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Hi-Fi55
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
Posted by -Lisa-
I'd much rather get a note asking me to move my car than a note saying my car had been hit.
I'd also prefer a car parked in front of my house than across from my driveway.
I don't understand the outrage from some of the pp. I would try to accommodate the request (as you have) whenever possible.
I agree. As long as they weren't nasty when asking I would try to see what I could do.
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
Gee, this is a toughie. I'm always concerned about what my neighbors think of me ( I'm just a little insecure), so I always try to play nice. Is there anyway to move your car slightly forward or backward to alleviate this problem? This is one reason why I made sure to buy a home with ample driveway space.
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| Posted 1/23/09 2:56 PM |
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strongisland
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
thanks girls for all of your opinions, suggestions, etc....this is hard for me b/c i am the type of person that always wants to do the right thing! and i love old people!! but their driveway is pretty much dead center to my property (go figure!!) if i put my car in the street (which is not happening!) that means i will have to walk down to my car everyday, lug groceries in, etc. i feel like i didn't pay all this $$ for a house to have to do that! i might as well have moved to an apt. or condo, kwim?
i also feel that they never even looked at me once when i have been outside...i always looked over to try and wave, etc.....so although this note was nice and all, i feel the true point in them sending it was for us to move our truck not so much the warm welcome!!! i hate to feel this way too ....i also was thinking about how i am just careful when i back out of my driveway now w/my neighbors cars always parked behind me....i admit it is annoying but i just deal and i also wondered how do they park in a parking lot? how do they get in and out then?? i am going to see if i can move it up or back so that it is less of a problem for them....but i am sure it will remain in the street--unless they want to give me $$$ to expand my driveway!!HA!ha!
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| Posted 1/23/09 3:24 PM |
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lbride
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
To be honest, that would bother me too. I find it hard myself to back out of my driveway when there's a car there. One time I actually hit my ILs neighbors car pulling out of their driveway because I just didn't expect a car to be there....
If there's room elsewhere I would move it just as a courtesy. It's obviously bothering them enough to take the time to write you the letter.
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| Posted 1/23/09 3:42 PM |
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BnBdreamin
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
Posted by EmmaNick
I can certainly understand the mentality of not wanting someone to tell you what to do with your own vehicles in front of your own house. BUT, rather than have a car backed into your car, I would try to figure out a new parking situation.
I agree too, sorry. Unless we are having a party, I always ask a single guest to please not block our neighbors driveway. Just last week, one of DH's employees was working in our house and parked opposite their driveway and got hit by the neighbor backing out. Wouldn't you know the next day, the kid parks in the same spot! Yes it's not a law and yes it's your house but it's a neighborly curtesy and also prevents you the hassle of being hit.
When we bought our house last year, we immediately put in a double wide driveway for our two cars plus the work van. We just do not care to have our cars in the street, for safety and security and yes a little neighborhood curtesy. Especially the work van/truck. Logos or not.
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| Posted 1/23/09 8:46 PM |
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megsm3
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
Posted by EmmaNick
I can certainly understand the mentality of not wanting someone to tell you what to do with your own vehicles in front of your own house. BUT, rather than have a car backed into your car, I would try to figure out a new parking situation.
ITA! A neighbor at my parents house parks in fron of their house but their car is always directly behind my parents driveway and it is a PITA! A friend in HS actually hit their car and I have often come close.
I would move the trailer so as to avoid any bigger problems.
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| Posted 1/23/09 8:52 PM |
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MrsBunnyBear
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
Posted by strongisland
thanks girls for all of your opinions, suggestions, etc....this is hard for me b/c i am the type of person that always wants to do the right thing! and i love old people!! but their driveway is pretty much dead center to my property (go figure!!) if i put my car in the street (which is not happening!) that means i will have to walk down to my car everyday, lug groceries in, etc. i feel like i didn't pay all this $$ for a house to have to do that! i might as well have moved to an apt. or condo, kwim?
i also feel that they never even looked at me once when i have been outside...i always looked over to try and wave, etc.....so although this note was nice and all, i feel the true point in them sending it was for us to move our truck not so much the warm welcome!!! i hate to feel this way too ....i also was thinking about how i am just careful when i back out of my driveway now w/my neighbors cars always parked behind me....i admit it is annoying but i just deal and i also wondered how do they park in a parking lot? how do they get in and out then?? i am going to see if i can move it up or back so that it is less of a problem for them....but i am sure it will remain in the street--unless they want to give me $$$ to expand my driveway!!HA!ha!
You can walk over to them. It sounds like it took months for them to have the courage to send the note. they are probably worried that you are angry by it or something. tell them you will try your best to accommodate them and explain the problems you are having with it. problems with neighbors can get ugly and it starts with this kind of stuff. you are not talking about a car its a truck which makes sense they are having trouble backing out. it sounds like you guys don't even use it if its been sitting there all this time? how long is the walk from the street? its hard to imagine without pictures why you can't fit one car in the drive way with the truck and one in the street for grocery days. (or order peapod!!! its amazing!) I always try to be as accommodating as possible. Good Luck with it.
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MrsBunnyBear
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
I just read it again- a TRUCK AND a small TRAILER! wow! No wonder they are having trouble backing out and personally who wants to look out their window and see that all the time.
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| Posted 1/24/09 8:49 AM |
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LSP2005
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
If I were your new neighbor I would already be upset with you. The reason I would not waive at you is that you have left a truck with a trailor in front of my house for months. Perhaps you are making it difficult for your neighbors to get stuff into their house. Have you thought about that? Can't you move the vehicle a little to the right or left to avoid being directly in front of their driveway? I am sorry you just sound extremely selfish with this post. And frankly, if you have not even moved in yet why leave a huge vehicle there anyway. Is it in your way where you formerly lived? I am sorry you have zero sympathy from me. I frankly feel badly for your neighbors. If you have a work vehicle and no where to park it - perhaps you need to invest in a permanent parking spot for it. Is your house zones for commercial? I am sorry this really riled me up.
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Lillykat
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
I would make an effort to accommodate them at least for the time being, then maybe talk to them about alternatives - maybe they would prefer you park in front of them during the day so they can get out easier. I would just be nice and go and talk to them. I wouldn't want to on bad terms with a neighbor before moving in b.c you will have to live with them for a while. I would also rather get a note saying they were having trouble rather than a note saying sorry I hit your car.
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| Posted 1/24/09 9:21 AM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
honestly, i don't think you're being very courteous to your neighbors, who have probably lived in their home for decades since they're elderly.
you haven't even moved in yet but have had a truck and trailer in front of your house for 3 months. they've had to look at that eyesore and clearly are having trouble moving in and out of their driveway. it doesn't matter how they drive in a parking lot, they let you know they're having a problem at their home.i would be VERY upset if i were your neighbor, and i'm far from elderly.
part of moving into a neighborhood is being a good neighbor. by only thinking of yourself, you are essentially saying "screw you, this is my home, i will do what i want and i don't care.". yes, you moved to the suburbs to have certain conveniences, but you need to take into account your neighbors' feelings.
i would go there, apologize for the inconvenience and let them know you'd like to be friendly. they're elderly and it's winter--honestly i would go there and introduce myself and not expect them to come out to you.
if you want to create enemies, think about yourself. if you want to create a community, think of other's needs as well as your own.
good luck 
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| Posted 1/24/09 11:12 AM |
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HLT407
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
I would just try to move it up a few inches/feet. I can see both sides- I'm "guilty" of both parking & complaining. Unfortunately I have a neighbor that has a driveway (that he does not park in) and parks directly behind my driveway. In the 6 mos we've been here, we've had a few close calls...
Good luck!
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KLSbear
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
When we lived in MA our delightful neighbors called the cops and had them come to our door to ask us to move the car because it was "blocking" their driveway. The car was 5 feet away from the edge of their driveway on their side of the street - I'd parked there waiting for DH to get home so I could pull in the driveway after him since I left first in the AM. It wasn't blocking in any way and they didn't go anywhere after I moved the car down the street a block.
They cop at the door was rolling his eyes at their request - clearly felt like it was a foolish errand he'd been sent on.
At least your neighbors handled it with courtesy. I think it's a reasonable request to let you know that your actions are making their situation difficult and to ask if you can alter your actions to accomodate. If you can't or won't they'll have to live with it, but it would be nice of you to go explain the situation to them. Maybe you should consider expanding your driveway in the future if you'll always have 3 cars. You're more at risk of getting the car hit if it's in the street anyway.
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WNA01
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
Posted by MrsBunnyBear
I just read it again- a TRUCK AND a small TRAILER! wow! No wonder they are having trouble backing out and personally who wants to look out their window and see that all the time.
Im sorry but i have to agree with this post
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| Posted 1/24/09 11:55 AM |
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strongisland
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
Posted by LSP2005
If I were your new neighbor I would already be upset with you. The reason I would not waive at you is that you have left a truck with a trailor in front of my house for months. Perhaps you are making it difficult for your neighbors to get stuff into their house. Have you thought about that? Can't you move the vehicle a little to the right or left to avoid being directly in front of their driveway? I am sorry you just sound extremely selfish with this post. And frankly, if you have not even moved in yet why leave a huge vehicle there anyway. Is it in your way where you formerly lived? I am sorry you have zero sympathy from me. I frankly feel badly for your neighbors. If you have a work vehicle and no where to park it - perhaps you need to invest in a permanent parking spot for it. Is your house zones for commercial? I am sorry this really riled me up.
i think you read my post incorrectly...it's not infront of their house it is infront of mine! and if you read my post you would see that i also said that i wanted to do the right thing but also don't want to be totally inconvenienced either! and it is a personal vehicle and we also moved it for now so calm down!!! if i were so selfish (7 years on LIW/LIF and this is the first 'selfish' post i have ever written!HA!HA!), i wouldn't have posted this! i wanted to see what the majority of people would have said/done...
btw, it's been in the street for 2 reasons 1-we had a dumpster for awhile and 2we didn't want the house to look like no one was there so we left the truck that we use the least there! i think you might be related to these people since your soo annoyed!!HA! just kidding! i really just wanted advice not sympathy!
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strongisland
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
i actually came on here to write an update that it is currently on my driveway but it's way to crammed! so we are for now going to put the truck in the street and the trailor on the driveway and move it up a bit! thanks for all of your help girls! i really don't want to start off on the wrong foot but we just don't have the space and it has to go somewhere! we can't get rid of it!
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| Posted 1/24/09 4:02 PM |
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strongisland
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
Posted by WNA01
Posted by MrsBunnyBear
I just read it again- a TRUCK AND a small TRAILER! wow! No wonder they are having trouble backing out and personally who wants to look out their window and see that all the time.
Im sorry but i have to agree with this post
it's an extremely small trailor! your car would be more annoying to them!! i wouldn't park a huge trailor like that in the street!
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strongisland
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
Posted by KLSbear
When we lived in MA our delightful neighbors called the cops and had them come to our door to ask us to move the car because it was "blocking" their driveway. The car was 5 feet away from the edge of their driveway on their side of the street - I'd parked there waiting for DH to get home so I could pull in the driveway after him since I left first in the AM. It wasn't blocking in any way and they didn't go anywhere after I moved the car down the street a block.
They cop at the door was rolling his eyes at their request - clearly felt like it was a foolish errand he'd been sent on.
At least your neighbors handled it with courtesy. I think it's a reasonable request to let you know that your actions are making their situation difficult and to ask if you can alter your actions to accomodate. If you can't or won't they'll have to live with it, but it would be nice of you to go explain the situation to them. Maybe you should consider expanding your driveway in the future if you'll always have 3 cars. You're more at risk of getting the car hit if it's in the street anyway.
yeah, we do want to expand eventually but just don't have the $$ now and probably won't for awhile
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Sweets13
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
My neighbors park in front of their driveway which is directly behind my driveway and let me tell you,,It's a PAIN for us to back out of OUR driveway. Yes, they have the right to park their, but I think it's very rude considering they see us having a hard time pulling out and getting in our driveway. They asked you very nicely, I don't see anything wrong with that and if you can in anyway park somewhere else, I think they would appreciate that....
ETA: just saw your update
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justme4u
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
I think it was kind of rude for them to send the letter and say that, I think they should have waited till they met you and then casually brought it up, liek to say, would you mind parking a few feet down because im afraid when i back out of the driveway that im going to hit your car in the street.
I have to say that when a car is parked directly behind my driveway, which is not often, there have been close calls and i wish they would move their car. I would never say something to them, just complain to DH about it LOL
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ave1024
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
Posted by justme4u
I think it was kind of rude for them to send the letter and say that, I think they should have waited till they met you and then casually brought it up, liek to say, would you mind parking a few feet down because im afraid when i back out of the driveway that im going to hit your car in the street.
Yup this I agree with. I can't stand passive-aggressive people and a letter like this would really piss me off.
Why not discuss this in person? To me a letter is just trying to get your way, while avoiding confrontation.
Just because you own a house, doesn't mean you own the street. It's one thing if the OP was parking her car in front of someone else's house. But if she can't park her own vechicles in front of her house, where else can she park them?
She also has the right to own a trailer, regardless if the neighbors think it's an eyesore or not.
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CAMCaps
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Re: ? about parking infront of your house/neighbors
Posted by JessInCA
Posted by EmmaNick
I can certainly understand the mentality of not wanting someone to tell you what to do with your own vehicles in front of your own house. BUT, rather than have a car backed into your car, I would try to figure out a new parking situation.
I agree. I also wanted to say, what nice neighbors to handle it all politely! I would try my best not to burn bridges in my brand new neighborhood.
I agree.
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