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Coosie
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Elective C-Section
In my opinion, even though she is your sister, it is not up to you to "change her mind" as you said. This is her body, child and choice. She is an adult. If you've mentioned it to her a few times already, I would let it go. Her reasons for wanting a C-section are her reasons. Weather they make sense to you or you agree or disagree with them doesn't really matter. I had a C-section. DS was born at 8:17pm. I was up walking around the hospital less than 12 hours later. Yes, it is major abdominal surgery. But there is also mother's instinct that is going to kick in. The worst part was the first few days....but she'll be in the hospital for the first few days.
I do understand your concerns. The statistics, literature and research is what it is. But as much as your reasons for having a vaginal delivery are important to you...her reasons for having a c section are important to her
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gina409
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Re: Elective C-Section
It's her choice and I see nothing wrong with it
I think it's a personal choice with no right or wrong and for as many bad c section stories u will find bad vaginal ones
I never understood how personal and aggressive parents get about their choices on delivery feeding eye until I became a parent
Lots have my way or your wrong
So wish we could all have a I'm Going to worry about me,you so you. But instead it's this way is better or better yet the "natural" way
Sometimes the c section is the natural way
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| Posted 11/21/13 12:46 AM |
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PennyCat
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Re: Elective C-Section
It's really so different for everyone. People have csectjons with quick recoveries, vaginal deliveries with horrid recoveries, and vice versa. For me personally, I was fine after a week but then got awful sciatic nerve pain. I was barely able to walk for a few weeks. Everyone is going to have a different experience. All in all, I did not find it bad.
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| Posted 11/21/13 1:22 AM |
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JDandMe
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Elective C-Section
Being in a lawyer in the medical malpractice field I can tell you that there are serious risks with vaginal births that can affect women permanently.
Being a mother I will tell you that boards like this and childbirth classes put a lot of stress on the dangers of a c-section and that a vaginal birth is better. I strongly disagree and feel some women put pressure on themselves (and have outside influences) to reject the option of a c-section. SOme end up severely tearing or putting their baby at risk b/c that don't want a c-section.
For every bad c-section recovery, there are good ones and vice versa with regard to vaginal births. In the end, it the baby's health and the health of the mother that are more important. Who cares if your sister has a c-section or vaginal birth? Are you going to love the baby any less?
Some food for thought:
http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/10/24/an-unspoken-risk-of-vaginal-birth/?_r=0
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| Posted 11/21/13 10:16 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: Elective C-Section
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I said it before on here and I'll say it again....why does it matter how a child gets into this world? As long as they are safe and healthy I don't know why it worries others ....either way vaginal or csection there can be many complications yes one is a surgery but the fact of the matter is that that doesn't make it any more risky ..,,,every pregnancy and delivery has its risks and honestly the way a baby comes into the world is up to her her dh and her obgyn and if all are on board then it shouldn't be an issue.....I had three sections first one was an emergency and the other two were elected bc I don't believe in the risks of vbacs for myself ....all three I was up the same day just a couple of hrs after the surgery and I stayed all 4nights and by the time I got home all three times I was fine to do practically every thing (.not driving ) my dh took off a wk but that was it and honestly I didn't need much help at all...and all I took was Motrin from my last day in the hospital on
You say that having a CS is not anymore risky than a vaginal birth but that is not true. Facts are that it is much more risky for the mother and child. Women who deliver via CS (planned- not emergency), are more than 2 times more likely to end up back in the hospital due to complications. Planned CS born babies are also twice as likely to be placed in the NICU for respiratory issues and also have a higher rate of childhood asthma. The list goes on and on.
For those who say to MYOB... This is my sister and best friend. I think I have every right to try to inform her of these things so that she can make an EDUCATED decision. That is a huge problem these days, people make many uneducated decisions. As long as she has all the facts and still decides to go for a CS then that is her call but I am still going to say something.
Edited to clarify that the stats I posted are for Planned CS, not emergency ones where there are complications.
See, this is what I have an issue with You say she has to make an "EDUCATED" decision - Educated by who? You? Where are you getting all of your facts and information from? Google? - SHE is getting her information from her own OB, as well as her FIL, who is ALSO an experienced OB ........so who are you to determine where her supposed education should come from? I think the opinion of two experienced doctors (one of them being the baby's Grandfather) would be good for me.
Millions of babies are born every single day. The only thng that matters is that the baby is healthy - who CARES how he comes out? Let your sister do what she is comfortable with. It's her pregnancy, her delivery, her baby ........
My sister got induced at 39 weeks, my cousin was her OBGYN - I personally didn't agree with that decision, but who the hell was I to say anything? That was between my sister, BIL and the doctor.......
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| Posted 11/21/13 10:21 AM |
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jellybean78
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Re: Elective C-Section
Posted by nraboni
There's this fear stigma with c/s and I know that some people have been through hell with theirs but mine was great.
Mine was elective for medical reasons and my recovery was fine. I was up and walking within 24 hours. My DH only took a few days off from work. I didn't need any other people around to help me when I got home. Thankfully my bedroom is on the first floor of my house. I would say the only difficulty I had was getting in and out of bed because my bed is high off the ground.
The recovery varies from person to person but I wouldn't put the fear of god in her because that is what she is choosing.
I agree. I had a C-section out of necessity not choice. My OB does not believe in elective c-sections however that said my recovery was really great. I was a little sore but IMO no more sore than my friends who had vaginal births. I was up and about in no time. My sis, BF and cousin also had c-sections and each of them had wonderful recoveries.
Ultimately the choice is up to your sis and her Doctors. Would I choose to have a C-section..probably not but to each his own.
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| Posted 11/21/13 10:32 AM |
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DiamondGirl
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Elective C-Section
I can only say I do not understand why someone would elect to have surgery vs. doing what our bodies are made to do. I am all for c-sections if there is a medical reason, if labor is not going as planned, if you do not want to vbac--all for it!
BUT to me I would always try to go vaginally first--c-section scares me much moreso then popping a kid out of my whoha lol
that said whatever works for the mom if the doctor says it is safe and fine
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| Posted 11/21/13 10:53 AM |
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nycgirl
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Re: Elective C-Section
Everything has risks and benefits.
MANY people chose to have a CS for the reasons of:
Avoiding uterine prolapse
Avoiding 3rd or 4th degree tears (30-40% of population)
Medical indications (heart defects, etc)
Decreasing passage of infectious conditions (Herpes) to the baby
Very big baby/big head & small pelvic outlet
In addition, you just aren't the same "down there" after having a baby.
MAYBE she has a valid reason to do it... maybe she's worried about something that has a real incidence...
You can talk to her, but her choice is not as crazy as you think.
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| Posted 11/21/13 11:00 AM |
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Millie3
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Re: Elective C-Section
Posted by DiamondGirl
I can only say I do not understand why someone would elect to have surgery vs. doing what our bodies are made to do. I am all for c-sections if there is a medical reason, if labor is not going as planned, if you do not want to vbac--all for it!
BUT to me I would always try to go vaginally first--c-section scares me much moreso then popping a kid out of my whoha lol
that said whatever works for the mom if the doctor says it is safe and fine
Personally, the thought of a 6 pound baby being push out of my V, terrified me! Logical or not, the thought of it made me panic. The thought of my business being torn and "different" made me nauseous. The thought of the baby getting stuck and needing an emergency c section, terrified me! The lesser of 2 evils in my mind was the c section. I have watched a child be born naturally, it was amazing! I could never ever do it myself.
I think there should always be a choice.
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