Re: Ethical Question...to tell or not to tell?

I'd want to know, therefore I would annonymously tell her. This way no harm can come to you.

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Ugh...I have a two hour meeting with her and a couple other people at 3:30 and I can't get the image out of my head.

It's going to be hard to look her in the eyes.

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I know most people are saying stay out of it because of the possibility of repercussions coming back to you but...

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too bad you didnt take a picture with a camera phone and then you could anonomysly send it to her

I am just kidding......stay out of it

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As someone who told a "friend" that her boyfriend was cheating on her only to have her hate ME and turn our other 2 best friend's against me while HE denied everything I said...I say stay out of it.

She is going to believe what she wants to believe - even if you had "proof" to show her - she will not believe you (especially if he denies it).

Plus you have no idea what their marriage is like - for all you know they could be separating/divorcing or have some kind of arrangement.

Unless this person is your closest friend or a relative...I would stay out of it.

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Crap. I hate hearing that especially when children are involved.

See, if you don't know that it could be totally anonymous, now you're in a sticky situation. If he just told her he's going out with the guys after work, she would already know he was there. Just not that the chick was there.

That's a toughie. Even if they are seperating, this information could help her with the proceedings if he's a DB about that too.

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i'd keep quiet. if she were your friend that'd be a completely different story.

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Maybe the next time she brags for you to guess what he brought home for her......you can guess VD!


Seriously I would stay out of it

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Nah, since you don't particularly like her, I'd stay out of it. No sense getting dragged into anthing you don't want to be in.

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Stay out of it.

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I would definitely mind my own business. If it was a close friend, I'd probablly have to think about it, but for a co-worker no way.

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I would stay out of it.

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I'd stay out of it, but no wonder he is so nice to his wife...he's a cheat! Super great to her face and then behind her back...ughhhh. It reminds me of that dropped call comercial where the girl gets flowers.

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i would mind my own business. who knows, maybe she knows all about it and thats just the kind of relationship they have. i would hate to open that can of worms at the office!

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IT really is sad when children are involved.
and youre a good person for even wanting to get her out of this/let her know, even though you dont get along with her.
I would even consider the anonymous route, but you said she might know you were there....
I wonder if the place has camera footage

what a loser

but from what you said, that she even puts your dh down, she's not worth your time.

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I would stay out of it.... but I might leave her an anonymous note. B*tch or not, a girls got the right to know her man is a dog!

eta: just saw your post about being found out. Dont even mention where, chances are this isnt the only place.

Just write something like, sorry I am afraid to tell you in person, and that I have to tell you at all, but your DH was seen recently in a public place engaging in risque behavior with another woman. Thought you deserved to know.

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Stay far away

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Posted by leighla

Posted by greenfreak

What if they are planning a family? Wouldn't you want to know that your wonderful husband is a lowlife loser before you create a child with him?

I'd think I'd tell her anonymously. I was cheated on, and told, and am still so grateful to her for telling me. So I guess I have the point of view from the other side.

Hence my dilemma.

They have two young kids - both under 3.

He's a total douchebag to begin with and everyone hates it when she brings him to work events.

My DH works with us too. I didn't tell him about the kissing, but he saw the flirting with his own eyes. I'm afraid I'm at a place whereshe would easily be able to fgure out it was me.

Someone suggested just mentioning that we saw him at Friday's without any details so she would go home and say "Oh, Lauren saw you at Friday's last night." and then maybe he would confess.

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I would just casually mention that you saw her DH at Fridays and leave it at that....if she had no idea you will get her wondering

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Stay far away from that one!

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I wouldn't say a word. None of my business. The only time I would say something, is if it was one of my good friends.