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Re: Etiquette on inviting classmates to party
At 3 I invited a few kids from school, not the whole class but I did not only leave out 1 or 2. I would have felt bad doing that. It was very obvious that the 3 or 4 that we invited were kids who had been with DS for a while and kids he plays with and talks about a lot. Now he is close with some other kids and I would have loved to have them but the party would have been way too big. The teacher gave the invitations to parents for us. Next year I think that the kids will be talking more about parties and listening to each other more. I don't know if I will feel comfortable not inviting the whole class then. It is tough to draw the line. My son has some friends in the older and youger classes and the teachers take them to visit each other. The visits become sort of a big deal. Do I invite them also?
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Posted 11/30/10 9:59 PM  |
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Re: Etiquette on inviting classmates to party
Posted by eddiesmommy
You don't have to be all 'HEY I'M PASSING OUT INVITATIONS TO OUR FAVORITE KIDS' but if a grown woman is going to be hissyfitting that their kid wasn't invited to a 4 year old bday party -- then I wouldn't want to pal around with her anyways 
ummmm, she didnt say anything about a mom making a big deal of it?
What about the four yr old who doesn't get one? I would be more worried about the kid...not the mom.
No we don't have to like everyone, but we should show respect for everyone.
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| Posted 11/30/10 10:02 PM |
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Re: Etiquette on inviting classmates to party
I have to say I really like our preschool for this reason. They put the invites in the cubbies for parents to pick up(the cubbies are just for adults out of kids reach) and you can invite who you like. This year we are inviting the whole class but it is at the park with a bouncer- she can have 50 kids for all I care. But last year it was pretty pricey to invite a bunch of kids she just met(she only started the month before her party).
I don't see how kids would know about the party UNLESS grown-ups told them
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| Posted 11/30/10 11:06 PM |
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Re: Etiquette on inviting classmates to party
We only invited friends. I mailed invites to the house. It was never an issue. I'm not inviting kids she doesn't mention or interact with.
I actually emailed the teacher the children we were going to invite to ask if there was anyone else she interacts with regularly that we should include.
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| Posted 11/30/10 11:08 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Etiquette on inviting classmates to party
ETA: I will say if you invite a child one year, invite them the following.
Miranda was invited to a birthday party one year. Was really excited to go. I think her and the little girl didn't interact as much b/c Miranda stopped after care the next year but still Miranda talked about her. Anyway another girl we are friends with talked about "Lauren's birthday" and I had to figure out how to explain to Miranda why she wasn't invited. Man that sucked b/c Miranda kept saying "we're still friends". Ugh!
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| Posted 11/30/10 11:12 PM |
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CkGm
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Re: Etiquette on inviting classmates to party
Posted by Mrs-Boop
We just had DD's party over the weekend and I invited 7 kids from school. No way was I inviting the whole class, there are 40 kids that are in her class (some are not there everyday). I asked DD's teacher to write down the names of the kids that DD plays with the most in class, up to 10. She gave me a list of 7 kids, which was perfect.
I don't get this all or nothing stuff. I am paying for a party for MY DD, why should I invite kids in her class that she has probably never spoken too? I have never heard of anyone passing out invites and bragging about it. I discreetly put DD's invites in the kids mailboxes that were invited. If someones feelings get hurt, I'm sorry, but its not my problem, everyone doesn't get invited to everything in life.
ITA- Honestly, whether you put them in cubbies (most 4 year olds can't read anyway) or mail them home, if they are going to talk about the party, ummm... then they will anyway. As for the whole class, last year it was 15 a head per kid. At 40 kids, that would killed me! I don't believe in this invite all or nobody deal- as long as you don't exclude one or two kids, then I don't see the issue.
Message edited 11/30/2010 11:13:53 PM.
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| Posted 11/30/10 11:13 PM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: Etiquette on inviting classmates to party
At DS's nursery school they will not hand out the invitations to the kids unless all the kids are invited.
I already have 25 kids on my list. I am not inviting another 17. But we also dont have playdates with any of the kids in DS's class outside of school so I am not inviting any of them unless we are invited first. So far, no party invitation have been handed out that I know of.
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