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Re: I am trying to gauge something here...tonight is my friend's wake and
Do you have a neighbor or semi-trusted friend/relative that can go with you to the wake to watch your ds there with you feet away if needed? they usually have a room downstairs for kids.
I don't think there is a problem bringing ds but if you aren't comfortable its a semi-way out.
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cjik
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Re: I am trying to gauge something here...tonight is my friend's wake and
I don't see a problem with it. He may even sleep through it and not disturb anyone at all. If he starts to cry, I think you need to have someone ready to walk outside with him a bit, but otherwise, take him.
I think young children lighten the mood at these things.
I am sorry for your loss.
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| Posted 3/15/10 3:32 PM |
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Candy Girl
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Re: I am trying to gauge something here...tonight is my friend's wake and
I don't see a problem with bringing him. I'm really sorry about your friend.
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| Posted 3/15/10 3:35 PM |
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wowcoulditbe
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Re: I am trying to gauge something here...tonight is my friend's wake and
I would bring him, we always do...when dd#2 was 10 days old, dh's bf died and we brought Kristina (who could watch her and feed her at the point?)...no one said a thing - we've also brought my dd who's three to wakes and funerals - to me (and my family, since its how i grew up), it a natural thing and getting them used to it early on is easier. Dh went to his first funeral when his mom died, it was very hard so he is very open to taking the girls.
sorry about your loss!
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| Posted 3/15/10 3:57 PM |
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lulugrrl
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Re: I am trying to gauge something here...tonight is my friend's wake and
I have been in this situation three times. Once when my DS was about 3 months, once when he was 18 months, and again when he was 2. Each time was a family member, and everyone I knew was going, so could not get a sitter. All three times was my husbands family, so I hung in the back with DS, and took him out of he was making noise. All three times I had numerous people come up to me and say how wonderful it was to have him there to help with the grief. His cousin who is 2 days older, has also been at each one of these wakes/funerals with us. I avoided exposing DS to the casket, and the tears for the most part, DH or someone else would just take him when it was time to pay my respects.
you can't NOT go...so just keep your DS as busy as possible
I am so sorry for the loss of your friend.
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| Posted 3/15/10 4:31 PM |
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mooshyboo
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Re: I am trying to gauge something here...tonight is my friend's wake and
I am so sorry for your loss
I think it fine for you to bring your ds ~ when you go up have someone from your family/friends hold your son in the back
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| Posted 3/15/10 5:26 PM |
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Kristin616
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Re: I am trying to gauge something here...tonight is my friend's wake and
I do not think they will mind. Maybe you can bring him in the stroller and put him in the back?? You and your Dh can take turns staying w/ him.
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| Posted 3/15/10 5:36 PM |
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twinkletoes807
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Re: I am trying to gauge something here...tonight is my friend's wake and
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My honest opinion is that I think that babies help lighten the mood a little - they give people something to smile about. I see nothing wrong with bringing him at all.
ITA! I wouldn't say "Sorry," to your friend's mom either. I am so sorry for your loss. 
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| Posted 3/15/10 5:38 PM |
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NYchic
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Re: I am trying to gauge something here...tonight is my friend's wake and
Again, so sorry for your loss.
I have seen many babies, children of all different ages at wakes. I think they will understand that you had no one to watch your son. I think it's totally ok.
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| Posted 3/15/10 5:58 PM |
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Ophelia
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Re: I am trying to gauge something here...tonight is my friend's wake and UPDATED
ETA:
I wanted to thank you all so much for your advice and support. deciding to take my son (b/c of how comfortable all of you made me feel about it) was the best thing I could have done.
everyone loved seeing him...he was such a good boy. and best of all, Natalie's father told me that seeing him was the first time he smiled since he learned of her death.  
in fact, people were even asking me for him at her funeral yesterday.
and again, I just wanted to say thank you. This all has been extremely difficult for Nat's family and her "army of friends" as her brother put it.
your support, even virtually, has been a tremendous help.
thank you.
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maybeamommy
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Eireann
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Re: I am trying to gauge something here...tonight is my friend's wake and UPDATED
I'm glad he was able to bring happiness to a tragic situation. Hope you are doing well...
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