I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

And, last night was really the first time I realized it.

My tenant (Megsm3) had a beautiful baby girl vaginally. She looked great after the birth. I feel like I was a mess and in such pain for so long after.

It never really bothered me that I had a c section bc to be honest - I was/still am deathly afraid of pushing something so big out of there - but it kind of hit me last night that I'll never ever get to experience that rush of dialating, water breaking, pushing, etc.

And, the freaking pain of a section sux! I'm scared of having more then two sections too! UGH!

Does anyone else feel like this?

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Ive had both and to be honest the labor part isnt all its cracked up to be. I know you feel like you missed something but you can always try a VBAC right?? BTW C/S #2 & #3 were much better recovery wise than #1

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I feel the same way, I will never be able to experience it, I will be having a c-section with this baby too, and I hope I won't be in to much pain this time, I was up walking around the day after I had Julia and the pain wasn't to bad.

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I personally do not feel that way at all. I had a c/s and I'm fine with it. There are positives and negatives to both types of births and every individual's experience is different - even from birth to birth.

You are not alone in feel that way though. I know alot of women feel like they missed out on something by not giving birth vaginally.

But for me personally - I'm fine with it.

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Sometimes But I'm not really bothered by my c-section. I KNOW it was out of my control and even though I went naturally for 16+ hours... I still wish I had that "pushing" experience.

I will be trying for a VBAC for #2, so hopefully I will get my experience!

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I sometimes feel that way. The recovery from the c-section was so painful that I had to stop breastfeeding b/c the meds were making me so sleepy.

Message edited 12/6/2007 9:36:34 AM.

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I was jealous- until I read the statistics about the percentage of women with incontinance after a vaginal birth- now I'm happy.....

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I had a vaginal birth and honestly - the healing from my episiotomy was pretty painful too. Be thankful you never had that to deal with!

I understand what you're saying though...I never had my own contractions...and as painful as I'm sure they are...I feel sad sometimes that I never got to experience them.

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I say that as long as you have a healthy baby after it is all over, does it really matter how the baby came out? You had the challenge of carrying the baby inside you for 9 months, making sure you did everything in your power to keep him/her healthy and safe! The delivery (however it happens) is just a means to an end!

I delivered vaginally and to be honest with you, I had the epidural and only felt contractions for about an hour and a half. The rest of the time I felt nothing. Then when it came time to push, I just pushed... really couldn't feel any pain and had no idea if I was even doing it right!

In the end, we all have beautiful babies... c-section or vaginal!

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Posted by jerseypanda


I delivered vaginally and to be honest with you, I had the epidural and only felt contractions for about an hour and a half. The rest of the time I felt nothing. Then when it came time to push, I just pushed... really couldn't feel any pain and had no idea if I was even doing it right!
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HA - see, it's people like you that make me hate c-sections!

Believe me, I totally understand what you are saying - and honestly - the whole vaginal birth thing REALLY had me freaked out before - so now it's kind of a relief that I know what I'm in for next time around. It just seems that the vaginal birth is a much more pleasant one then the csection. But, I know also - that there are things that come along with vaginals also that I didn't have to deal with!

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100%. I can no longer watch a baby story b/c I sob watching v births. It was what I always wanted and I feel a piece of me was taken and I had no say in it.

I am trying to deal with it.

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I struggle with it. I wanted nothing more than to experience labor. Unfortunately I never even had one contraction. It was not the experience I would have liked. I have to remind myself that it what was best for me and the baby, but I cannot help but feel like I missed out on one of the most important moments of my life...

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I had a vaginal birth so I really don't have any idea what it is like to have a c-section, but my friend had both and she said they each had their good points & bad points.

She had a c-section with her first child and then had a vaginal brith with her second child. So I think if you want to expereince a vaginal birth you can.

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I have felt this way too. I feel like I missed out on the entire birth experience. Some days it makes feel like I'm less of a mom because of it. But then I think about those that have adopted and realize that we all become moms in our own special way. It doesn't mean that motherhood is based on birthing the baby through a small hole. I nearly died from my birth experience, so nobody can tell me that anything is 'easier'.

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im sure we can be all over with this one....i had my DD 100% natural, and loved every minute of the 7/8 hours it was, and will do it again with the next DD. i am glad i got to feel every labor pain, every push, feeling the head, the burning of it when she crowned, the total rush i felt after her shoulders were out (like she just slid right out of me, still attached).....i couldnt imagine a c section (them pulling the baby out while your head is behind that curtain and stuff like on a baby story, being all drugged up)... it makes me sad that c sections even happen, to be honest...i know in some cases, they are absolutely medically necessary, but i also know in a lot of cases the DR just jumps to it- thats just the kind of society we live in i guess...

im telling u, u can TOTALLY VBAC!!! and dont let anyone tell u different. many women have done it, and u can too. if having a vaginal delivery is something u really want, then your dr will allow u to have one (i think u have to wait a while longer before getting pregnant and stuff, just so that the uterus is fully healed or something)....but u CAN do it. so do it!

on the flip side, i know it was probly easier for u to clean your incision than it was for us to squirt warm water down there, have it BURN LIKE HELL, and bleed down there for a couple weeks....yes, we can walk after giving birth, but it doesnt feel THAT great....ugh, the changing of the maxu pads, the cleaning of the stitches from tearing..... should i continue??

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Posted by sumlynmad



on the flip side, i know it was probly easier for u to clean your incision than it was for us to squirt warm water down there, have it BURN LIKE HELL, and bleed down there for a couple weeks....yes, we can walk after giving birth, but it doesnt feel THAT great....ugh, the changing of the maxu pads, the cleaning of the stitches from tearing..... should i continue??

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Message edited 12/6/2007 10:01:53 AM.

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Posted by sumlynmad


on the flip side, i know it was probly easier for u to clean your incision than it was for us to squirt warm water down there, have it BURN LIKE HELL, and bleed down there for a couple weeks....yes, we can walk after giving birth, but it doesnt feel THAT great....ugh, the changing of the maxu pads, the cleaning of the stitches from tearing..... should i continue??