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carissa1643
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Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
I don't think I'm gonna go back to work after the baby is born. I feel like I'm the only one. I have my mom to watch the baby so I dont need to pay for daycare just in case, but I'm just wondering if any other LIers are not going back to work? I guess on my maternity leave we'll see how its goes for sure, but I think we'll be okay if I don't work. I'm also a hairdresser at home so I can have an extra income. Any other SAHMs?
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MrsS518
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
I will be a SAHM.feel like I would be working to pay for daycare cause my check would be going towards it every I'm happy we can afford me staying home so I can spend time with my DC. I think after a year I'll go back part time and my mother offered to watch our DC. By then I think I'll need a day or two out of the house lol
Message edited 6/1/2009 11:22:09 AM.
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:04 AM |
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MrsBurtch525
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
Posted by MrsS518
I will be a SAHM. I feel like I would be working to pay for daycare cause my check would be going towards it every week. I want to raise my child and not work to pay for daycare and have SOME money left over after paying childcare. I'm happy we can afford me staying home so I can spend time with my DC. I think after a year I'll go back part time and my mother offered to watch our DC. By then I think I'll need a day or two out of the house lol
Word for word here too! Couldn't have said it better! DH's cousin basically works to only pay for daycare to have someone else spend time with the child so DH and decided for at least the first 1 and half i will be home with DD. I would rather stay at home and raise DD than work to pay for someone else to raise her. We have been licing off DH's income since November so we know it's possible.
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:10 AM |
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DanandNette
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
I will be home. Work doesn't know that yet. I might change my mind, but right now I am 99% staying home. I have wanted to be home and be a mommy for as long as I can remember. I totally give credit to women that can keep working and keep on top of mommy-hood as well. But for me the route is to be home.
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:13 AM |
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carissa1643
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
Posted by DanandNette
I will be home. Work doesn't know that yet. I might change my mind, but right now I am 99% staying home. I have wanted to be home and be a mommy for as long as I can remember. I totally give credit to women that can keep working and keep on top of mommy-hood as well. But for me the route is to be home.
EXACTLY me! Work doesnt know yet either, as I post this at work lol. I always wanted to be a SAHM! Can't wait! 
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:15 AM |
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Linda1003
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
Unfortunately I have to go back to work. Can't afford to stay home. It kills me everyday!!! 
You ladies are extremely lucky!!!
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:17 AM |
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DanandNette
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
Posted by carissa1643
Posted by DanandNette
I will be home. Work doesn't know that yet. I might change my mind, but right now I am 99% staying home. I have wanted to be home and be a mommy for as long as I can remember. I totally give credit to women that can keep working and keep on top of mommy-hood as well. But for me the route is to be home.
EXACTLY me! Work doesnt know yet either, as I post this at work lol. I always wanted to be a SAHM! Can't wait!
I'm at working posting about this too!  I hope I don't get a call from HR today! ha! 
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:19 AM |
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bellaluna
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
I am going back to work , but I would love to be a SAHM if I could and not have it be a struggle . I make way too much $ to give it up and our lifestyle would change to the point where both DH and I would not be comfortable or provide as well for our child .
I do not feel that anyone but DH and I will "raise" my child and it annoys me to no end when people make that statement both on LI Families and IRL . My nanny will not raise my children, my DH and I will.
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:19 AM |
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bellaro
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
Posted by carissa1643
Posted by DanandNette
I will be home. Work doesn't know that yet. I might change my mind, but right now I am 99% staying home. I have wanted to be home and be a mommy for as long as I can remember. I totally give credit to women that can keep working and keep on top of mommy-hood as well. But for me the route is to be home.
EXACTLY me! Work doesnt know yet either, as I post this at work lol. I always wanted to be a SAHM! Can't wait!
LOl same here .. I just dont think my mom or his mom will be available to watch baby so DH & I decided it would be better for me to stay home .. I will let work now while on Maternity leave just incase something happens and i need to come back
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:22 AM |
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MrsS518
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
Posted by mommyin2009
Posted by MrsS518
I will be a SAHM. I feel like I would be working to pay for daycare cause my check would be going towards it every week. I want to raise my child and not work to pay for daycare and have SOME money left over after paying childcare. I'm happy we can afford me staying home so I can spend time with my DC. I think after a year I'll go back part time and my mother offered to watch our DC. By then I think I'll need a day or two out of the house lol
Word for word here too! Couldn't have said it better! DH's cousin basically works to only pay for daycare to have someone else spend time with the child so DH and decided for at least the first 1 and half i will be home with DD. I would rather stay at home and raise DD than work to pay for someone else to raise her. We have been licing off DH's income since November so we know it's possible.
same with us, right now I'm on bedrest and I'm not working so we have been using DH income to live off of and its working for us THANK GOD! I was worrried itmight not but we have $ for bills $ to put away and $ to spend. You never know what's going to work till you try it!
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:26 AM |
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Linda1003
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
Posted by bellaluna
I am going back to work , but I would love to be a SAHM if I could and not have it be a struggle . I make way too much $ to give it up and our lifestyle would change to the point where both DH and I would not be comfortable or provide as well for our child .
I do not feel that anyone but DH and I will "raise" my child and it annoys me to no end when people make that statement both on LI Families and IRL . My nanny will not raise my children, my DH and I will.
I agree. That statement makes me very sad.
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:26 AM |
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Peainapod
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
this is my personal debate going on now. I work in NYC live in pa, so on top of the $$ i spend to commute, the rest of my salary will be full time day care. or part time if i can get my mom out here for 2 days a week. still..lots of $$ b/c i'd have to give my mom something as well to compensate her for time and tolls/gas.
i have a side business that i can now spend more time on if im home developing it fully. I do generate a nice extra income from it, so i think really after the baby i might be home.
im not sure how it works with getting maternity benefits and then resigning. i may have to come back temporarily to avoid paying back healthcare fees, etc.
I really do not want to commute this far with a baby at home or in care. DH works in philly so he's close by, but still. i think i'd rather just be home.
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:29 AM |
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babyfever08
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
I wish I could be a SAHM too, but at this point we can't afford it. I really am dreading having to go back to work after DS is born. I cry just thinking about it. 
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:30 AM |
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JennyPenny
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
I wish I could- or at least do very part time- like 2 days a week, but we can't afford it. I will work from home for awhile and then see what happens.
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:30 AM |
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bellaluna
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
Posted by Linda1003
Posted by bellaluna
I am going back to work , but I would love to be a SAHM if I could and not have it be a struggle . I make way too much $ to give it up and our lifestyle would change to the point where both DH and I would not be comfortable or provide as well for our child .
I do not feel that anyone but DH and I will "raise" my child and it annoys me to no end when people make that statement both on LI Families and IRL . My nanny will not raise my children, my DH and I will.
I agree. That statement makes me very sad.
Me too.  I don't think people mean any harm by it, but it does strike a nerve with me .
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:35 AM |
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sleepie76
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
I will be going back to work. Daycare will only be a % of my salary & we need my paycheck.
If I would have been handing my paycheck over to daycare, I would definately stay home. I wish I could stay home.
Posted by bellaluna
I do not feel that anyone but DH and I will "raise" my child and it annoys me to no end when people make that statement both on LI Families and IRL . My nanny will not raise my children, my DH and I will.
I understand why it is upsetting, I hate thinking of it too. But I think you have to admit that someone that is spending 8-10 hours a day with your child also has a hand in raising them.
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:41 AM |
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divamommy
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
I am going back not only b/c I own my businesses but for my own sanity. Our child will spend alot of time with me b/c of my schedule and flexibility but I could not be a SAHM. I love to feel accomplished. I love what I do and I help to make other people's lives better. I've been at home a ton due to the fact that my pregnancy was rough and I can honestly say working is a beautiful thing.
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:57 AM |
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bellaluna
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
Posted by sleepie76
I will be going back to work. Daycare will only be a % of my salary & we need my paycheck.
If I would have been handing my paycheck over to daycare, I would definately stay home. I wish I could stay home.
Posted by bellaluna
I do not feel that anyone but DH and I will "raise" my child and it annoys me to no end when people make that statement both on LI Families and IRL . My nanny will not raise my children, my DH and I will.
I understand why it is upsetting, I hate thinking of it too. But I think you have to admit that someone that is spending 8-10 hours a day with your child also has a hand in raising them.
A hand in raising , yes. But DC will know who is Mommy and Daddy regardless of the amount of time spent in daycare , Nanny , MIL ect. That is our job as a parent to make sure that happens.
Just like when you send your child to school or summer camp when they are a little older, teachers also have a hand in raising your child YET there isn't a negative connotation put on that the same way there is when people hear that a mom has to go back to work to support her family.
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| Posted 6/1/09 11:58 AM |
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Peainapod
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
Posted by bellaluna
Posted by sleepie76
I will be going back to work. Daycare will only be a % of my salary & we need my paycheck.
If I would have been handing my paycheck over to daycare, I would definately stay home. I wish I could stay home.
Posted by bellaluna
I do not feel that anyone but DH and I will "raise" my child and it annoys me to no end when people make that statement both on LI Families and IRL . My nanny will not raise my children, my DH and I will.
I understand why it is upsetting, I hate thinking of it too. But I think you have to admit that someone that is spending 8-10 hours a day with your child also has a hand in raising them.
A hand in raising , yes. But DC will know who is Mommy and Daddy regardless of the amount of time spent in daycare , Nanny , MIL ect. That is our job as a parent to make sure that happens.
Just like when you send your child to school or summer camp when they are a little older, teachers also have a hand in raising your child YET there isn't a negative connotation put on that the same way there is when people hear that a mom has to go back to work to support her family.
you're damned if you do and damned if you dont. my mother stayed home with us our whole lives. Lots of pple looked down on her b/c she didn't work b/c they think she just sits home all day. Even now that we're grown, she's still home. But she takes care of her sick mother 5days a week, helps with the care of my fathers sick mother, watches her nephew 3 days a week, etc.
either way, its a hard decision to stay or go.
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| Posted 6/1/09 12:04 PM |
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
Posted by Linda1003
Unfortunately I have to go back to work. Can't afford to stay home. It kills me everyday!!!
You ladies are extremely lucky!!!
Same for me.
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| Posted 6/1/09 12:06 PM |
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Kissy331
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
I will be returning to work but only 3 days a week. I wish I could be a SAHM but right now we opted for me to go back until #2 comes. Fortunately my MIL will watch the baby 1 day & the other 2 a friend's mom is watching. Of course we have to pay my friend's mom, but it is nothing like paying for full time childcare.
If we do find that the money we are spending for childcare is not worth it, then I will be a SAHM. We are fortunate enough that I could stay home now if needed, we are just both not ready for it.
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TripletMom
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
I would love to go back to work I actually miss it but unfortunatley with having the triplets I dont think I can go back to work....LOL I have my Mom here to help but I cant stick her or any other family member with 3 infants.....So for now I will not being going back to work but hopefully maybe get something one evening or Sat when hubby is home.........
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| Posted 6/1/09 12:30 PM |
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Wendy
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
We'll see ... can't afford to stay home but can't afford to go back to work AND pay for daycare. 
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| Posted 6/1/09 12:30 PM |
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hannahsmom
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
I am going to be a SAHM. Money is definitely going to be tight, but if I were to work and pay for daycare, I would also have to pay for after care for my 7 year old DD. At that point, I would be paying each week for child care, and that's it. So not worth it. I am excited to be staying home with my DS knowing that this will be my last baby, but I am also a little worried about not going to work every day.
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| Posted 6/1/09 12:52 PM |
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lucyloo
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Re: Anyone not going back to work after baby is born?
Posted by scarletbegonia
Posted by Linda1003
Unfortunately I have to go back to work. Can't afford to stay home. It kills me everyday!!!
You ladies are extremely lucky!!!
Same for me.
Same here.
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