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halisa
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
i totally understand the connection you feel with breastfeeding, but i have to agree with everyone that a healthy mom is the best gift you can give your child. please feel proud of all you have done so far. i'm sure your baby will do great if you switch to formula.
lots of well wishes for a speedy recovery through all this. 
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JessieQ
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
Posted by Cookiegobbler
I'm so sorry to hear this!!
I am a breastfeeder as well and I know that it would be very hard for me to stop as well.
That being said, I think that YOU being HEALTHY is MUCH MUCH MUCH more important than continuing to breastfeed your son. You have already given him a wonderful start to his life and now it's time for you to make sure that you take care of your own health.
I agree, it's a hard choice to make and only you can make it, but you will do more of a service to your son by taking care of yourself than by breastfeeding for a little longer.
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| Posted 11/8/07 11:37 AM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
I'm so sorry to hear this. I did not BF, but I can understand that you are so reluctant to give it up. However, I agree with the other ladies that you need to put your health first because your baby needs his mamma to be strong and healthy
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| Posted 11/8/07 11:40 AM |
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ggmom
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
Posted by Tine73
Posted by nymommy2be
I totally understand what you are feeling because I BF and I know how special it is. But, you need to put your health first. Your baby needs a healthy mama more than anything else.
I am so sorry you have to go through this, but your DS needs a healthy mom. That's what he'll remember not if you BF him or not.
I agree...my thoughts are with you.
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| Posted 11/8/07 11:42 AM |
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dandr10199
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
Posted by waterspout4
I'm not really sure if I'm looking for advice or just hugs. Maybe I'm just looking for someone to listen. I had a difficult time getting pregnant. Amongst many things, they found a pituitary tumor. Chemo helped shrink it enough for the hopes of getting pregnant. Amazingly enough, we received our Christmas miracle last year of the BFP. I love my son!!!!
We knew that not going through chemo for a while would allow the tumor to increase, possibly too much. We knew that I might not be able to breastfeed for long, once they were able to check the tumor. I have swelling behind my left eye and the worst has been realized. The tumor has grown a lot. I have to choose when to begin chemo again. Now, I know we knew it would happen, but I was looking for another miracle.
Heres my dilemma: I want to keep breastfeeding because I know Michael might be my only child. But I want to choose chemo in hopes of having another child. I feel like I have to choose one possible child over my little angel. I know most of you would just say 'choose chemo' without blinking an eye. But if you've ever breastfed, I hope you understand why I'm devastated.
Thanks for reading this. 
I am so sorry that you are going through this. I am praying for you. 
I had to stop Bfing due to heart meds that I had to take to try to avoid surgery (which I ended up having). I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from I cried for a few days after being TOLD I HAD TO stop bfing, The meds I was taking could cause brain damage in breastfed babies and babies in utero. I was told at the end of my pregnancy that I may not have any more kids and that was confirmed after surgery. So, that coupled with stopping BFing, and everything else was a hard pill to swallow. It SUCKS! It truly does and everyone will tell you that "it is all for the best", yadda, yadda, yadda BUT I felt like months of Bfing were taken from me. Plus, my body was not producing enough milk after I was told this to pump it before taking the meds because I was so upset and stressed. After a while, I got over it. When people would ask me about it I would say "it's no big deal" or make jokes about it. The truth is, I was devastated but I felt I had to be strong for my DH and family, KWIM? I mean, I knew they would not understand. Sorry to write a book, but I know how you are feeling and if you need to cry about, do so. FM me if you want to talk.
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| Posted 11/8/07 11:58 AM |
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ckone
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
I just had a similar conversation with my girlfriend last night and how breastfeeding can be such an attachment issue for the mom. I breastfed and my milk supply slowly deminished - I just didn't want to give it up. I breastfed DS for the last time on his six month birthday and I was sooooo sad because you never know.
It's a very hard and emotional step but that day eventually comes and you have to do what's best in the end for everyone. You will be sad but there are so many other exciting things to think about.
After you get yourself healthy and ready - you'll be back at it again before you know it with baby #2.
Good luck.
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| Posted 11/8/07 12:16 PM |
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dawnygirl25
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
No real advice unfortunately but I wanted to send you lots of hugs. Hope you feel better soon!
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| Posted 11/8/07 12:16 PM |
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juanvi
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
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| Posted 11/8/07 12:37 PM |
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BellaRock
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
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Faithx2
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
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lullabella
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
 Choose life, you won't be any good to your son if you aren't here even if you breasfeed him.
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DUCKS2001
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
Kelly I will email you
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| Posted 11/8/07 1:17 PM |
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tgunn
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
I know its hard..but Your health first..your son and your next baby need you here more than they need breastmilk
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| Posted 11/8/07 2:00 PM |
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DancinBarefoot
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
Kelly, I'm going to tell you the same thing I told Kerie, you BF your son during those all important first few days when your body was only producing colostrum and not milk yet. He has received the wonderful benefit of the antibodies that can ONLY be found in colostrum (and you were lucky enough to be able to continue beyond just that first week).
Now it is time for you to take care of your health so that Michael has a mommy when his first birthday gets here. You are NOT chosing a future child over Michael. You are chosing to be healthy enough to enjoy this child's life to the fullest extent. Knock it off, or I will beat you with the stick I used to beat Kerie!!! 
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CkGm
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
I totally understand. As someone who spent hundreds of dollars and many visits to consultants just to get a milk supply to keep breastfeeding, I can see how it would be so important.
But you being around to enjoy your child is the most important and your health should come first. I just wanted to give you some
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| Posted 11/8/07 2:05 PM |
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cgdg61606
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
I breastfed for 4 months and felt very sad when I stopped. It is a highly emotional connection. However, I do believe that you must take care of your health first.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers!
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| Posted 11/8/07 2:07 PM |
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beachgirl13
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
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waytogo
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
Posted by Little-J-Mommy
Posted by Disneygirl
My advice have a really good cry over this then work on getting your little man a healthy momma
ITA. This reminds me of something a friend said to me yesterday.....when you're on a plane....they tell you to put the mask on yourself before you help anyone else. A healthy mama....makes for a happy baby (just ask DebG)
Well said!
I totally understand feeling devastated, I thought I was going to have to stop for health reasons once but luckily all resolved on its own...
Good luck with your treatments!
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Reese1106
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
I wish I had some advice for you. I agree with what has been said about your health being very important for both your son and any future children you may have. I'm not sure what I would do in your situation but I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
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Lucky
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Re: I knew this day would come, but I'm still devastated (LONG)
Posted by Tine73
Posted by nymommy2be
I totally understand what you are feeling because I BF and I know how special it is. But, you need to put your health first. Your baby needs a healthy mama more than anything else.
I am so sorry you have to go through this, but your DS needs a healthy mom. That's what he'll remember not if you BF him or not.
ITA. You will find other special ways of bonding with DS. You need to work on getting yourself well!!!
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