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ThreeforTea
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Re: If you are invited to a communion, do you attend the church or...
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Posted by Paramount
I'm Jewish and I have to say I'm blown over by these responses.
My GF's daughter had her first communion last year. I would never think of going to the restaurant for lunch without going to Church. (I actually enjoy church, but the Church changed everything....so I'm a VERY confused Jew)
Sometimes people cant make the service for one reason or another. And that is understandable. But I would think Church is the more important of the two, no?
Is this a Christian thing where its "accepted" to just go to the party? NO FLAME AT ALL. I'm asking an honest question.
ETA: If seating is not an issue.....
Unlike a bar mitzvah, where the ceremony is just about one child, in most churches, the communion service is for many children at one time - so there literally is just not room for every child to have 50-100 guests (or however many). It is perfectly "normal" to only go to the party and not the church, for a communion. For the communions I have been too, usually just very close family (parents, grandparents, godparents, close aunts & uncles & cousins) go to the church - if there is room. And even then, I have been to some where the child's family had to make a "cutoff list" of who could go to the church because the number of guests allowed was very limited.
exactly this.
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Re: If you are invited to a communion, do you attend the church or...
A pet peeve of mine is when people only go to the party. This means my family/friends, people I know IRL. I couldn't care less what the internet does 
I only say this because my dd is making her first holy communion. And her uncle told us he would see us at the restaurant. I don't know if he was serious, but it bugs me. I try to make it to the church for our families sacraments. Dh's family is the complete opposite. They would skip the church for my dd if it was it their granddaughter
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JME78
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Re: If you are invited to a communion, do you attend the church or...
For me part of the reason I do not attend the church is that I have a lot of issues with the Catholic Church and things like communions make me very uncomfortable.
I will go to parties of family members because I don't need to hear drama if I don't, but I don't really feel the need to participate in something I disagree with.
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gina409
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Re: If you are invited to a communion, do you attend the church or...
Posted by SusiBee
Family - go to church if there is enough seating.
Friends - just the party.
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gina409
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Re: If you are invited to a communion, do you attend the church or...
For every communion my niece or nephew made there was tickets given out for a certain number of guests to attend and it was standing room
So attending church wasn't even a option
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Seawolf
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Re: If you are invited to a communion, do you attend the church or...
Usually seating is limited - my church requires a ticket, and each child is only given like 6 of them - so unless you're immediate family, you'd probably only attend the party.
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Re: If you are invited to a communion, do you attend the church or...
Our church only gives you one or two pews. A lot of times people don't even include the church on the invitation because of space limitations.
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Mrs213
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If you are invited to a communion, do you attend the church or...
Party only.
We just got invited to one and the party isn't until 6pm, and we were actually told not to come to church if we didn't want because it's so crowded
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dpli
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If you are invited to a communion, do you attend the church or...
Family - I go to the church if I am invited to
Friends - just the party, they usually don't invite to the church anyway
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Strawberry2468
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Re: If you are invited to a communion, do you attend the church or...
I normally do, but not with my kids. lol
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Re: If you are invited to a communion, do you attend the church or...
Posted by Paramount
I'm Jewish and I have to say I'm blown over by these responses.
My GF's daughter had her first communion last year. I would never think of going to the restaurant for lunch without going to Church. (I actually enjoy church, but the Church changed everything....so I'm a VERY confused Jew)
Sometimes people cant make the service for one reason or another. And that is understandable. But I would think Church is the more important of the two, no?
Is this a Christian thing where its "accepted" to just go to the party? NO FLAME AT ALL. I'm asking an honest question.
ETA: If seating is not an issue.....
As mentioned in many posts above it is often a space issue. It's not like a wedding or a bar mitzvah, or evening a christening.
Kids make their communion in a certain grade ( 2nd, think), so it can be the whole 2nd grade from
the parish school and/or all of the 2nd graders in the religious ed program for public school kids.
Sometimes they do a few different services to accommodate everyone, so it is a privilege to be invited to the ceremony, since the parish often limits guests. So, even if there is space, it is acceptable, b/c the ceremony is considered something for close family.
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hmm
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Re: If you are invited to a communion, do you attend the church or...
Posted by Hofstra26
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I think the church would be more important to attend. Its like being invited to a Bat mitvah but only going to the party
Actually, many times the church is unable to seat every child making communion and ALL of their immediate and extended family. It's not uncommon for the church to request only the immediate family and maybe 2-4 extra guests per family. I've been invited to many communions/confirmations where they asked us to attend the party only because of the limitations within the church.
If everyone is welcome into the church that day it's nice if you can attend but it's NOT a must IMO. Even with my own kids, I had family/friends that didn't make it to the church for their christening but were at the party. I didn't think anything of it.
oh, Im jewish, so to me it seemed odd not to attend, but if that is the norm...
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bunnyluck
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If you are invited to a communion, do you attend the church or...
All communions I have been invited to have seating restrictions so I have not been to the church. That said, if I could attend I would if the reception was immediately following or close.
We were invited to a baptism last year that was over an hour away from home and had a three hour break between the ending of ceremony and start of reception. We did not attend the ceremony, I think the parents were slightly offended about that :/
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Aries14
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If you are invited to a communion, do you attend the church or...
we always go to the church.
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2boys1girl
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If you are invited to a communion, do you attend the church or...
While our church does get packed communion is giving during the mass so it's open door policy.
I EXPECT immediate family to be there but I do not expect it of friends (even though I put the info on the invite in case they would like to attend mass)
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