Re: Does anyone have any advice/tips on how I can make a change with myself?

I was a big yeller, now I am trying to not yell. I still at times, but once I stopped yelling and they stopped yelling at me i realized that talking just worked better. I also realized that I was having a adult temper tantrum and teaching them that yelling was ok, even though they would get in trouble for yelling, LOL. Talk about sending them mixed messages.

I stopped yelling when I started therapy and started on meds, it was easier to control myself after the meds kicked in. I got so mad at everything before that I could not control the yelling.

Good Luck, it is hard work, but so worth it in the end.

Re: Does anyone have any advice/tips on how I can make a change with myself?

i feel your pain, and send lots of


DD is 10 months and into EVERYTHING! She's so strong willed and "spirited" - to put it nicely and she has her father's stubborn temperment

There are a few situations that drive me NUTS with her. Ex: diaper changes and after baths. She refuses to sit still. Just the other day she smeared poop on the carpet because she squirmed SOOO hard to get away while I was changing her. I wanted to beat her. OBV I didnt. It's just so unbelieveable frustrating. I basically have to half sit on her to get her ready for bed after a bath. I yell for her to sit still, to stop trying to get up and crawl away because I don't know what else to do anymore. To make things worse -- she listens to DH when he says NO! She could care less when I say it. I've been trying to realize going into these types of situations that I just have to take my time with her, be patient, and make sure she knows she has to sit still w/o yelling. It's tough but I find that since I've become aware of the trigger situations that Im more prepared to deal with them.


and to think -- she's only 10 months


can't wait until she's 2

Re: Does anyone have any advice/tips on how I can make a change with myself?

Does anyone read Ask Moxie? It's a great blog/advice column (a little granola though). I know that the author was written about yelling and even offered an online "class" classed Release the Yelling or something like that and if I recall, it was really inexpensive, like $20 or so.

Anyway, I've found her prespective and advice for other issues very helpful so maybe worth checking out?