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adeline27
LIF Adult
Member since 5/06 3121 total posts
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Angela
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Re: FTWM vs SAHM
Posted by missus-hbradio
Posted by JennZ
This old thing again.
Being a mom is hard, SAHM, or FTWM. BOTH hard.
Agreed.
Agreed. I've done both and you have to factor in so much more. Hard work all around.
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Posted 1/10/14 4:31 PM  |
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DRMom
Two in Blue
Member since 5/05 20223 total posts
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Melissa
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Re: FTWM vs SAHM
Posted by Mrs213
I am a FTWM and I think being a Sahm is harder, I'm shot by the end of the day when I am off.
I agree! I WAH but I have a babysitter and the boys go to preschool 5 days a week. SAHM kicked my azz when I did it(They wer about 16 mos-2 years old when I did it.
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| Posted 1/10/14 6:19 PM |
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Peainapod
Peanuts are here!
Member since 1/09 13591 total posts
Name:
Diana
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Re: FTWM vs SAHM
Posted by Mags1227
i've been both and the two are impossible to compare.
as a SAHM for 2 years, the older DS got,t he harder it got to entertain him, keep him occupied, not be exhausted since he refused naps. The emotional nightmare of feeling worthless, like i was not contributing, and lack of control were awful. Never getting anything done at home, always feeling behind.
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as a FTWM, not seeing DS all day, trying to not think about him at work and the detachment that creates in me is horrible. Never getting anything done at home, always feeling behind.
I can't compare the two because it was hard on completely different levels. to me, the PTWM seems the best compromise. If only i could find a job to accommodate that!
this is soo true. I was FTWM after DS was born. I went part time at a local job (gave up my very good job in NYC) and worked 3 days / 20hrs a week. IT was really a good balance. Being home 2 work days and worked the 3. Then I was laid off and a SAHM really not by choice.
I have a business I do from home and on the days DS is in PREK I try to get work done. Trying to get anything done when he's here is next to impossible.
Sometimes I think going to work is easier, but I know that has its drawbacks.
I will be going back to work full time in a few weeks at a new job. DS will be going with me every day b/c its daycare on site (just in another part of the building). So this should be really interesting...lol.
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| Posted 1/10/14 6:24 PM |
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lynnd126
LIF Adult
Member since 3/11 2630 total posts
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Re: FTWM vs SAHM
When I worked full time I was always exhausted. I felt like each day was a blur. When I stayed home there were days that I felt like I was going crazy. Like the kids were killing me. Now I work part time and it's a nice balance.
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| Posted 1/10/14 9:32 PM |
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Budjeg11
LIF Adult
Member since 4/11 2644 total posts
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FTWM vs SAHM
Agreed that it depends on a lot of factors.. i.e. how much help you have in either scenario, how stressful your job is and how many hours you are working/commuting, how old your kids are and how many you have and how well they can entertain themselves and whether they are in school. That being said I was miserable at my old job, so I hated being a FTWM and away from DD at a job I despised. I became a mostly stay at home mom (worked 1 day a week) for a few months and it was hard! Never got any work done, and didn't have the extra $$ to outsource a lot of chores I would normally outsource when I worked.. I also had a hard time with my own self worth /lack of carreer. I work 3 days a week now at a firm I am really happy with and it is indeed IMO the best of both worlds!
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| Posted 1/10/14 11:00 PM |
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schmora15
LIF Adult
Member since 9/08 2476 total posts
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Re: FTWM vs SAHM
I am a PTWM and think it's the perfect mix of the two. I do think SAHM is harder, atleast for me.
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| Posted 1/10/14 11:22 PM |
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My4GirlsMyLife
My 4 girlies
Member since 2/08 9702 total posts
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Valerie
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Re: FTWM vs SAHM
I'm a FTWM but used to be a SAHM . Both are very hard . I just feel being a SAHM was more rewarding JMHO. I miss it 
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| Posted 1/11/14 1:48 AM |
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2girls2love
LIF Infant
Member since 5/11 330 total posts
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Re: FTWM vs SAHM
FTWM here.... My situation works very well.. My husband work nights, and I work the morning shift. We need a sitter for barely 3 hours 4 times a week. So I get alot if comfort knowing my girls are with my DH while I'm at work. In addition, my sitter is amazing- another comfort while I'm at work.
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| Posted 1/11/14 2:39 AM |
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