Husband staying at the hospital

Is everyone's husband planning on staying at / and sleeping at the hospital?
My husband really wants to stay - and honestly I am a suffer in silence type and prefer to be alone when I know I am going to be so uncomfortable. Just curious if everyones husband stays..
Thanks

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Hell no! I wanted to sleep in peace.

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with DD, DH didnt stay - he'd leave at like 11pm, and come back at 6am or so.

Since we have DD, DH won't be staying either. I think its better for me to get my sleep and him to get his ;0)

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My husband didn't stay with DS and he won't be with this one either. My hospital doesn't allow it actually, so it was a non-issue. You should prob check to see if yours does or not, that might solve the issue. But honestly, I didn't see the need for him to spend an uncomfortable night in a chair, it wasn't going to make me sleep any better.

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He couldn't stay overnight-he left at 10 pm and I was fine with it!!!!

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my husband didn't. #1- i want him to get a good nights sleep. #2- i want to get a good nights sleep and not listen to him snoring!!!

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I don't think I want DH to stay. I think he will be ok with going home. We have 3 pups at home that will need some attention besides, I think I may have a hard time getting my Mom to leave-LOL

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DH stayed with my when I had DD. I loved having him there!

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At my hospital, if you don't have a private room, no one can stay over. I had a shared room so he went home each night. No issues.

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DH is planning on staying. We live about 10 mins from the hospital, so the plan is for him to run back and forth and feed/walk our dogs..but he will spend the night. Whether or not this will actually happen....remains to be seen!

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I am not sure if DH is allowed to stay but he probably wont. I would rather he get some sleep and me as well Besides more then likely I will have a shared room so I wouldn't want my roomate to be uncomfortable.

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DH didn't stay last time - I figured I wanted him to go home and get some sleep.

The first night, I didn't get into my room until almost midnight, he left around 1 and he was back by 9am the next morning. The second night, he left around 8 and returned around 8.

ETA - I had my own room and was formula feeding so I sent DS to the nursery for the night as well.

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didnt stay when i had my first. And now he definately wont be staying for our second cause he has to watch our dd

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DH is not allowed to stay and he wouldnt even if he could. He needs his sleep as much as I do.

Also, I would not be happy if I was in a non private room and the other person had their husband stay. I think its only ok in a private room.

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DH stayed with me for DD. We were lucky enough to have a private room so the hospital was ok with it. It was good bonding time for him and dd!

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DH stayed with me for DD #1. I felt bad though - he had to sleep in a very uncomfortable chair. But it was nice to have him there being a nervous first time mom.

With this pregnancy, I dont think he will stay with me and I am totally fine with that. I would rather him go home each night to be with DD #1.

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Not with DD...although he'd stay very late and come back super early. One time he got there so early the nurses let him wake me up by wheeling DD into the room.

Clearly he won't be staying this time either as he has to be home with DD.

And I liked having some time to just "relax" alone. Plus the woman next to me had her hubby stay and they gabbed and fought all night long...it was awful (not saying you guys will do that....!)

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DH wasn't allowed to stay when I had DS at Good Sam last summer. It was horrible, I really hated not having him there. I had an emergency c-section and couldn't twist my body without major help and it took so much effort to get out of bed. I was breastfeeding at it wasn't going well at all. I was having a hard time getting the hang of how to hold him while getting him to latch, etc etc. DH was a big help. He would take DS out of the bassinet and hand him to me because it was painful getting out of bed and took a while and DS would just scream because he was hungry. Then when he handed DS to me he would help me get the hang of holding him and help me get him to latch. The pain meds I was on also made me so tired so I would often fall asleep while trying to nurse DS and it was scary. The nurses were no help either. They would yell that DS wasn't getting enough to eat and that I should just give him formula and that I shouldn't be falling asleep, etc etc. When DH would leave at 11pm I would cry. It was horrible. Sometimes I'd call for help from the nurse and it would take awhile for them to get there. I caved one night and just said give him formula and felt SO guilty that I couldn't stay awake. It was so much easier when DH was there.

This time I am delivering at Stony Brook and attempting a VBAC with my midwife. At Stony Brook DH will get to stay but now that we have a DS I don't know how that is going to work out. We will see.

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DH will be staying with me and i am so happy he can.

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I delivered in a brand new hospital with private rooms. I told DH he could leave if he wanted but once he saw the baby, he never left my side (all 3 nights). Honestly I was so happy to have him there. He was so helpful.

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DH stayed when dd was born and we always say it was some of the best money we ever spent (I paid 600 for a private room). We had dd in our room all night long and it was such a special time. DH would go home every morning to shower and than come right back to see us.

This pregnancy my dh won't be staying because he will be staying home with dd at night. I am going to really miss him, I think I am going to be lonely. We have never spent a night apart in the past 5 years

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DH stayed with me the first time even though I was unable to get a private room and as far as my roommate (and I've already been flamed for this) I really did not give a hoot. We were quiet, respectful, he did not use our bathroom, and tbh the room was large with a set of curtains that basically created two spaces and a "hallway" to the bathroom. I could not tell u what the roommate even looked like. I needed the help after a very very rough delivery and all the nurses wanted to do was feed me painkillers. IMO since the hospital allowed for husbands to stay and we wanted to stay together I took advantage of the opportunity.

This time we did get a private room and he stayed again. Ds stayed with mil and DH probably got more rest than he would have at home. This time my labor was a lot easier but we still wanted to stay together.
That's just how we roll.

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Not sure but I highly doubt it! We have two dogs at home too and depending on what time I go into labor, DH will have to go and make sure they are walked, fed etc.

I don't think I'd mind sleeping alone as long as he's there first thing in the morning...with FOOD!

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My DH stayed one night in the hospital with me with my 1st because it was an emergency C, and I had to stay in the recovery room over night, so he slept with me, that was the only time.