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sami
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CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
Help me with this I find myself blaming the shooters mother I have been calling her every name in the book..I just can't stop blaming her..please no drama this is just so upsetting to me..
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sometimesmommy
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
Dont feel bad. You're entitled. I blamed her too. She failed her son.
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| Posted 12/18/12 12:14 PM |
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LadyBug1209
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
I feel the same way...
If your son was that mentally ill and unstable, why on earth would you have SEVERAL guns within his reach? That is just a recipe for disaster.
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| Posted 12/18/12 12:16 PM |
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nraboni
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
Please read this I am Adam Lanza's Mother
Mental Illness is a taboo subject, especially in higher income families. I cannot speak for his mother nor am I defending her in any way but maybe she didn't know what to do or how to handle it. Maybe the "taboo" of it had her in denial.
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| Posted 12/18/12 12:17 PM |
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ali120206
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
Posted by LadyBug1209
I feel the same way...
If your son was that mentally ill and unstable, why on earth would you have SEVERAL guns within his reach? That is just a recipe for disaster.
This is how I feel as well.
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| Posted 12/18/12 12:17 PM |
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
I can understand your feelings. You want someone to look to to take the blame for this horrible, deplorable situation. It is emotionally completely reasonable to look for someone or something to assign blame to so that you can reason it out in your brain, so it can't or doesn't happen again. I think the failure lies in the hands of the gunman. He was the one who decided to do these unspeakable horrific acts. His mother might have ignored signs, but what mother wants to think their child would ever be capable of doing something so incredibly horrific? To me the blame can be assigned to many things, but I am focusing on how to change the laws to prevent this from happening again. It is the only way I can cope with my feelings of immense sadness. My children mean the world to me and I want to do everything in my power to protect them.
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| Posted 12/18/12 12:19 PM |
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Karen
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
Posted by LadyBug1209
I feel the same way...
If your son was that mentally ill and unstable, why on earth would you have SEVERAL guns within his reach? That is just a recipe for disaster.
Bingo!
I have zero sympathy for this woman and have no qualms placing blame on her.
Even if she wanted to deny any issues to the outside world, how she could keep such powerful weapons unsecured in a house with a mentally ill child is beyond me.
ETA: Numerous people have cited that she knew Adam had issues, so this is not simply a case of her denying her son had issues.
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dianadrw
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
Posted by nraboni
Please read this I am Adam Lanza's Mother
Mental Illness is a taboo subject, especially in higher income families. I cannot speak for his mother nor am I defending her in any way but maybe she didn't know what to do or how to handle it. Maybe the "taboo" of it had her in denial.
I read this yesterday after someone posted a link to it on my FB. It is very eye opening and made me think about things a little differently. However, if you know your son has issues I think it's highly irresponsible to keep such dangerous weapons within his reach.
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Pumpkin1
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
While I think it was irresponsible for her to have all those guns in any scenario, I wholeheartedly believe that this was a random occurrence and she never in her wildest dreams thought her son was capable of this.
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| Posted 12/18/12 12:23 PM |
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nraboni
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
Posted by dianadrw
Posted by nraboni
Please read this I am Adam Lanza's Mother
Mental Illness is a taboo subject, especially in higher income families. I cannot speak for his mother nor am I defending her in any way but maybe she didn't know what to do or how to handle it. Maybe the "taboo" of it had her in denial.
I read this yesterday after someone posted a link to it on my FB. It is very eye opening and made me think about things a little differently. However, if you know your son has issues I think it's highly irresponsible to keep such dangerous weapons within his reach.
I completely agree with you.
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| Posted 12/18/12 12:24 PM |
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
I find myself looking to blame her too but I realize that I don't know what went on in her home. We will probably never know what went on with her and her son. The bottom line is that she's a victim too, and so I'm making the choice not to blame the victim, and to respect the dead.
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| Posted 12/18/12 12:24 PM |
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Lara&Aidansmommy
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
You're not alone ...I blame her too
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ElizaRags35
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
Posted by nraboni
Please read this I am Adam Lanza's Mother
Mental Illness is a taboo subject, especially in higher income families. I cannot speak for his mother nor am I defending her in any way but maybe she didn't know what to do or how to handle it. Maybe the "taboo" of it had her in denial.
Article from People
It seems like people knew what was going on so I don't think it was taboo to them. This is clearly speculation on my part but I think he got angry that morning or the night before or whenever, knew where his mother kept the guns that supposedly she needed for self-defense (why so many, I don't know.) and then went off on a rampage. He knew where they were, how to use them, etc.
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Mrs-D-Girl
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
I blame her for is having guns in the house that were not locked in a safe where he could get to them! Even more so knowing that he was mentally Ill.
You want to have guns, you enjoy them, want to protect yourself and your home, etc.. that is your business.....but be responsible and have them locked away!
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| Posted 12/18/12 12:30 PM |
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nraboni
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by nraboni
Please read this I am Adam Lanza's Mother
Mental Illness is a taboo subject, especially in higher income families. I cannot speak for his mother nor am I defending her in any way but maybe she didn't know what to do or how to handle it. Maybe the "taboo" of it had her in denial.
Article from People
It seems like people knew what was going on so I don't think it was taboo to them. This is clearly speculation on my part but I think he got angry that morning or the night before or whenever, knew where his mother kept the guns that supposedly she needed for self-defense (why so many, I don't know.) and then went off on a rampage. He knew where they were, how to use them, etc.
I just read that article before you posted it. I don't think we can group Mental Illness with Aspergers.
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ElizaRags35
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
Posted by nraboni
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by nraboni
Please read this I am Adam Lanza's Mother
Mental Illness is a taboo subject, especially in higher income families. I cannot speak for his mother nor am I defending her in any way but maybe she didn't know what to do or how to handle it. Maybe the "taboo" of it had her in denial.
Article from People
It seems like people knew what was going on so I don't think it was taboo to them. This is clearly speculation on my part but I think he got angry that morning or the night before or whenever, knew where his mother kept the guns that supposedly she needed for self-defense (why so many, I don't know.) and then went off on a rampage. He knew where they were, how to use them, etc.
I just read that article before you posted it. I don't think we can group Mental Illness with Aspergers.
I agree with that. He clearly had issues but it seemed like his family and others were aware of that.
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CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
I understand where you are coming from, and why you feel this way OP. I just want to say that nobody has said he had a mental illness and it has only been reported she knew something was wrong. That is all. There is no indication that she believed he was violent or dangerous. I also want to say from what I have read it sounds more like he may have had Autism or Aspergers which is a developmental disorder and not a mental illness. I also want to add that having Autism doesn't mean you are violent. I say all of this because it is important to remember that HE pulled the trigger. His mother was a victim of murder. Like I said I understand what you feel and I agree on some levels, but we just don't, I feel, have enough information to point any fingers. I get frustrated because it almost seems like in our culture we try to find fault in everybody or thing BESIDES the actual person. His mother is to blame for having registered legal guns, the system is to blame for being broken, we don't do enough to help people who need it, we ignored the wrning signs and so on.......where is the statement that says the MAN killed 27 people and at the end of the day HE pulled the triggers and took lives.
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2BadSoSad
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
Posted by dianadrw
Posted by nraboni
Please read this I am Adam Lanza's Mother
Mental Illness is a taboo subject, especially in higher income families. I cannot speak for his mother nor am I defending her in any way but maybe she didn't know what to do or how to handle it. Maybe the "taboo" of it had her in denial.
I read this yesterday after someone posted a link to it on my FB. It is very eye opening and made me think about things a little differently. However, if you know your son has issues I think it's highly irresponsible to keep such dangerous weapons within his reach.
That AND to take him to the shooting range.
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| Posted 12/18/12 12:37 PM |
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jlm2008
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
Posted by sami
Help me with this I find myself blaming the shooters mother I have been calling her every name in the book..I just can't stop blaming her..please no drama this is just so upsetting to me..
Don't feel bad, I feel the same way, but I blame the father too. There is no way you are a parent to a child for 20 years and don't realize he is a psychopath. Why would you keeps guns in the house with that. From what I've seen, the mother wasn't wrapped too tight either. It is just horrible.
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
Posted by 2BadSoSad
Posted by dianadrw
Posted by nraboni
Please read this I am Adam Lanza's Mother
Mental Illness is a taboo subject, especially in higher income families. I cannot speak for his mother nor am I defending her in any way but maybe she didn't know what to do or how to handle it. Maybe the "taboo" of it had her in denial.
I read this yesterday after someone posted a link to it on my FB. It is very eye opening and made me think about things a little differently. However, if you know your son has issues I think it's highly irresponsible to keep such dangerous weapons within his reach.
That AND to take him to the shooting range.
From what I read she was trying to teach him respect. Respect for something like a gun. I think she was doing the right thing.
I have an autistic cousin that goes shooting. I would NEVER EVER think he could shoot a school or kill my aunt or uncle. Just because someone is different doesn't mean they are violent nor does Aspergers mean you are violent. It is a developmental disorder not a mental illness.
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nraboni
Uggh...
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
Posted by PeasandCarrots
I understand where you are coming from, and why you feel this way OP. I just want to say that nobody has said he had a mental illness and it has only been reported she knew something was wrong. That is all. There is no indication that she believed he was violent or dangerous. I also want to say from what I have read it sounds more like he may have had Autism or Aspergers which is a developmental disorder and not a mental illness. I also want to add that having Autism doesn't mean you are violent. I say all of this because it is important to remember that HE pulled the trigger. His mother was a victim of murder. Like I said I understand what you feel and I agree on some levels, but we just don't, I feel, have enough information to point any fingers. I get frustrated because it almost seems like in our culture we try to find fault in everybody or thing BESIDES the actual person. His mother is to blame for having registered legal guns, the system is to blame for being broken, we don't do enough to help people who need it, we ignored the wrning signs and so on.......where is the statement that says the MAN killed 27 people and at the end of the day HE pulled the triggers and took lives.
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| Posted 12/18/12 12:41 PM |
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
I don't blame her at all.
She loved him. Cared for him. Tried to teach him right from wrong.
REPORTS are saying he was mentally unstable. We don't atually know that...
But what he did was not her fault at all, IMHO.
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
She was well-off enough financially to get him the best help money could buy- she got over $200k a year in alimony- so yeah, she needs to bear some of the blame, if not all. I suppose there's a chance the guns were well-secured but she should have gotten rid of them altogether.
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| Posted 12/18/12 12:43 PM |
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ElizaRags35
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
Posted by 2BadSoSad
Posted by dianadrw
Posted by nraboni
Please read this I am Adam Lanza's Mother
Mental Illness is a taboo subject, especially in higher income families. I cannot speak for his mother nor am I defending her in any way but maybe she didn't know what to do or how to handle it. Maybe the "taboo" of it had her in denial.
I read this yesterday after someone posted a link to it on my FB. It is very eye opening and made me think about things a little differently. However, if you know your son has issues I think it's highly irresponsible to keep such dangerous weapons within his reach.
That AND to take him to the shooting range.
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nrthshgrl
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Re: CT shooting..god I'm not looking to start drama..but
I understand where you're coming from.
Ultimately I blame Adam Lanza.
I understand her wanting to get her socially awkward son something to feel good about himself but shooting guns? Never.
If this was pre-Columbine, pre-kids going to school & shooting their bullies, I'd think differently. She should have known better.
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