Re: Friend Issue...who's right?

I think she is right - you guys did have plans and she did call when she said she would... sorry you are in this situation

Re: Friend Issue...who's right?

Posted by MrsB-07

I think she is right - you guys did have plans and she did call when she said she would... sorry you are in this situation

Re: Friend Issue...who's right?

I may be alone in this but I think you're right. Honestly, she's flakey and you did what you thought you had to. Maybe next time she'll call you earlier. I would still call her all the time and kind of kid with her like "Well maybe next time you'll call earlier silly". Sorry for the stinky situation.

Re: Friend Issue...who's right?

I think your friend is right. IMO the right thing to do would be to make sure that things were off with her first before making alternate plans and as others mentioned, you did hear from her. So she didn't totally blow you off. Her being flaky doesn't matter in this situation. If her flakiness is that much of an issue, I wouldn't make plans with her at all. It doesn't justify assuming she was flaking out. However, she is your friend and since it's not really about winning or losing, you could broach the subject of how she blows off plans. It might be a good thing for your friendship, KWIM? JMO

Message edited 2/24/2008 6:35:42 PM.

Re: Friend Issue...who's right?

I think your friend is right but it was miscommunication. You should have checked with her before you made other plans. It's not right to just assume that someone is going to back out of plans. You should have called her before making other plans if you were unsure. Even if her history led you to believe that she wouldn't show a phone call on your end should have been made.

I would just call her and apologize for the miscommunication and ask her when you can reschedule.

Re: Friend Issue...who's right?

did you really want her to come? i get the impression that you didn't. I only think that b/c you made plans so early on that day knowing that there might have been a chance she was calling. Why didn't you say to your Il's........"My friend is suppossed to come out today, but who knows if she'll make it b/c she has a track record of breaking plans. If she doesn't call or calls and cancels...we'll definitely do something. Just first let me see what's going on with her. I doubt she is going to call"



Since you asked right or wrong. I'll have to say that you were wrong in this situation. BUT I wouldn't stress her being mad at you since she has disappointed you in the past. I am not saying 2 wrongs make a right, I am just saying, you might have been wrong but it's water under the bridge and there is always next time.

Re: Friend Issue...who's right?