Re: How involved are grandparents DC's life?

My MIL and FIL babysit occasionally and see the kids at least 2X a week-they both work FT but live about 10 mins from us. My Mom had been ill for a long time but is better now and sees them about 1x every month or two. She lives 2.5 hrs away. My Dad lives in NY and last time he saw them was last summer.

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Both sets of grandparents are VERY VERY involved in Ella's life and I know they will be also for my son on the way. We are so blessed.

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my parents are a lot closer so they are super involved. Any time we need them they are around.

MIL lives out west - so she is non-existent except for once a year.

MIL#2 is on LI, but they are too busy with their lives, but get upset if we don't come by enough

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We live with my parents and they watch DD while DH and I work. How involved are they? If I stay upstairs too long on the weekends, my mom will actually tear up when I come downstairs with DD . They are over the top, annoying Italian nonni, in love with her. We are in BIG trouble!

My ILs are basically the same way. We see them 1-2x a week. Once I get over my insanity, and DD gets older and more aware, she will spend more time with Nanny and Poppa on her own.

I could go away for a month and no one would complain

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ILs: both passed away before DS was born
My parents: overseas. So essentially non existent. DS does not know them by the couple visits they have done.

So no involvment at all.

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My parents live 5 min away so they see our DD at least 2-4 times a week depending on the week. My IL's (who are only 30 min away) NEVER, EVER see her except on major holidays OR if we ask them to come here. They never call us and ask about her or ask to see her. Their loss.

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My mother watches DS 5x's a week. My father passed away when I was young.

My MIL sees DS about 1-2 times a week. She will either offer to watch him for us on a random Saurday or go to my moms once she gets off from work to see him.

FIL lives in Florida & has only seen DS once.

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My dad is very involved in DD's life, they adore each other. I know my mom would have been too but she passed away. My inlaws are useless. I don't expect much from them as they were not there for my son either during his brief life.

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MIL watches the baby 3x/week. She did that for my oldest daughter's first 3 years also. So she sees them a lot. Plus on the weekend maybe every 3-4 weeks for a dinner/lunch/etc.

My mom lives upstate so we don't get to see her as often, but it's usually every 4-6 weeks for a weekend, when she stays in our house so she sees them 24/7.

They are both very involved with the girls and worship them...help DH & I with anything we need help with for the girls.

Sadly the girls have no grandfathers.

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Re: How involved are grandparents DC's life?

Both are VERY involved.

MIL watches DS 2 days a week for us while we work.

Then the other 3 days DS goes to my sister and my mom picks him up there 2 days a week for about 3 hours .


ETA: my grandparents, DS great grandparents see DS at least 1 time per week.

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both are very they watch DD

DH and I work full time we are very blessed to have both sets

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very involved, I am really lucky

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Very.

My parents see DS about 1 or 2x a week (they live about 5 mins away)

My in-laws see him as often as they can. They live upstate and see him about once every other month, probably a little more frequently that than even.

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My IL's are very involved...We lived with them for 6 months, but even before that were a lways around!

My parents are in and out... My dad isnt really a "kids" person and my mom is around when its convient for her...

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My mom and my MIL each watch my boys 2 afternoons a week while I work, so I would say they're pretty involved. In the summer when I'm off, they don't see they quite as much, but I would say at minimum once every two weeks, usually more like once a week.

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Insanely involved by all grandparents

they live for these kids

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i work with my parents so when i go in dd comes with me so they see her a lot.
dd sees mil 2 or 3 times a month.

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My parents are very involved. See him/watch him a few times a week.

My MIL on the other hand, not so much.

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you would think my parents llived 5 miles away and not over 500.

nightly phone calls to ask josh about his day.
a package in the mail once a week...usually party favors...they hate that they are at these parties watching their siblings be grandparents and they are left out....
so my mother makes sure she grabs 4 favors for her grandkids and sends them out.
packages are opened over the phone.
a daily picture of my kids is sent to them at work.

we really work hard on getting josh to really know them...he totally does and loves them like crazy. they are really good. simple things like they send him a movie ticket when a new kids movie comes out.

he talked to my dad for over an hour while watching the superbowl "together"

my fil...came when josh was born and saw josh for 5 minutes at 12 mos. he is a sick man-a lot of issues there. but sends cards to josh. josh will talk to him on the phone.

mil. disgusting. at this point, she doesn't even deserve them.
she never came to see josh during his first year. leo was fed up and at a year, we drove josh down to her. very uninterested.
she did come around later that night to talk to him.
at 18 months, we were going to disney. i have really good grandmothers, so was bothered by josh's situation. i talk leo into inviting his mother to disney. i buy her tickets, she stays in our hotel.
at animal kingdom, she yelled at my baby. in a mean way.
well...that was kind of the beginning to the end. has no idea when his bday is. doesn't ever call since she owes us money.

she has a boyfriend with 2 sons. looking at facebook pics, it seems very flowers in the attic.
she went to puerto rico 4 times last year...never once to NC to see a new grandchild.
thanks to facebook, i see her family is also out of sorts with her.

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I should start out by saying that my parents and I (my family) live in the same 2 family house. My dad watches DS Monday-Friday while DH and I work. My mom sees him every chance she gets. DS sees my parents everyday.

As for my MIL she has seen DS a handful of times. DH actually had a huge argument with her this weekend because of it. He feels very hurt that she doesn't make an effort to see him. Of course she would never see my son nearly as often as my parents because she doesn't live in the same house we do but she lives bout 10 minutes away and works about 5 minutes away so really there is no excuse for her not having seen him more.

On a side note, I love that my parents are so involoved and helpful in the upbring of my son. My grandfather lived with us growing up and I loved him as much as my father! I hope that DS has the same close relationship with my parents as well!

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They are all pretty involved in DD's life.

My mom is super involved, maybe tries to be a bit too involved at times. But She is a HUGE help with DD, specially now while I am pg with #2. I woul dbe lost without her.

My dad and stepmom live in Florida, but are still as involved as they can be. My dad calls every day, some days several times, just to talk and hear DD. We also go on webcam as often as possible and try to get to visit each other a couple times a year. I miss him terribly and hate that he moved away right after I got married and grandchildren came along. I do not think I will ever get over that.

Inlaws, well, we see them pretty much on holidays and special occasions with a random weekend visit thrown in here or there. They did not have the "family" life I had growing up, were not super close, so I understand and am really ok with it.

I know that any of our family, inlaws included would be there in a heartbeat for us if we needed them.

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My MIL is very involved. They do sleepovers and talk on the phone all the time. My mother not as much, although if I need her to watch the kids for a short while she will. She is also 10 yrs older than my MIL and she likes to travel a lot.

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MIL lives with us and my parents live 3 min away so they're very involved. DS knows them and frankly enjoys spending time with them.

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Both my parents and DH's father and step-mother are very involved and absolutely adore Shaun.

DH's mother cant be bothered