Re: I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

Re: I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

Posted by racheeeee

Posted by Palebride

Posted by Diana1215

My perception was that you popped the baby out and were dancing around the delivery room afterwards.

The thing is...some women are! I was walking around the delivery room not 30 minutes after I gave birth and I had an epidural!

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Having had a vaginal and c section birth.

My vaginal birth was by far the worst experience of my life, the only positive happiness that came from it was my DD. 19 months later i am still suffering complications from it. I had 4th degree episiotomy with tearing everywhere.

I was too jealous of those with easy vaginal births.

My C section was by far a cake walk in the park and my recovery was 100x easier than my v birth. I wish i went for the c section the first time.

Now that i've babbled, not all v births are easy. All in all, the result is the same, whatever gets my baby into the world healthy, kicking and screaming, i'm okay with.

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Posted by Sassyz75

Posted by KPtoys

Posted by Sassyz75

I was jealous- until I read the statistics about the percentage of women with incontinance after a vaginal birth- now I'm happy.....

ITA

My cousin who is a labor & delivery nurse said, you don't want to see what it looks like down there after 3 or 4 kids....
you'll be happy you had a section...

I was

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I feel the opposite. After watching all the shows and seeing women pushing a baby out of there I'm glad I had a c-section. I'm so terrified of tearing down there or any pain down there. I give vaginal mommies so much credit. For me the recovery for my c-section wasn't bad at all. I know some vaginal mommies have pain down there afterwards too...I'd rather have the pain in my stomach then down there.

ETA: One of my co-workers fractured or broke a bone or something down there having her 2nd kid. I don't recall what it was but she said she was in severe pain and couldn't walk for 3 months after. She scared the bejesus out of me

Message edited 12/6/2007 12:47:53 PM.

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I've ben jealous of the c-sections. vaginal is PAINFUL. I'm still having pain during sex from the episiotomy

But i'm just grateful for my beautiful DS

Message edited 12/6/2007 1:07:13 PM.

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When women talk about the pain of contractions, I do sometimes wonder what it would have been like...but then I remind myself to envy something less painfull in life.

I think it is natural to want and wonder what it would have been like to complete the process that you prepared 9 months for.

Sometimes I find myself wondering what is the correct term when you have a c-section? did you give birth? when he was delivered?

I was so lucky to have the greatest c-section recovery. Absolutely painfree. After the spinal, I took one does on ibprofren and that was it. I never felt anything, never any complications. Maybe I would think more about how he was born if I had an unpleasant experience.

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I don't know I was always envious of C-sections. I had a vaginal and it took 9 mths to heal. the pain of healinf from the birth was hard. Not looking forward to that again.

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Well I got to experience both-I was in labor for 30 hrs-pushed for two, they could see DD's hair and she just wasn't going to make it out (she was sunny side up) and then wound up with a c-section. To be honest I'm glad that next time it will just be a c-section b/c I suffered after giving birth as if I had delivered vaginally and a c-section.

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Posted by Janice

When women talk about the pain of contractions, I do sometimes wonder what it would have been like...but then I remind myself to envy something less painfull in life.

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I had a c section..

I had contractions (although only back labor, none in my stomach.)

I pushed for 3 hours. She just wouldnt descend. They then said I needed a c. I didnt want surgery originally but by that point, I was begging for it, they shut off my epi to push and the pain was beyond tolerable.

The recovery STUNK! I had a rough time..I was in pain for a while and I STILL am reminded every day that I had major surgery. The cold weather bothers me, if I lift something too heavy, it hurts and I am still numb in that area. It saddens me that I didnt have the vaginal experience because I just thought I would always have my baby that way. But my own personal experience, after the c section is what bothered me more. I didnt get to see her being held up over the curtain, they brought her to me for a quick second but I was throwing up so bad I couldnt even touch her. I then saw her for all of a minute in my room but then she had to be placed in the nicu due to jaundice. I didnt actually touch my baby until the NEXT DAY!!!!!!!! I will NEVER GET OVER THAT. So for me..that was the worst part. I would never compare vaginal with surgery..I think both can be equally as rough but like so many others said..whatever gets my child here safe, is for me.

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I had both within 38 minutes of one another. I never had what I would consider pain from my c-section - discomfort yes, but certainly nothing long lasting. I have no regrets at all.

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Posted by dm24angel

Can I say something here.

I started a thread liek this after I had Noah as well...

And the point of my post and that I got from Diana's was she feels SAD, she feel she lost something.

I didnt hear her asking for opinions on which method was easier or best etc.

On my thread and now on this one...I actually feel WORSE by all the "are you crazy" comments, and "it wasnt a piece of cake to deliver Vaginally" etc.

No one said it WAS....

But why cant we express how we feel?

No two people are the same...I wish we could get more hugs instead of being called crazy over our feelings.

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nvm, dicussed already earlier in the thread

Message edited 12/6/2007 3:36:40 PM.

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I think we all had expectations as to what our deliveries would be like and it is always disappointing when things do not go the way we planned

The thing is all c-sections are different as are all v-births. I actually labored for 18 hours and pushed for an hour and ended up with a c-section. I had back labor and it was ABSOLITELY excriciating. My -c-section was a piece of cake compared to what I wnet through during labor. I am actually so relieved that I will have a c-section with the next. As a matter of fact if I had to have a v-birth now I would seroiusly consider not having another child (that is how bad and how vivid the pain was for ME (I know others are different).

On the other hand, with my c-section- I was holding DD trying to BF an hour later. I felt hardly any pain - and was walking perfectly fine the next day (everyone was shocked). I recovered soo well - that now almosta year later I cannot even find my incision.

My point is there is good and bad experiences on both sides but at the end of the day it is only one day of your life and you get to have your child forever.

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i understand how u feel. i was in tears when i found out that he was breech and i'd have to have a section but then it grew on me b/c i knew when he'd be here and was able to prepare for it and all of that

i never felt a contraction and i was sad that i never would, nor would i have the 'my water broke' moment or the pushing my child out...i feel as though he was taken from me rather than me brigning him into the world...

but these things happen

che sara, sara

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Posted by chelle

Posted by dm24angel

Can I say something here.

I started a thread liek this after I had Noah as well...

And the point of my post and that I got from Diana's was she feels SAD, she feel she lost something.

I didnt hear her asking for opinions on which method was easier or best etc.

On my thread and now on this one...I actually feel WORSE by all the "are you crazy" comments, and "it wasnt a piece of cake to deliver Vaginally" etc.

No one said it WAS....

But why cant we express how we feel?

No two people are the same...I wish we could get more hugs instead of being called crazy over our feelings.

I'm with u 100% Donna

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10 lb baby..VERY happy with my c-section

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Honestly, I have absolutely no pangs whatsoever to have a vaginal birth - the thought of an episiotemy, the pushing, the blood, the tearing - NO THANK YOU! The c-section was frightening, it really was, but I had such a nice, easy recovery.

I guess maybe the reason why I feel I didn't miss out on anything is because I had some of the most severe, painful, back labor contractions, for upwards of 9 hours - the labor alone made the experience very "palpable" for me.

I'm sorry you feel sad that you didn't have a v-birth - maybe for your second you can try for a VBAC? Then you can be one of the lucky ladies to have experienced BOTH!

Message edited 12/6/2007 4:41:23 PM.

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No - I don't feel that way at all. Sure, I'll never have the feeling of "pushing" etc, but the 36 hours of contractions sucked! I was lucky and I healed really fast after my c section and I felt really good after 2 weeks.

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I was rushed to have an emergency c-section about 3 seconds after my epidural and to top it off i had general anesthesia.....so one minute i was preggo having contractions and the next i wasnt.....I didn't even get to enjoy my epidural

When i woke up it was hard for me to deal with the fact that i had c-section and wasnt awake for the birth of my daughter. I hated the other moms who were up and walking around not bent over and hobbling like me. I wanted a vaginal birth so badly that i didnt even give it a thought that i would/could have a c-section.

But once i REALLY thought about it i realized i was happy. Yes the healing stunk and it was painful but honestly it wasnt as bad as i thought it was going to be. I only had contractions for about an hour and a half not something crazy like 28 hours and he only part that i thought really stunk was not being able to sleep on my side...lol

Message edited 12/6/2007 5:54:48 PM.

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I had a vaginal birth but it definatley wasn't the moving birth story I thought it would be. My doctor was no where to be found, they turned off my epidural since I wasn't pushing enough and I was in intense pain, the nurse kept telling me to do little pushes until they could find the doctor and I was absolutely terrifed. It was awful. I think we see those Baby Story shows and totally romaticize the whole birth experience but I can honestly say, it wasn't what I thought it would be. I am still so disppointed. I thought it would be more emotional. All I remember is pain and fear. I didn't get to hold the baby right away since they were concerned she swallowed fluid. I didn't hold her for over a half hour- again not what I wanted. I still cry when I see these babies placed on mom's tummys right after.

So in the end I think its like your wedding day- its never really what you expected and there are parts you wish you could go back and change, but in the end the outcome is you are with the one you love with all your heart.

Just wanted to say, even though I had the vaginal birth experience, I still feel a loss too since it wasn't what I thought it would be AT ALL. I think that is so normal to feel that way.

Message edited 12/6/2007 6:18:47 PM.

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I had a vaginal birth and I was so glad I got to, but as far as being jealous of someone else's birth, I wished I could have been drug free. My water broke and contractions didn't start but since I was GBS positive, they had to induce me to get DD out! After two days of trying to get me to dialate as naturally as possible, I was given Pitocin and the back labor was impossible. I fought it but I hadn't eaten in a few days at that point and I had no strength. I got the epi so I could progress and have my baby.

When my friend (Gatsbygirl) had this super fast natural birth, I was really jealous at first, but then I remembered her horrible morning sickness and my easy pregnancy and it all evened out.


Next time will be easier. The ob who delivered me, told my mom that #2 should be easier because "the baby knows the way"

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Honestly, I was very happy having a C section, although I did everything to NOT have one!