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Bridex100
Two Under Two Mommy
Member since 3/08 10420 total posts
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Momx100
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
If I don't get laid off, I plan to go back after aboout 4 months (3 months maternity + 1 month vacation days).
I think the current plan is to have the grandparents watch the baby until s/he is a little older and then we can send her/him to daycare/nursery school.
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Posted 9/19/08 12:06 PM  |
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conigs25
So in love with this kid!
Member since 5/06 11197 total posts
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Michele
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
Im a teacher and im due in May. Im obviously taking the rest of the year off and taking most-all of next year off. Then i DEFINITELY have to go back.
I hate how friggin expensive LI is!!!
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| Posted 9/19/08 12:22 PM |
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pickles16
Real Estate Professional
Member since 11/07 17227 total posts
Name:
Jen
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
Posted by MrsFlatbread
Posted by pickles16
Posted by MrsFlatbread
I want my mother to be a grandmother not a daycare provider. This could potentially cause further problems.
I just wish people would keep their comments to themselves with regard to my choices.
Totally, thankfully my mom is still really young and working, MIL on the other hand is older and ready to retire, but in NO way do I want someone else's views raising my child, per the post yesterday about getting along with MIL, I just won't have it....at least I know wtih daycare or a nanny, they will have to go by what I want, or I will pull her out or change the nanny...DH hates the idea of daycare or a nanny, so that is why I'm really hoping to get something from home...
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| Posted 9/19/08 12:23 PM |
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Jazzyt
My Girl!!!
Member since 8/07 2977 total posts
Name:
Giselle
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
I had DD on 7/16 I am planning to return to work 10/16
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| Posted 9/19/08 12:36 PM |
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isabelle2137
LIF Adult
Member since 12/06 1076 total posts
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
I think we could swing it financially, but it would be awfully tight, and I'm not willing to do that to my family.
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| Posted 9/19/08 12:38 PM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
Posted by MrsFlatbread
But honestly, the daycare option is more convenient for our work schedules and not to mention, I want my mother to be a grandmother not a daycare provider. This could potentially cause further problems.
My Mother watches Andrew and is def still his grandmother. I really don't get this statement.
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| Posted 9/19/08 12:43 PM |
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Reese1106
Family of 4! :o)
Member since 8/06 6655 total posts
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Theresa
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
As of today, I'm undecided. I say "I" because I did not have to return to work after DS was born (he's 15 mos) but chose to return because I wasn't ready to be a SAHM. DH would prefer I stay home but really supports my decision either way. I'll make my decision once I'm out on leave. I'll always work but just may not return to working for someone else. 
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| Posted 9/19/08 12:46 PM |
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MrsFlatbread
Skinny jeans are in my future
Member since 6/06 10258 total posts
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Baby Momma
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by MrsFlatbread
But honestly, the daycare option is more convenient for our work schedules and not to mention, I want my mother to be a grandmother not a daycare provider. This could potentially cause further problems.
My Mother watches Andrew and is def still his grandmother. I really don't get this statement.
You don't have to...it was my statement, regarding my situation. Everyone has a different situation. It would not work for mine.
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| Posted 9/19/08 12:46 PM |
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pickles16
Real Estate Professional
Member since 11/07 17227 total posts
Name:
Jen
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by MrsFlatbread
But honestly, the daycare option is more convenient for our work schedules and not to mention, I want my mother to be a grandmother not a daycare provider. This could potentially cause further problems.
My Mother watches Andrew and is def still his grandmother. I really don't get this statement.
Not to start drama, but I agree with MrsFlatbread, I can't see my mother watching my DD 5 days a week 8 hours a day and having it not feel as she was more of a childcare provider than a grandmother...I can see taking care of DD one or two days a week and still being able to be "Grandma" but every day I don't think its fair for either the parent and the grandparent...
ETA: This is my personal view it really is what works for each individual...
Message edited 9/19/2008 12:51:17 PM.
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| Posted 9/19/08 12:48 PM |
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SweetTooth
I'm a tired mommy!
Member since 12/05 20105 total posts
Name:
Lauren
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
Posted by MrsFlatbread
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by MrsFlatbread
But honestly, the daycare option is more convenient for our work schedules and not to mention, I want my mother to be a grandmother not a daycare provider. This could potentially cause further problems.
My Mother watches Andrew and is def still his grandmother. I really don't get this statement.
You don't have to...it was my statement, regarding my situation. Everyone has a different situation. It would not work for mine.
I understand what you meant.
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| Posted 9/19/08 12:49 PM |
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Porrruss
Nya nya nya
Member since 5/05 11618 total posts
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Amy
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
I will return to work 3.5 days a week. We are very blessed in that DH does shift work- so he's able to work doubles the days I'm home, and is off the days I work.
We don't have tons of alone time together, so we make every moment count. But the $$$ we save and the piece of mind is totally worth it.
Plus- he's a WAY better stay at home parent than I am. In fact, I tell everyone at work I have the best wife in the world...
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| Posted 9/19/08 12:50 PM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
Posted by MrsFlatbread
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by MrsFlatbread
But honestly, the daycare option is more convenient for our work schedules and not to mention, I want my mother to be a grandmother not a daycare provider. This could potentially cause further problems.
My Mother watches Andrew and is def still his grandmother. I really don't get this statement.
You don't have to...it was my statement, regarding my situation. Everyone has a different situation. It would not work for mine.
Sorry it was just offensive to me. I guess it was just the way it was worded.
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| Posted 9/19/08 12:51 PM |
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MrsFlatbread
Skinny jeans are in my future
Member since 6/06 10258 total posts
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Baby Momma
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
Posted by 5ofClubs
You don't have to...it was my statement, regarding my situation. Everyone has a different situation. It would not work for mine.
Sorry it was just offensive to me. I guess it was just the way it was worded.
No need to take offense, it was just my thoughts on our decision.
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| Posted 9/19/08 12:52 PM |
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autumn
Mommy to 2 divas
Member since 9/07 3389 total posts
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Lisa
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
I have no choice but to go back I am hoping to go back part time if DH and my Job doesn't have a problem.
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| Posted 9/19/08 12:59 PM |
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MarisaK
HELLO Manolo !!
Member since 5/06 14562 total posts
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Marisa
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by MrsFlatbread
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by MrsFlatbread
But honestly, the daycare option is more convenient for our work schedules and not to mention, I want my mother to be a grandmother not a daycare provider. This could potentially cause further problems.
My Mother watches Andrew and is def still his grandmother. I really don't get this statement.
You don't have to...it was my statement, regarding my situation. Everyone has a different situation. It would not work for mine.
Sorry it was just offensive to me. I guess it was just the way it was worded.
I don't think MrsFlatbread meant to offend anyone - Please don't be upset - I hate when people get upset on this board, this is the NICE board !!!
We ALL have such different views on how our family dynamic will work and what will work in one family may be disasterous in another -
In MY family, I'd let my parents totally spoil my kid IF they saw him/her once or twice a week -
If my Mom was my primary caregiver, I'd expect her to help me raise the baby based on what I wanted - which would mean he/she eats, sleeps, watches TV, plays, gets ice cream, throw a fit etc etc according to ME -
Which would basically throw the whole 'I get to do whatever I want at Grandma's house' idea out the window .......And THAT would make my Mom unhappy b/c she wants to be the one who gets to do the 'bad' stuff with the kid - And if my Mom were disappointed and unhappy w/ her "Grandma" role, I'd be unhappy -
And my mom is such a crazy, creative, fun kooky person that I'd be depriving my kid of their 'real' Grandma, and depriving my Mom of BEING that for my kid if I asked her to be the primary caregiver and put all of these 'rules' on her ..........
KWIM?
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| Posted 9/19/08 1:00 PM |
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pickles16
Real Estate Professional
Member since 11/07 17227 total posts
Name:
Jen
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by MrsFlatbread
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by MrsFlatbread
But honestly, the daycare option is more convenient for our work schedules and not to mention, I want my mother to be a grandmother not a daycare provider. This could potentially cause further problems.
My Mother watches Andrew and is def still his grandmother. I really don't get this statement.
You don't have to...it was my statement, regarding my situation. Everyone has a different situation. It would not work for mine.
Sorry it was just offensive to me. I guess it was just the way it was worded.
I don't think MrsFlatbread meant to offend anyone - Please don't be upset - I hate when people get upset on this board, this is the NICE board !!!
We ALL have such different views on how our family dynamic will work and what will work in one family may be disasterous in another -
In MY family, I'd let my parents totally spoil my kid IF they saw him/her once or twice a week -
If my Mom was my primary caregiver, I'd expect her to help me raise the baby based on what I wanted - which would mean he/she eats, sleeps, watches TV, plays, gets ice cream, throw a fit etc etc according to ME -
Which would basically throw the whole 'I get to do whatever I want at Grandma's house' idea out the window .......And THAT would make my Mom unhappy b/c she wants to be the one who gets to do the 'bad' stuff with the kid - And if my Mom were disappointed and unhappy w/ her "Grandma" role, I'd be unhappy -
And my mom is such a crazy, creative, fun kooky person that I'd be depriving my kid of their 'real' Grandma, and depriving my Mom of BEING that for my kid if I asked her to be the primary caregiver and put all of these 'rules' on her ..........
KWIM?
Totally AGREE with every single thing you said!!!!!!
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| Posted 9/19/08 1:02 PM |
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MrsFlatbread
Skinny jeans are in my future
Member since 6/06 10258 total posts
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Baby Momma
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
Posted by pickles16
I don't think MrsFlatbread meant to offend anyone - Please don't be upset - I hate when people get upset on this board, this is the NICE board !!!
We ALL have such different views on how our family dynamic will work and what will work in one family may be disasterous in another -
In MY family, I'd let my parents totally spoil my kid IF they saw him/her once or twice a week -
If my Mom was my primary caregiver, I'd expect her to help me raise the baby based on what I wanted - which would mean he/she eats, sleeps, watches TV, plays, gets ice cream, throw a fit etc etc according to ME -
Which would basically throw the whole 'I get to do whatever I want at Grandma's house' idea out the window .......And THAT would make my Mom unhappy b/c she wants to be the one who gets to do the 'bad' stuff with the kid - And if my Mom were disappointed and unhappy w/ her "Grandma" role, I'd be unhappy -
And my mom is such a crazy, creative, fun kooky person that I'd be depriving my kid of their 'real' Grandma, and depriving my Mom of BEING that for my kid if I asked her to be the primary caregiver and put all of these 'rules' on her ..........
KWIM?
Totally AGREE with every single thing you said!!!!!!
me too!
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| Posted 9/19/08 1:13 PM |
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LIMOMx2
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
Different Strokes for Different Folks
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| Posted 9/19/08 1:16 PM |
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mommy2B3
2 boys 2 girls!!!!
Member since 7/08 3324 total posts
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M
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
I'll be finishing my last semester of school, which will be full-time. I'm also going to work part-time, but I have a very flexible job that I'll be home working for the first 6 months.
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| Posted 9/19/08 1:17 PM |
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2BEANS
wow time is going fast.
Member since 9/07 16106 total posts
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Tina
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
DH and I are considering the idea that I will be going back fulltime after this baby and he will be either pt or sahd.. I dont want to go back fulltime but it may be what we need to do to get the house we want adventually.
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| Posted 9/19/08 1:18 PM |
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bonitachyc
big sister status may 2012!!
Member since 5/08 3242 total posts
Name:
Lupe
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
i'll be leaving work even before  gets here because we're relocating to illinois....
i would love to say i'll go back to work after x amount of months, but we're saving up lots right now to cushion us for living off of one income, so we're going to play it by ear...but i have no idea!
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| Posted 9/19/08 1:19 PM |
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nferrandi
too excited for words
Member since 10/05 18538 total posts
Name:
Nicole
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
I only took 3 weeks off with DS because I own my own dance school and didn't really have another option. We're trying for #2 now and I'm "hoping" to plan to have the baby when I'm off in the summer so I can have a little more time with my newborn. But I will return the work in September. I only work part time and make too much money to walk away.
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| Posted 9/19/08 1:24 PM |
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mrsv
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Member since 7/06 2969 total posts
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lol
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
I will be taking 12 weeks off and returning to work. I worked very hard in my career and love my job. I could not imagine not working, it's who I am.
I am very fortunate because I work from 4 pm till 12 am. Dh is home by 3 pm, so there will always be a parent home with DD and no need for day care. We will each have our bonding time with DD.
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| Posted 9/19/08 1:34 PM |
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monkeybride
My Everything
Member since 5/05 20541 total posts
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
Posted by MrsFlatbread
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by MrsFlatbread
But honestly, the daycare option is more convenient for our work schedules and not to mention, I want my mother to be a grandmother not a daycare provider. This could potentially cause further problems.
My Mother watches Andrew and is def still his grandmother. I really don't get this statement.
You don't have to...it was my statement, regarding my situation. Everyone has a different situation. It would not work for mine.
Honestly hats off to you for knowing that it won't work. I had my doubts but I wanted to make my mom happy and 3 years later it got ugly mixing "business" and family. With the baby if I return to work at some point we will be using childcare outside the family because I don't want to deal with the dynamic. IMO using a family member for FT daycare does potentially take away from their role as grandma, aunt, cousin..whatever. They are working for you and it gets tricky.
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| Posted 9/19/08 1:38 PM |
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Katie111806
Team Pink!
Member since 12/06 5349 total posts
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Katie
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Re: How many of you will be returning to work after baby is born?
Posted by monkeybride
Posted by MrsFlatbread
Posted by 5ofClubs
Posted by MrsFlatbread
But honestly, the daycare option is more convenient for our work schedules and not to mention, I want my mother to be a grandmother not a daycare provider. This could potentially cause further problems.
My Mother watches Andrew and is def still his grandmother. I really don't get this statement.
You don't have to...it was my statement, regarding my situation. Everyone has a different situation. It would not work for mine.
Honestly hats off to you for knowing that it won't work. I had my doubts but I wanted to make my mom happy and 3 years later it got ugly mixing "business" and family. With the baby if I return to work at some point we will be using childcare outside the family because I don't want to deal with the dynamic. IMO using a family member for FT daycare does potentially take away from their role as grandma, aunt, cousin..whatever. They are working for you and it gets tricky.
I agree. My grandmother essentially helped raise my four cousins full time and it has caused a lot of issues in the family. Sometimes it works and it is a great solution, other times it's not. It wouldn't work for my situation either (if we lived near my parents/ILs.)
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| Posted 9/19/08 1:56 PM |
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