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Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
DH will be sleeping there with me again because I'm too scared to not have someone with me at all times....
My parents will be taking care of DS..but wondering if visits are a good idea or not?
For those who have BTDT, what is your take on this?
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Posted 12/30/10 10:06 PM |
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JandJ1224
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Name: Jannette
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
My DD came to visit. Can't really keep them seperated for long as you will be going home.
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Posted 12/30/10 10:09 PM |
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Name: Lisa
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
yes, she visited each day, and we left the hospital all together.
I'd recommend keeping the visits short and sweet.
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Posted 12/30/10 10:09 PM |
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CathyB
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
We didn't. DD was only 16 months old and very attached to me. When I had my first my roommate's older child had huge meltdowns each day when they were trying to leave and it was very upsetting, and I was worried that my DD would react like that. If she was older I probably would have made a different decision, but she was still a baby herself. It was hard for me, I had a few framed pics of her with me and called home to ask my mom about her a lot, but in the end I think it was the best decision for our situation.
Good luck!
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Posted 12/30/10 10:11 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Name: Kelly
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
I am not due with #2 until April. But unless the hospital has some restriction DS will visit me starting Day 2. I will have a c/s so I dont want him with me the first day because I dont want him seeing me hooked up to the machines/ivs .
We live minutes from the hospital so I am not sure if DS will stay with ILs during that time or if DH will just get him each night on the way home. But DH will be home each night to sleep as well! I want to make sure he is well rested too in case I need help during those middle of the night feedings!
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Posted 12/30/10 10:14 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
I had a huge private room with a private patio outside. Josh stayed with me often. My mother was in from oos...I could not see keeping her away from the baby. Josh was there as they wheeled me into the OR...he was in hallway as they wheeled jessie out.
The food service staff would make him dinner every night to take home with him. He was there most of the time. He came with flowers to pick us up and bring us home.
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Posted 12/30/10 10:17 PM |
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ABCiverson
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
yes she did! She was 14 months old. By far the greatest mommy moment for me has been when she came to the hospital to meet her new baby sister:
My girls will be 3.5 and 4.5 years old when the new baby is born in March and I can't wait for them to come meet the new baby They will be the first people we will tell if the baby is a boy or a girl.
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Posted 12/30/10 10:17 PM |
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dm24angel
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Name: Donna
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
Noah came every day to see me. They'd pack him a bag of toys, snacks, and books and he'd hop in the bed and chill with me... It was sad when he left..I had a c/s though and was there for 5 days.
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Posted 12/30/10 10:17 PM |
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dm24angel
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
And Amanda , those pictures are so AWESOME!
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Posted 12/30/10 10:18 PM |
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drewsgirl
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
Yep, my parents watched DD for me, they brought her to see me and the baby..i couldnt not see her while there (even though it was just 2 days)..i would have missed her too much
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Posted 12/30/10 10:38 PM |
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
Posted by ABCiverson
yes she did! She was 14 months old. By far the greatest mommy moment for me has been when she came to the hospital to meet her new baby sister:
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My girls will be 3.5 and 4.5 years old when the new baby is born in March and I can't wait for them to come meet the new baby They will be the first people we will tell if the baby is a boy or a girl.
.. if that doesn't melt a cold winter's heart, I don't know what does!
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Posted 12/30/10 10:41 PM |
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FelAndJon
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
DS1 was 23 months when I had DS2. DS2 was 6 1/2 weeks early so all our "plans" went out the window. I went into labor and had an ambulance take me to the hospital. My sister raced to my house and watched DS while I went to the hospital. She then brought him to my parents house at some point that day while I was having the baby. It was a repeat C so I was going to be in the hospital for a week. My parents brought DS to the hospital the 2nd day I was there to see me. I missed him terribly and was so excited to see him, he was more interested in the life-size Elmo balloon someone had brought me . If I remember correctly, he came another time as well. Each time was for about an hour. Since DS was so early, he was in the NICU and DS1 couldn't see him until we brought him home.
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Posted 12/30/10 10:47 PM |
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BellaRock
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
DS came for a visit the day after DS2 was born. It wasn't a long visit. Maybe an hour or 2.
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Posted 12/30/10 11:03 PM |
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DomesticDeeva
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
I totally regret bringing him up, he was traumatized. My DS flipped when it was time to leave. My parents said he cried the whole way home, and he was just so sad, it broke my heart. They said they had never seen him like that before.
Then DH brought him up the day we were discharged. He clung to me with a death grip lol. As we were all leaving the maternity ward, he threw himself down on the ground and refused to leave. I think he thought I wasn't coming with them...he thought they were going to leave without me. It was horrible...I couldn't lift him b/c I had a c section, but all he wanted was me. He was 19 months at the time. If there's a next time, I do not want them to visit lol.
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Posted 12/30/10 11:08 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
Jack was just over 2 when Tyler was born, and my mom was basically taking care of him while DH was up at the hospital with me.
I had my parents bring him up every day after his afternoon nap. I had a huge bag of toys there that came from his little brother, and so many of my friends and family brought him toys also. He loved it.
Truthfully though, he only lasted an hour before he started to go stir crazy in the little room. I wouldn't have DS up there for that much longer than that but I think it was a really nice way for him to meet his brother.
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Posted 12/30/10 11:09 PM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
Lucas came to visit and had a big welcome sign he made in school for the baby It was so good to see him...I missed him so much. We gave him his present from the baby and let him hold his brother. DH said that after that he was excited for us to come home.
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Posted 12/31/10 7:05 AM |
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BeachMom
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
YES!! they were both there all day long. i woulnd't have had it any other way.
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Posted 12/31/10 7:07 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
Yes - I had DD on a Monday, he came to see me in my room for a few minutes that night, and spent about 1 hour in my room the next day. I was home the day after that so he didn't come that day. He was 18 months at the time.
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Posted 12/31/10 7:45 AM |
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jmf423
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
DS wasn't allowed to visit me It was the height of swine flu craziness last year. I was in the hospital for 7 days...I missed him so much! On the 6th day the nurse said she would let me go out to the lobby to see him but I didn't want to confuse him too much and figured I would be going home the next day anyway. I am sure I could have fought harder and got him in, but my whole time there I only saw 2 older siblings. But I knew he would be confused b/c the babies were in the NICU and he is a VERY observant kid. It worked out fine in the end.
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Posted 12/31/10 7:58 AM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
I had Andrew come up because he was staying with my parents and they came up every day to see me.
I enjoyed having him there with us.
I couldn't imagine it any other way.
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Posted 12/31/10 8:21 AM |
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nicrae
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
Yes my parents brought her up once. DS was in the NICU for 3 days so once he was out I had them bring her up to meet him.
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Posted 12/31/10 8:22 AM |
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jambalady
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
My 28 mo old DS came for a short visit every day.
I had a c-section so I was there for 3 nights. The only issue was that he wanted to climb all over me and I just had surgery.
I suggest little gifts for him like cars or drawing books, and definitely having at least 1 other person there he is close to that can play with him/distract him.
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Posted 12/31/10 9:02 AM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
DS was a c-section and I was feeling like crap, throwing up, etc the rest of the day afterwards. I did not have DD come up to the hospital the day DS was born.
My ILs brought her the next day. However, when they got to the hospital, my DH who was already there, went down to get her and bring her to the room himself so it was just the 4 of us. Then my ILs came in and DD stayed for about an hour before my ILs took her home with them to Queens while I was in the hospital.
While I missed her like crazy, I think it would have been overload for her to come every day when I was there.
ETA: DD was 18 months when the baby was born. We also had a gift for her from the baby that the baby (we) gave her when she came to visit.
Message edited 12/31/2010 9:20:49 AM.
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Posted 12/31/10 9:19 AM |
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want2beamom
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
My son was there each day...he was there in the waiting room when I delivered, which I loved!!! Then he visited with his grandparents. On the day we came home, he came up with my husband, and we all left the hospital together
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Posted 12/31/10 9:21 AM |
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Mkr09
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Re: Did your older LO visit you in the hospital when you had baby?
DD#1 stayed at my mom's house the night before my c-section (My ILs were staying there as well). The morning of my C my mom and ILs brought my daughter up to the hospital to wait with the rest of my family. They waited to see DD#2 and then waited for me to be wheeled out of the OR.
Then she came up every day from 2-4 (Grandparent and Sibling hours) and then from 7-8 (General visiting hours) every day I was there.
The day I was being released my DH dropped DD#1 off at my mom's and then my ILs brought her home later on.
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Posted 12/31/10 9:44 AM |
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