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AllyMally
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by Jbon630
I always throw out "should I bring anything?" and if the host says something like "if there's anything specific you want to drink" I will bring something, if not, I don't. Not really a big deal either way
This. I always ask and offer to help, but unless I am told it's BYOB I don't. We have BBQ's and always let them know what we are eating and that we'll have xyz in alcohol. If someone has a food allergy or wants a different alcahol we will try to accommodate that if possible.
I'm not against alcohol at a child's party, but unless it is provided I won't bring it. It just doesn't seem right to me.
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Kitten1929
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
You've changed your post, but do you see where people have responded that the gift has NOTHING to do with bringing something extra for the host or for your own personal drinking preference?
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by Budjeg11
Do you bring, or are you expected to bring, alcohol or food with you when attending a birthday party for a child- when you are bringing a gift for the child too?
Based on this new question my responses are...
Yes, I bring alcohol to kid's bday party, usually it's a bottle of wine for the hosts because they're hosting me at their house for a party providing food and drink.
Yes, I bring a gift with me for the kid, it's their birthday, of course I would bring a gift!
Thinking about it more, I always bring a bottle of wine with me to a shin dig regardless of what type of shin dig. I know I was a little more wishy washy in my first response so I thought I'd clarify.
ETA: I don't think I've ever been expected to bring something to someone's bday party or their child's bday party - gift included.
Message edited 4/29/2013 6:34:23 PM.
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| Posted 4/29/13 6:29 PM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by Kitten1929
You've changed your post, but do you see where people have responded that the gift has NOTHING to do with bringing something extra for the host or for your own personal drinking preference?
Dude, relax, you're gonna give yourself a stroke over this and it's not worth it. 
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| Posted 4/29/13 6:30 PM |
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Kitten1929
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by HoneyBadger
Posted by Kitten1929
You've changed your post, but do you see where people have responded that the gift has NOTHING to do with bringing something extra for the host or for your own personal drinking preference?
Dude, relax, you're gonna give yourself a stroke over this and it's not worth it.
You're right...I guess people just like to make nonsense out nothing!
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| Posted 4/29/13 6:31 PM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
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Posted by HoneyBadger
Posted by Kitten1929
You've changed your post, but do you see where people have responded that the gift has NOTHING to do with bringing something extra for the host or for your own personal drinking preference?
Dude, relax, you're gonna give yourself a stroke over this and it's not worth it.
You're right...I guess people just like to make nonsense out nothing!
DING, DING, DING, DING!!!!! 
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| Posted 4/29/13 6:33 PM |
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Jugglemom
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
If I am invited to a child's birthday party, I bring a gift for the child but I NEVER bring any wine/beer/food etc. like I would for any other hosted gathering. Frankly, I have never seen anyone bring anything other than a gift in those situations. I have hosted bday parties for my kids and no one has ever brought anything other than a gift nor would I expect them to.
For holidays or random parties/ bbqs I always bring something. And people o the same at my events.
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| Posted 4/29/13 6:52 PM |
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PearlJamChick
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
I always bring alcohol to children's birthday parties because let's face it, its really the only way to deal with having to attend a kid party.
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Crunchewy
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Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
We always bring alcohol to birthday parties. I drink a specific beer and I don't want the hostess to go to 20 different places just so she can find my beer ( not every place have it).
We always bring a gift for a child as well. It's his/her birthday!
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| Posted 4/29/13 7:06 PM |
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Kitten1929
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by PearlJamChick
I always bring alcohol to children's birthday parties because let's face it, its really the only way to deal with having to attend a kid party.
You can booze it up at my kids party any time!
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| Posted 4/29/13 7:09 PM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by PearlJamChick
I always bring alcohol to children's birthday parties because let's face it, its really the only way to deal with having to attend a kid party.
AMEN!!!
Thank GOD I come from a long line of lushes and am friends with those of the like who serve plenty of booze at these things!
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| Posted 4/29/13 7:12 PM |
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JennP
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
OP - my DH and I go through this all the time. Not with alcohol per se, but with bringing something to a birthday party in particular.
Unless otherwise instructed, I always bring both dessert/wine/etc. AND a gift to a birthday party in someone's home. It's just what I've always done.
DH on the other hand is aligned with you and insists that when someone in his family has a birthday party in the home that it's not necessary as long as we're bringing a gift.
Since I'm the one baking anyway, I tell him tough luck and if it's not normal for his family everyone will just think he's super generous.
I wouldn't worry about it. Despite what I just said, that is for ME as a guest so when I host my kid's birthday parties I don't actually expect anything from anyone, KWIM?
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Budjeg11
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by Kitten1929
Posted by HoneyBadger
Posted by Kitten1929
You've changed your post, but do you see where people have responded that the gift has NOTHING to do with bringing something extra for the host or for your own personal drinking preference?
Dude, relax, you're gonna give yourself a stroke over this and it's not worth it.
You're right...I guess people just like to make nonsense out nothing!
And by people, clearly you mean yourself, since you posted about 4 times and have gotten your panties all in a bunch over this. I changed my post to simplify things because the likes of you tended to over think it in my original post. The way I was brought up, you never show up empty handed when invited to a get together, period.. that being said, when going to a bday party and bringing a gift, you did not bring anything else- or at least the host did rely on it. DID YOU SEE THE OTHER POSTS THAT AGREED WITH THIS SENTIMENT???
Sorry I had to do that since you seemed to get so beside yourself with trying to "prove" the opposite point.
Looks like there are two different camps when it comes to this issue.. that is all I was wondering in the first place.
Message edited 4/29/2013 9:50:51 PM.
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Budjeg11
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by PearlJamChick
I always bring alcohol to children's birthday parties because let's face it, its really the only way to deal with having to attend a kid party.
This is true. I am ALL for the alcohol at the kiddie parties.
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meloyellow
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
I would never bring alcohol to a child's party. I've seen the mother of the birthday child bring wine or the dad bring beers. If they are ok with it then fine. But I would never bring alcohol or drink it unless it was a laid back atmosphere and the parents initiated it. Besides, I don't like to drink much when I'm watching my child. I need to be "present"
for a kids party I would bring a dessert of some sort or ask if they needed anything from the store before i arrived...but not alcohol.
if it were an adult get together or BBQ then I'd bring alcohol or a dish
eta: usually I ask in advance if there is anything I can cook or bring to help out in any way.
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DaniJude
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by evrythng4areason
For a bday party I would think the host should supply the food/drinks
A regular bbq is a bit different
ITA.
It is a birthday party so you bring a gift.
If it is a BBQ or a dinner we bring either a bottle of wine, a case of beer, a dessert, or an appetizer -- just depends on the occasion, mood, time of year, etc.
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| Posted 4/29/13 10:05 PM |
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meloyellow
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by Budjeg11
The hosts have no problem with alcohol at the party.. at all.... and they supplied alcohol too.
in this case it's fine to bring alcohol and it's very kind but should not be expected on part of the hostess. When you host a party you incur all costs unless you are claiming it as a pot luck or BYOB
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| Posted 4/29/13 10:18 PM |
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butterfly20
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by kahlua716
I have guidelines for myself-
- If I am invited to a party where I am expected to bring a gift- I do not feel bad bringing ONLY a gift and no food/drink
- If I am invited to a get together/BBQ I always bring something because I was taught not to show up empty handed.
For birthday parties/celebrations in my immediate family (as in my mom or sister or sisters/brothers-in-law) I always offer to bring something to help them out AND bring a gift.
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lynnd126
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Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Maybe I'm prude, lol, but I think it's rude to bring booze to a child's birthday party. I guess it's an exception if you already know that your group drinks at these things. We have booze at a big first birthday type party but not at all at a 2 hour 4th birthday or something.
To really answer the op, I kind of agree that if it's a gift occasion I generally don't bring a dish/booze. I'm not sure that I correlate it in the way where bc of my gift I've already done my part, but maybe more bc those are very organized events. The host has made invitations, decorated, figured out a menu, etc.
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dlj97
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
I believe that if you are invited to a party where you are expected to bring a gift (like a birthday party) that you do not need to offer to bring anything.
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BeachGal
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
I usually wouldn't bring drinks or food to a birthday party. My DH has a huge circle of tight friends and he does being drinks to their backyard parties because that is what their group does! There is a ton of them and they all bring which I think is fine since their parties last all day and night!!! I would supply drinks if I had a bday party at my house.
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by MarisaK
Our circle always HAS alcohol at the kids parties (if they're home or in the park or someplace appropriate to have alcohol) but I wouldn't bring it the way I would to a normal BBQ or something......
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| Posted 4/30/13 8:21 AM |
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Kitten1929
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Re: Etiquette Question- Bringing alcohol to a birthday party
Posted by Budjeg11
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Posted by HoneyBadger
Posted by Kitten1929
You've changed your post, but do you see where people have responded that the gift has NOTHING to do with bringing something extra for the host or for your own personal drinking preference?
Dude, relax, you're gonna give yourself a stroke over this and it's not worth it.
You're right...I guess people just like to make nonsense out nothing!
And by people, clearly you mean yourself, since you posted about 4 times and have gotten your panties all in a bunch over this. I changed my post to simplify things because the likes of you tended to over think it in my original post. The way I was brought up, you never show up empty handed when invited to a get together, period.. that being said, when going to a bday party and bringing a gift, you did not bring anything else- or at least the host did rely on it. DID YOU SEE THE OTHER POSTS THAT AGREED WITH THIS SENTIMENT???
Sorry I had to do that since you seemed to get so beside yourself with trying to "prove" the opposite point.
Looks like there are two different camps when it comes to this issue.. that is all I was wondering in the first place.
First off, don't flatter yourself by thinking I am beside myself over your silly post.
It's annoying when people clearly ignore comments when they're obviously fishing for people to agree with them.
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