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Deeluvsvinny
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG
I'm guessing that I should tell you guys the worst part of this whole situation..I don't think I ever have..
StepMIL was DH's Mom's first cousin! 
It is well known in the family that she went after him AT DH's Mom's WAKE. She is a GOLD DIGGER. I almost had the DJ play it at the wedding for her.
Dh's Grandma recently revealed to us that Dh's mom confided in her and others a long time ago that she felt that when/if she passed away, StepMIL would go after FIL!
I think this explains a lot about her and the way she behaves!
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG (UPDATE ON PAGE TWO, INTERESTING!!)
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
I'm guessing that I should tell you guys the worst part of this whole situation..I don't think I ever have..
StepMIL was DH's Mom's first cousin!
It is well known in the family that she went after him AT DH's Mom's WAKE. She is a GOLD DIGGER. I almost had the DJ play it at the wedding for her.
Dh's Grandma recently revealed to us that Dh's mom confided in her and others a long time ago that she felt that when/if she passed away, StepMIL would go after FIL!
I think this explains a lot about her and the way she behaves!
Sorry, I am trying to remove my jaw from the floor.
What an evil wench from Hell!
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| Posted 1/27/10 12:57 PM |
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RandiG
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG (UPDATE ON PAGE TWO, INTERESTING!!)
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| Posted 1/27/10 12:59 PM |
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG (UPDATE ON PAGE TWO, INTERESTING!!)
Hmm, she sounds like a real prize. I would be happy my child wasn't calling her grandma. I think her first name would be appropriate.
As for the children, I think whatever you want to do is fine. However, it really isn't their fault, and they may turn out to be really good uncles despite their mother.
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| Posted 1/27/10 1:06 PM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG (UPDATE ON PAGE TWO, INTERESTING!!)
Posted by KerriSteve
Hmm, she sounds like a real prize. I would be happy my child wasn't calling her grandma. I think her first name would be appropriate.
As for the children, I think whatever you want to do is fine. However, it really isn't their fault, and they may turn out to be really good uncles despite their mother.
ita with all of this PLUS  at your update!
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| Posted 1/27/10 1:09 PM |
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MrsRivera
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG (UPDATE ON PAGE TWO, INTERESTING!!)
JMHO--since it seems you do not have a close relationship with this woman at ALL, she is probably doing you a huge favor. I believe that the term "Grandma" has to be earned if it's not a biological grandparent.
Case and point: My dad is married to one of the most horrid women ever to walk the planet. She calls herself "Grandma Pat" but my DD will call her Pat. Plain and simple. She has gone out of her way over the years to be a b**** to me and to talk sh** about my mom for no reason--well, sorry, she will NEVER be my kids' "grandma".
So, that's the other perspective for you. 
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| Posted 1/27/10 1:39 PM |
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couldbtwins
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG (UPDATE ON PAGE TWO, INTERESTING!!)
Posted by MrsRivera
JMHO--since it seems you do not have a close relationship with this woman at ALL, she is probably doing you a huge favor. I believe that the term "Grandma" has to be earned if it's not a biological grandparent.
Case and point: My dad is married to one of the most horrid women ever to walk the planet. She calls herself "Grandma Pat" but my DD will call her Pat. Plain and simple. She has gone out of her way over the years to be a b**** to me and to talk sh** about my mom for no reason--well, sorry, she will NEVER be my kids' "grandma".
So, that's the other perspective for you.
I totally agree with this! To me, Grandma/Grandpa is a VERY special honor. Anyone can be an Aunt/Uncle (i.e. close family friends) but not everyone can be a Grandma/Grandpa. You have to earn that if it isn't biological. DH's mom passed away many years ago and DH's father had a "girlfriend" after she passed. DH's father passed also (I never got to meet him) and DH has stayed close with the girlfriend. She is a nice enough person, but doesn't show us the respect that she should as her "family". She pulled the final stunt at Christmas and I reached a breaking point. I told DH there is NO WAY she is being called Grandma, Nonna, Nanny or anything! DD will have one Grandma here on Earth and and a special Grandma angel in Heaven. The girlfriend will be called by her name and I will make a point of her knowing that!
Message edited 1/27/2010 1:51:39 PM.
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Momma2Be
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG (UPDATE ON PAGE TWO, INTERESTING!!)
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
I'm guessing that I should tell you guys the worst part of this whole situation..I don't think I ever have..
StepMIL was DH's Mom's first cousin!
It is well known in the family that she went after him AT DH's Mom's WAKE. She is a GOLD DIGGER. I almost had the DJ play it at the wedding for her.
Dh's Grandma recently revealed to us that Dh's mom confided in her and others a long time ago that she felt that when/if she passed away, StepMIL would go after FIL!
I think this explains a lot about her and the way she behaves!
OMG!! I feel so bad for your DH! Be thankful this woman does not want your child to call her grandma, she doesn't deserve the title anyway!!
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| Posted 1/27/10 2:16 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG (UPDATE ON PAGE TWO, INTERESTING!!)
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
I'm guessing that I should tell you guys the worst part of this whole situation..I don't think I ever have..
StepMIL was DH's Mom's first cousin!
It is well known in the family that she went after him AT DH's Mom's WAKE. She is a GOLD DIGGER. I almost had the DJ play it at the wedding for her.
Dh's Grandma recently revealed to us that Dh's mom confided in her and others a long time ago that she felt that when/if she passed away, StepMIL would go after FIL!
I think this explains a lot about her and the way she behaves!
Oh. My. God.
I try REALLY hard not to judge people... but I don't know how you look at her with a straight face!
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| Posted 1/27/10 2:21 PM |
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GottaHaveFaith
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG (UPDATE ON PAGE TWO, INTERESTING!!)
I believe you are justified! If she doesn't want to be called grandma, mimi, nana or whatever, then her kids are not uncles! That's it!!!
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| Posted 1/27/10 2:53 PM |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG (UPDATE ON PAGE TWO, INTERESTING!!)
I think its pretty safe to say everyone agrees your SMIL could be called POS and it would be warranted. As for the 'uncles' I'd probably wait to make that decision. See what they are like when DC is here. If they are Uncles great, if not then first names it is. DS is 3 1/2 and is now calling aunts and uncles aunt--- and uncle --- before age 3 it was a mouthful for a kid so it just was what it was. Don't take on any added stress over this. Wait and see what happens....take their lead.
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| Posted 1/27/10 3:14 PM |
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Jan1975
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG (UPDATE ON PAGE TWO, INTERESTING!!)
I call all my uncles by their first names no "Uncle _____" and see nothing wrong with it. They were also younger when my parents had their children so I think it is fine.
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Cpt2007
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG (UPDATE ON PAGE TWO, INTERESTING!!)
Posted by munchkinfacemama
Posted by Deeluvsvinny
I'm guessing that I should tell you guys the worst part of this whole situation..I don't think I ever have..
StepMIL was DH's Mom's first cousin!
It is well known in the family that she went after him AT DH's Mom's WAKE. She is a GOLD DIGGER. I almost had the DJ play it at the wedding for her.
Dh's Grandma recently revealed to us that Dh's mom confided in her and others a long time ago that she felt that when/if she passed away, StepMIL would go after FIL!
I think this explains a lot about her and the way she behaves!
Sorry, I am trying to remove my jaw from the floor.
What an evil wench from Hell!
That makes two of us.
I don't think that her kids, who don't make an effort to have a relationship should have the title of Uncle. And if SMIL asks why, you can say plainly and simply and to the point "well, you abdicated the title of GM, and therefore, to make it crystal clear to our child, we felt that affording the title of Uncle to your sons who are actually COUSINS, would be improper and just not right." And then I'd turn on my heel and walk away. 
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munchkinbugs
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG (UPDATE ON PAGE TWO, INTERESTING!!)
Honestly, I wouldn't even want DC to call her Grandma. Your Dh's mom is her Grandma. Go with the first name. That's what we did with my grandfathers new wife. We call them PopPop and Margie. And obviously, if you call her by her first name, so are her sons.
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MamaB17
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG (UPDATE ON PAGE TWO, INTERESTING!!)
Omg I am totally on your side with this one. The woman is a b*tch for sure. I think you are right with what you have decided. I have met the witch once when your DH & I worked together. When his dad introduced them she immediately was like I am his step mother. Ok lady simmer down didn't ask. If DH makes an issue of it then I would call the boys uncle to make him happy. When your baby is there age they will be older, and hopefully out from the wrath of their mother. As for MIL I like what you call her
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MrsSpring
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Re: I'm bored...help settle a debate between me & DH...LONG (UPDATE ON PAGE TWO, INTERESTING!!)
she sounds like a REAL PITA!!
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