YEARS do this! I do not let my child out of my sight when at someone else's house for fear that she might so much as look at something or someone the wrong way. The next time he shows up at your house, march his little azz back home. What nerve these people have!
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
a 5 year old? NEVER. It's such a tough call, knowing me, I would have just said to Johnny, come back only if your mom or dad is with you.
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nrthshgrl
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
Posted by Bxgell2
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by Bxgell2
I'm wondering if it was a mistake and that's why Mom came in and escorted him out without saying anything? Maybe he wasn't supposed to be there and she was embarassed? Definitely NOT an excuse though...
i was wondering this too... but HOW do you not realize your child is missing for an extended period of time and not bother to go next door to look for him? SO strange and inappropriate!!
EXACTLY what I'm thinking, even if it was a mistake and he wasn't supposed to be there, a parent of a 5 year old should know at all times where their child is. It's just bizarre...
I was thinking the same thing, but I would have had to apologize to the hostess. We're talking hours though. I would be frantic.
I wouldn't want my kid at an adult party - even if there were nephews to play with & the hostess said it was ok. I would need to check in every so often to make sure he/she is behaving & I can't do that in someone else's house at their party that I wasn't invited to.
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Re: A question for parents and non-parents - and a VENT!
Since she did not appear shocked then she very well knew where he was. She had to know where he was. You don't let your 5 year old get out of sight for hours and not know about it. She sent her little crasher to a party that was not her to send him to.
He or she was not invited. While your kid might with the neighboors' kids once in a while, it's NOT OK to send them there if they have party with kids.
So many things wrong here!
- allowing their child to go to someone's party (go inside their house and play the video game like they are at their house) without even asking you. That's some serious balls! You are not there to entertain her kid.
- And if she did not know where her kid was..... she needs to be talked to by child services!
I would have a talk with her. Otherwise, the kid is going to be at every party you have. Come on!
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