Grrrrr!! I Am Highly Livid - Stupid Comments

So, I know someone that finds it necessary to point out to me that I am an overprotective mommy and I need to give Ella room to breathe.

Bear in mind that Ella is only 5 months old and as her mom I do find it very necessary to be there for every step of the way. If I do not protect her who will?

This individual finds it very necessary also to let me know each and every time that she finds it very stupid to waste money on Gymboree classses because Ella does not have a clue on what's going on there. She even went on to say she thinks that these classes are just there that all the mommies can say that there child is attending a Gymboree class (which I find to be a very ignorant comment to make).

Also, I am trying to brainstorm ideas for Ella's first birthday party and she thinks that it is not necessary to have a big party for 1 year old child it is waste and it is way for parents to outdo each other. I do understand completely that this is her opinion on things but why does she find it necessary to shove her opinions down my throat.

Everything I do for my daughter is a problem to her. She even mentioned to someone that I only to all these things for Ella so that I can show off. I mean, seriously, this is daughter and I love to give her everything that she possibly need and want. What is so wrong about that?

I am so tired and frustrated. Yesterday evening she came over with her kids to see Ella and this is what I had to put up with for her entire visit.

I feel like maybe it is time for to to send this person packing by stop speaking to her. How would you handle someone like this? Please feel free to offer your honest opinions about this situation I am so bummed about it.TIA!

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Well Opal, at first I thought you were speaking of your MIL, because that sounds like typical MIL talk!!!

Second, you are dealing with a highly jealous person.
You are capable of giving your child nice things, what is wrong with that? Every parent wants to be able to give their child the best, that's what makes us great parents.

I would honestly keep my distance from this person, they seem to be affecting you negatively and you don't need that.

And what is wrong with showing off that beautiful little girl if that WERE what you were doing?

P.S. What Gymboree do you go to? I want to take Gavin, maybe we can finally meet!

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I am going to say, simply, she sounds like she's jealous.
I would no longer share what you are doing with DD. Kind of distance yourself.
Seriously, who needs that negativity in their lives. That is not a good friend or relative (not sure who this person is).
I am sorry. I know it's hard, but, I would def. try and ignore this person.

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No one needs this sort of negativity in their life. This sounds like a friend that you should distance yourself from. If this was a family member, it'd be a different story, but a "friend"? No thanks.

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It sounds like SHE is going out of her way to get attention... How sad is it when you have to put other people down to make yourself feel better..

I agree with the APs. Distance yourself from her hateful attitude. It's not healthy for you, or DD to be around that.

p.s. Both my DC were/are in Gymboree....

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You are Ellas momma and you know what is best for her.

Maybe take a step back from this other person because it really is no good to have negativity shoved in your face all the time. It's just not worth the aggravation, unless you can find a way to let it not bother you.

So sorry you have to deal with that!

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Jealousy can make people say crappy things. Sorry you had to deal with it. I would distance myself from her. Relationships like that can be toxic

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She does seem jealous! Oh, I'd be furious too and I would probably not confront her, but would keep my distance, for sure.

What is wrong with wanting to show off your daughter anyhow?!?

What is wrong with wanting to protect your daughter? If that's not her style...so what?!

Unless you're physically or emotionally abusing your DD, she should keep her comments to herself.

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is this a FRIEND? Sure as he ll doesnt sound like a very good one. I would tell her to kiss my AZZ.. shes sounds very petty. Whats it to her what you do for your child. Dont let her make you question what you do for your child. That would be the day i let someone tell me how or what to do with my dd. Im signing sammie up for gymboree and she is 5m old, im doing it b/c i feel its a great bonding experience for me and her, and she will get tons out of it. Just being around other children and watching them, they pick up soo much.

It makes me so mad when someone says stuff about how or what your doing with your child. Tell them to go shovel some snow.

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Posted by curliegirl

Well Opal, at first I thought you were speaking of your MIL, because that sounds like typical MIL talk!!!

Second, you are dealing with a highly jealous person.
You are capable of giving your child nice things, what is wrong with that? Every parent wants to be able to give their child the best, that's what makes us great parents.

I would honestly keep my distance from this person, they seem to be affecting you negatively and you don't need that.

And what is wrong with showing off that beautiful little girl if that WERE what you were doing?

P.S. What Gymboree do you go to? I want to take Gavin, maybe we can finally meet!

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I have no patience for people like that and limit my contact with them...I usually say something like "everyone is different and I dont have opinions on how you choose to spend your time and money-". I do say it with such an attitude that it usually shuts them up.

I swear I dont even tell some people a lot of thigns because of the snide remarks

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I wanted to go to the one in Oceanside but we go to the one in Park Slope in Brooklyn on Saturdays. I visit my mom in Brooklyn on Saturdays so we go to that location. Also, it is way for my mom to spend time with Ella as well.


Oh, that's nice!
I may go the the O-side one soon....

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Every since I gave birth to Ella she finds something to comment on. She is truly getting on my nerves big time. She is the kind of person who thinks she knows more that anyone else.

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Posted by InShock

No one needs this sort of negativity in their life. This sounds like a friend that you should distance yourself from. If this was a family member, it'd be a different story, but a "friend"? No thanks.

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Honestly? This person sounds VERY jealous! DH and I have heard it all and quite frankly, screw them!

I'm so sorry you are going through this sweetie. There's nothing worse than having some insignificant person putting their two cents in every chance they can.

Just do what you want to do. You and your DH know what's best for you and your family.

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Life is stressful enough, and with a new baby it's even worse, without having to deal with such negativity.

I would distance myself. What's the point to have to justify yourself all the time?

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Hmm sound slike Jealousy. We want to do something special for Taylor and some people will think why does it need fancy favors etc but she's our daughter and had a tough time..1year is a huge milestone for her and quite honest any baby. So if you want to do a bash or whatever good for you. Celebrate Ella and send that chick packing.

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without reading anyone elses comments I have to say that you REALLY need to ignore or if possible distance yourself from this person and people like them if possible. Sounds like possibly a jealousy issue.

And honestly, no, DD may not know and understand exactly what is going on but I strongly believe that they get a lot from these types of activities. And who cares if you're trying to show her off or not (not that I'm saying you are). I'll be the first to admit that I love to show my DS off as much as I can. I'm proud of him. Furthermore, what's so wrong with wanting to join activities for mommy socialization as well. I think it is important to surround yourself with others in your same boat if you will.

Keep doing what you are doing. We are here to protect our children. At 5 months I'm not sure if we can say there is a such thing as being over-protective. Now, if you're still doing gymboree at 18 we should revisit this topic

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i would just say this is your opinion, and thats fine, but you dont need to keep expressing it. I know what you think and how you feel, so lets just leave it at that.
I dont think you should stop talking to her, but i would definitly say what you just told us.
There are many people that have the same opinion as her, and equally as yours. Everyone does things differently, you can remind her of that.

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Thanks ladies!!! I definitely will be keeping my distance from her. Yes, she is entitled to her opinions but she needs to stop badgering me with unnecessary comments.

I did not ask her for her opinions so I don't know why she feels the need to give it.

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One of my friends thought we were being overprotective of DS by not taking him out in crowded places much before he turns 3 months. Even when he turns 3 months, I think I'd like to avoid bringing him to grocery stores and the like a little longer.

This friend has no children. I explained why we weren't, and then she was still skeptical. You have to let it go at some point, and let people have their opinion, but stick to yours if you are sure what you are doing is best for your baby.

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Posted by curliegirl

Well Opal, at first I thought you were speaking of your MIL, because that sounds like typical MIL talk!!!

Second, you are dealing with a highly jealous person.
You are capable of giving your child nice things, what is wrong with that? Every parent wants to be able to give their child the best, that's what makes us great parents.

I would honestly keep my distance from this person, they seem to be affecting you negatively and you don't need that.

And what is wrong with showing off that beautiful little girl if that WERE what you were doing?

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Sounds like someone is a weeee bit jealous!!!