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Katie111806
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Re: Grandparents/Aunts at kids parties
Ugh, I can totally relate and it sucks. My MIL oversteps all the time and she hovers big time and my kids have a hard time playing. I would put my foot down and do the drop off thing with her friend's child, hopefully she'll get the hint.
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Re: Grandparents/Aunts at kids parties
Posted by Diana1215
I don't know, I have been to hundreds of kiddie parties and at almost all of them there was an Aunt, Uncle, Cousin, or Grandparent there. I was bummed that none of Jacks Grandparents were around to see him enjoy his kiddie party. For me, the more, the merrier.
We are clearly in the minority, but I agree 100% with you.
I always invite the grandparents to the kids' parties, even if I was having cake a different night. They get a kick out of seeing the kids play with their friends.
And I can honestly say, the vast majority of parties we have gone to - grandparents have been there regardless of where it was held.
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| Posted 1/12/12 4:06 PM |
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A3CM
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Re: Grandparents/Aunts at kids parties
i would let the mother who asked you that, that the policy is, the child must be accompanied by one of their parents, not a caregiver or a sitter.
dont respond to your MIL, respond to the mother of child.
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| Posted 1/12/12 4:33 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: Grandparents/Aunts at kids parties
Nm misread something
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nancyg
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Re: Grandparents/Aunts at kids parties
I too have been to lots of kiddie parties where the grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc have attended. And I'm planning my son's first bday party and I'm inviting extended family, but maybe that's just me.
I know it's just for kids, but it's fun to watch your little one interact with his friends, from a parent's or grandparent's point of view. It sounds like your mothers, both of them, just want to join in the fun.
Good luck.
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kerrycec03
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Re: Grandparents/Aunts at kids parties
Posted by nancyg
I too have been to lots of kiddie parties where the grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc have attended. And I'm planning my son's first bday party and I'm inviting extended family, but maybe that's just me.
I know it's just for kids, but it's fun to watch your little one interact with his friends, from a parent's or grandparent's point of view. It sounds like your mothers, both of them, just want to join in the fun.
Good luck.
1st birthday OF COURSE the entire world went. That TOTALLY makes sense.
even 2nd I got suckered into it (ie a 40+ person party)
and in my sistuation it doesn't end with two Grandmothers...oh no, then its her sisters, her brother-in-law, her niece, etc, so like 10 extra adults!!!
but this year I made SURE to have seperate parties for the numerous reasons I put in this post.
Personally, I worked at CEC for years, and I'd say only a quarter of the time was extended family there. Plus, the kids parties I've gone to out at kids places "extra adults" were not there.
and if my MIL was the "sit back and watch" grandmother, I'd could also bend, but she's NOT....She HOVERS over DS...he is now 3. You'll see, at age 3, kids want to be with kids. I mean DS is with his grandparents during the week. He does see them a LOT.
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nancyg
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Re: Grandparents/Aunts at kids parties
Well if you want her out tell her the child she was going to bringing has to be accompanied by her parent only. Tell her it's an insurance issue with the venue. BS something.
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| Posted 1/12/12 4:53 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: Grandparents/Aunts at kids parties
Posted by nancyg
I too have been to lots of kiddie parties where the grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc have attended. And I'm planning my son's first bday party and I'm inviting extended family, but maybe that's just me.
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First is not the 3rd bday where they have friends and are much more independent. I don't see how anyone can invite 20 plus extra adults (without kids... so grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins), etc to a kiddie place, like CEC. KWIM?
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Re: Grandparents/Aunts at kids parties
Posted by nancyg
I too have been to lots of kiddie parties where the grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc have attended. And I'm planning my son's first bday party and I'm inviting extended family, but maybe that's just me.
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I think you're missing the point of the OP that the MIL will be hovering around the kiddo and he won't be able to enjoy the party with his friends. That isn't fair to him really, and its his birthday party.
The party is about HIM, and your MIL will have time to spend with him at the family party next weekend. I'd have your DH talk to her and tell her sorry, but she can't attend or you'd have to invite everyone and its just not possible.
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Karen
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Re: Grandparents/Aunts at kids parties
Posted by Katareen
I think you're missing the point of the OP that the MIL will be hovering around the kiddo and he won't be able to enjoy the party with his friends. That isn't fair to him really, and its his birthday party.
I don't really understand this - he is 3, not 3 months. If he wants to be with his friends, no amount of hovering by his grandma should prevent that. It's not like he's not mobile and would be held hostage by her.
He is going to be running around having a good time with his friends, I can't imagine what his grandmother could do to prevent that.
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Katareen
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Re: Grandparents/Aunts at kids parties
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Posted by Katareen
I think you're missing the point of the OP that the MIL will be hovering around the kiddo and he won't be able to enjoy the party with his friends. That isn't fair to him really, and its his birthday party.
I don't really understand this - he is 3, not 3 months. If he wants to be with his friends, no amount of hovering by his grandma should prevent that. It's not like he's not mobile and would be held hostage by her.
He is going to be running around having a good time with his friends, I can't imagine what his grandmother could do to prevent that.
Clearly you don't know my MIL 
She would be on my kid like white on rice...come give me a kiss, come give me a hug, come try on this hat I got you, come take a picture with me, come sit on my lap, come here and I'll give you a lollipop...
I was assuming the OP's MIL was like mine in this way, but I know not everyone's parents are void of all boundaries. So if her MIL is like this I can see her not wanting her invited.
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Re: Grandparents/Aunts at kids parties
No way would I have inlaws without my parents there.
Either they ALL go, or, no one goes.
I have my dad and inlaws at the parties.
(my mom is deceased).
My mom definitley would be hurt if MIL was invited to something and not her.
Just not right.
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