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melbalalala
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Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
DD goes down at 8:00 and usually wakes up around 3:30/4:00 to eat before going down again until 8:00. I've been tempted to do a dream feeding when we go to bed at 11:00 but have always thought it sounded cruel to interrupt her sleep cycle for my own benefit.
1. First off, are we good candidates for this with her schedule?
2. I am 99.99999% sure DD will wake up if I pick her up. She sleeps in the FP Rock N' Sleeper, so she is at an angle. Can I leave her in there and feed her a bottle while she's sleeping?
3. And, most importantly, how do you know when to stop?
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
Posted by melbalalala
DD goes down at 8:00 and usually wakes up around 3:30/4:00 to eat before going down again until 8:00. I've been tempted to do a dream feeding when we go to bed at 11:00 but have always thought it sounded cruel to interrupt her sleep cycle for my own benefit.
1. First off, are we good candidates for this with her schedule?
2. I am 99.99999% sure DD will wake up if I pick her up. She sleeps in the FP Rock N' Sleeper, so she is at an angle. Can I leave her in there and feed her a bottle while she's sleeping?
3. And, most importantly, how do you know when to stop?
First of all... you being well-rested is benefitting your DD too.... when you've gotten more sleep you just take care of your child better (at least I do, but I cannot function on little sleep... when I get no sleep, DS isn't the only one crying during the day).
1) She is getting a really good stretch of sleep if she's going down from 8-3/4am. But I wouldn't hesitate to feed her before you go to bed to see if you can stretch out her sleeping just a few more hours.
2) I definitely wouldn't pick her up to feed her. Just feed her in her Rock 'N Sleeper.
3) We dream feed DS when he's had his last bottle too early (he is 3m old and STTN from about 8:30-6:00, but if he gets his last bottle any earlier than 8:00, he will be up at 4 so we will dream feed him before we go to bed - usually around 10pm). We usually only give him about 2oz... just enough, IMO, to hold him over just a few more hours at night.
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| Posted 11/23/10 8:16 AM |
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
I agree with you dont like the idea. I tried it one time
And felt terrible making this kid eat when he wanted to sleep. It also messed up his schedule and woke up at that time i fed him wanting to eat for a week after i did this.
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| Posted 11/23/10 8:29 AM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
Have you tried it yet?
I absolutely cannot feed DD when she is sleeping! She actually purses her lips when I try. Sometimes the milk will just fill her mouth until it comes pouring out!
Plus, if I put her down without a good burp, she will be up SCREAMING in about 10-20 minutes without fail.
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| Posted 11/23/10 8:32 AM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
Didn't work for me. I tried it once and it was a disaster. I know it works for some pple.
I fed Mason when he got up. He started STTN around 4.5 months so I never felt the need to dream feed.
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| Posted 11/23/10 8:33 AM |
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RandiG
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
DS was too gassy to even attempt this
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| Posted 11/23/10 8:52 AM |
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
We really don't do it.
The only time I will kind of attempt this, is when DS falls asleep in my arms and its time for him to eat anyway. He is usually not in a deep sleep and I can take his paci out and switch it with a bottle and he starts sucking.
If he is upstairs in his swing, crib, whatever I would not attempt to wake him up to do it.
I also would not feed him without burping after or at least sitting him up for 10 mins because I am afraid he will have a "wet burp" while laying down.
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| Posted 11/23/10 9:01 AM |
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
I don't think with your schedule that you would be a good candidate for dream feeding. I used to dream feed but the time that my DD would wake up on her own was much closer to my dream feeding time. I used to dream feed at 11 when she was waking around midnight. I wouldn't feed her at 11 if she wasn't going to wake up until 3 or 4. She goes to bed at 8 and doesn't get up until 3 or 4---that to me is sleeping through the night. I look at dream feeding for a child that wakes after 4 hours to be fed.
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| Posted 11/23/10 9:02 AM |
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melbalalala
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
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Have you tried it yet?
I absolutely cannot feed DD when she is sleeping! She actually purses her lips when I try. Sometimes the milk will just fill her mouth until it comes pouring out!
Plus, if I put her down without a good burp, she will be up SCREAMING in about 10-20 minutes without fail.
Interesting! I never thought about that, that she might refuse it.
I haven't tried it because it just feels mean.
She used to be like that with gas, but mylicon drops have changed our lives, breaks up those little bubbles...
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| Posted 11/23/10 1:37 PM |
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melbalalala
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
Posted by Lucky
I don't think with your schedule that you would be a good candidate for dream feeding. I used to dream feed but the time that my DD would wake up on her own was much closer to my dream feeding time. I used to dream feed at 11 when she was waking around midnight. I wouldn't feed her at 11 if she wasn't going to wake up until 3 or 4. She goes to bed at 8 and doesn't get up until 3 or 4---that to me is sleeping through the night. I look at dream feeding for a child that wakes after 4 hours to be fed.
That's what I was wondering... if there was a certain type of schedule that worked better for it. I feel like with our schedule it might not work...
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| Posted 11/23/10 1:37 PM |
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
I tried once. DD didnt wake up, but it was too nerve wracking for me to keep this up. I asked my ped about it and she didnt really approve of it. I stopped doing it and I gave her the paci instead and this stopped the night feedings. eventually, she stopped waking up altogether.
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| Posted 11/23/10 1:41 PM |
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
Posted by melbalalala
Posted by Lucky
I don't think with your schedule that you would be a good candidate for dream feeding. I used to dream feed but the time that my DD would wake up on her own was much closer to my dream feeding time. I used to dream feed at 11 when she was waking around midnight. I wouldn't feed her at 11 if she wasn't going to wake up until 3 or 4. She goes to bed at 8 and doesn't get up until 3 or 4---that to me is sleeping through the night. I look at dream feeding for a child that wakes after 4 hours to be fed.
That's what I was wondering... if there was a certain type of schedule that worked better for it. I feel like with our schedule it might not work...
Yup. With your schedule I am thinking there isn't really a need for it. It sounds like it might backfire and she might get used to a feeding at that time unnecessarily and then you have started a habit for her.
Maybe try going to bed earlier so you can sleep until 3. 
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GioiaMia
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
Posted by melbalalala
Posted by Tilde
Have you tried it yet?
I absolutely cannot feed DD when she is sleeping! She actually purses her lips when I try. Sometimes the milk will just fill her mouth until it comes pouring out!
Plus, if I put her down without a good burp, she will be up SCREAMING in about 10-20 minutes without fail.
Interesting! I never thought about that, that she might refuse it.
I haven't tried it because it just feels mean.
She used to be like that with gas, but mylicon drops have changed our lives, breaks up those little bubbles...
Yes, I tried it a few times. Not for dream feeding but b/c she fell asleep before her last bottle. I thought it was working and then all of this milk just came gushing out of her mouth - she wasn't sucking at all!! It was so scary and I really never tried again. Even if I get her to finish a bottle after she falls asleep she won't do it. I guess she is just a heavy sleeper LOL
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eroxgirl
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
When we dream fed DD it was to eliminate a 12/1:00 feeding. She still woke up around 4 so I don't think it really works with your schedule.
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mikemike0329
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
I think you should stop being lazy and wake up when the baby needs to eat. My guess is you probably don't work so why can't you just wake up. Oh no I won't get a good 8 hours!! Well, tough. Your a parent take on the reponsibility of being one. Dream feeding, give me a break. lazy lazy lazy. you are all lazy
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
Posted by mikemike0329
I think you should stop being lazy and wake up when the baby needs to eat. My guess is you probably don't work so why can't you just wake up. Oh no I won't get a good 8 hours!! Well, tough. Your a parent take on the reponsibility of being one. Dream feeding, give me a break. lazy lazy lazy. you are all lazy
 wow just wow
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| Posted 12/3/10 7:35 PM |
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
I would not wake the baby up to eat.
I would just eliminate the 3/4am feeding gradually by reducing the amount of time the baby nurses at that feeding.
Not sure how old your baby is but my DS had that same schedule, up once a night at 3/4am and we just eliminated it that way. He's 4mo old.
ETA: I just read "bottle". Same principle just offer less and less.
And the poster below this mentioned not letting them wake fully, which is very important!
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| Posted 12/3/10 7:36 PM |
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babymakes3
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
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I think you should stop being lazy and wake up when the baby needs to eat. My guess is you probably don't work so why can't you just wake up. Oh no I won't get a good 8 hours!! Well, tough. Your a parent take on the reponsibility of being one. Dream feeding, give me a break. lazy lazy lazy. you are all lazy
wow just wow
1 post? someone coming on to stir up drama
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| Posted 12/3/10 7:37 PM |
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mommyIam
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
I dream fed successfully and unsuccessfully. Feeding DS before he was actually hungry doesn't work, like feeding him before we went to bed or something like that.
I would put ds down for the night, and prepare everything for a bottle in case he woke up, so that it would be ready in 30 seconds if and when I needed it. (I used RTF 8oz cans that I just poured)
I go to bed with the monitor very close to my ear and listen for any sign that he is waking up, the second I hear the first moan, I ran in with the bottle and gave it to him. He wasn't fully awake, just a little groggy, that is perfect he'd latch on, eat and just pass back out.
It took a while to get the hang of it perfectly. In the begining, he'd cry, be wide awake, need rocking, need singing, etc, but after I learned his patterns, It worked.
At around 11 weeks I started to wean him off this dream feeding, by offering less and less.
But initially I would give whatever he was normally waking up and taking in the middle of the night. if it was 5oz, then I'd offer 5oz, and he would usually fall asleep and stop eating at some point.
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| Posted 12/3/10 7:42 PM |
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
Posted by mikemike0329
I think you should stop being lazy and wake up when the baby needs to eat. My guess is you probably don't work so why can't you just wake up. Oh no I won't get a good 8 hours!! Well, tough. Your a parent take on the reponsibility of being one. Dream feeding, give me a break. lazy lazy lazy. you are all lazy
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
How is dream feeding lazy exactly?
ps...it's "you're" a parent, not "your" a parent. Stop being lazy and learn a little grammar (punctuation and capitalization lessons available on request).
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| Posted 12/3/10 7:55 PM |
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
Posted by Palebride
How is dream feeding lazy exactly?
ps...it's "you're" a parent, not "your" a parent. Stop being lazy and learn a little grammar (punctuation and capitalization lessons available on request).
Exactly!
Not to mention the poster is obviously not a "parent!" Walk a few miles in our shoes......
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| Posted 12/3/10 7:58 PM |
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
I did it with DS when he was 9 months old because he was still getting up at 4am. It worked v. well for us. We'd scoop him up at 11:00pm and he would sleep until 7am. I don't see what's cruel about it. It made life better for all of us. He was full and could sleep through the night, and we got the rest we needed.
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
Posted by Palebride
How is dream feeding lazy exactly?
ps...it's "you're" a parent, not "your" a parent. Stop being lazy and learn a little grammar (punctuation and capitalization lessons available on request).
Spelling lessons are also available if you need them. 
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| Posted 12/3/10 8:07 PM |
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mikemike0329
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Re: Are you SURE Dream Feeding isn't cruel? (and other questions)
Posted by Palebride
How is dream feeding lazy exactly?
ps...it's "you're" a parent, not "your" a parent. Stop being lazy and learn a little grammar (punctuation and capitalization lessons available on request).
Take your own advice. "ps..." is actually P.S. It is an abbreviation therefore needs periods. And coming from people on a website who abbreviate everything and never type using proper grammar. Is there sufficient grammar and capitalization for you dear?
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