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Re: Family upset about Christening.... (long)
We did the same for DS. We only invited aunts and uncles, not cousins. To be honest I dont think anyone gets upset. I know I don't care if I don't get invited to one of my cousin's kid's parties.
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eddiesmommy
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Re: Family upset about Christening.... (long)
Posted by annoyedTTCer
You have to do what is right for you and your immediate family.
At some point cuts need to be made, tell her to get over it
agreed.
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| Posted 9/22/10 6:43 PM |
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Mimms
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Re: Family upset about Christening.... (long)
I think your MIL is out of line. This is your party and you're footing the bill who you invite is your choice. You shouldn't have to defend your actions.
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| Posted 9/22/10 8:03 PM |
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AnnBrunoXO
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Re: Family upset about Christening.... (long)
I think its your party - your bill - you get to choose. Its impossible to make everyone happy all of the time and regardless of what you do-- people always have something to say.
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| Posted 9/22/10 9:00 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Family upset about Christening.... (long)
I don't think you are wrong at all, but I probably would have given her a head's up before the invites went out.
For me, it's about more than just the money. Even when we can afford to invite more people, sometimes I just don't want to. Sometimes, I just want it to be a small gathering so I can enjoy talking to the people who come instead of being pulled in 20 different directions. It's your party, you and your DH get to decide how to plan it.
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| Posted 9/22/10 9:08 PM |
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IheartF&M
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Re: Family upset about Christening.... (long)
You are 100% right. I had the exact same problem for my ds christening. My MIL handed me a list of 60 people!! I didnt even invite my friends because we couldnt afford it. Long story short.....she paid for basically the entire party. She not only wanted all those people but wanted an impressive place to boot. If she wants those people tell her she needs to help out financially.
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| Posted 9/22/10 9:15 PM |
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Re: Family upset about Christening.... (long)
Posted by nataliea623
Thanks girls! I felt guilty, but i shouldn't. Especially since my family is TINY we only invited 8 people from my family (parents included)
I am so there with you. My MIL is trying to get me and DH to throw Xmas for 20 something ppl from her side who are supposedly immediate family....2 nd cousins twice removed. My new thing is just say no.
Good luck.
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| Posted 9/22/10 10:06 PM |
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Re: Family upset about Christening.... (long)
We had to do something similar for our DD Chrsitening. We invited NO friends, which stunk, family and first cousins only. We had about 40 people. At our engagement party we invited EVERYONE and had 100 people, it was too much.
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| Posted 9/22/10 10:08 PM |
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AMF1115
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Re: Family upset about Christening.... (long)
have the same issue with my DH's family. He has 14 first cousins and over 15 first cousins-once removed. The difference with his family is that they are all SUPER close. They all talk and hang out. So we could never cut the family down. If that isn't the case for your DH or $ is an issue, definitely cut it. We ended up cutting friends and keeping it to just the friends in our bridal party.
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| Posted 9/23/10 7:54 AM |
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munchkinbugs
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Re: Family upset about Christening.... (long)
If she wants all of these people invited she can pay for them. You are absolutely right!
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