Re: I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

I am not that jealous.
I had 13 hours of labor and I pushed for 3.5 hours.
I got to experience that part of it, water breaking, progression, pushing- no thanks again.
Ending up with the C-Section- I didn't mind that much.

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i guess this is the c section debate that was posted on the shoes off post someone mentioned

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I had an awful time with my c-section and for weeks after (it opened up) but even before all of that, I was sad that I wouldn't be able to experience that. I don't know if I will do this again but it will be another c-section if I do. I guess the grass is always greener because I have her vaginal birth Mom's complain too.

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Posted by babybugsmum

i guess this is the c section debate that was posted on the shoes off post someone mentioned

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Can I say something here.

I started a thread liek this after I had Noah as well...

And the point of my post and that I got from Diana's was she feels SAD, she feel she lost something.

I didnt hear her asking for opinions on which method was easier or best etc.

On my thread and now on this one...I actually feel WORSE by all the "are you crazy" comments, and "it wasnt a piece of cake to deliver Vaginally" etc.

No one said it WAS....

But why cant we express how we feel?

No two people are the same...I wish we could get more hugs instead of being called crazy over our feelings.

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Posted by dm24angel

Can I say something here.

I started a thread liek this after I had Noah as well...

And the point of my post and that I got from Diana's was she feels SAD, she feel she lost something.

I didnt hear her asking for opinions on which method was easier or best etc.

On my thread and now on this one...I actually feel WORSE by all the "are you crazy" comments, and "it wasnt a piece of cake to deliver Vaginally" etc.

No one said it WAS....

But why cant we express how we feel?

No two people are the same...I wish we could get more hugs instead of being called crazy over our feelings.

Re: I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

Posted by dm24angel

No two people are the same...I wish we could get more hugs instead of being called crazy over our feelings.

Re: I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

Posted by racheeeee

Posted by babybugsmum

i guess this is the c section debate that was posted on the shoes off post someone mentioned

The thing is, this isn't a debate really! Is it? I am enjoying this thread...everyone getting along (or else I spoke too soon..)

Re: I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

You know what - I was so afraid to have a C- section thinking it would be horrible compared to a vaginal birth but, let me tell you I have come to realize that neither is a walk in the park - yes, there are issues that arise from recovering from a c-section that those that deliver vaginally don't have to deal with but the same is also true in reverse. I had a tear and have stitches down there which was not fun at al and also have some other horrible lingering painful side effects from all the pushing . Also, I will say things are certainly different looking down there! So, don't be jealous...we all have our own problems

Re: I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

Posted by babybugsmum

Posted by racheeeee

Posted by babybugsmum

i guess this is the c section debate that was posted on the shoes off post someone mentioned

The thing is, this isn't a debate really! Is it? I am enjoying this thread...everyone getting along (or else I spoke too soon..)

is a debate a negative thing then i never thought of it as that way

everyone got on well on my post too but it was still called a debate

Re: I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

Posted by babybugsmum

Posted by racheeeee

Posted by babybugsmum

i guess this is the c section debate that was posted on the shoes off post someone mentioned

The thing is, this isn't a debate really! Is it? I am enjoying this thread...everyone getting along (or else I spoke too soon..)

is a debate a negative thing then i never thought of it as that way

everyone got on well on my post too but it was still called a debate

Re: I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

Posted by leighla

Posted by babybugsmum

Posted by racheeeee

Posted by babybugsmum

i guess this is the c section debate that was posted on the shoes off post someone mentioned

The thing is, this isn't a debate really! Is it? I am enjoying this thread...everyone getting along (or else I spoke too soon..)

is a debate a negative thing then i never thought of it as that way

everyone got on well on my post too but it was still called a debate

Why the icon then???

Re: I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

Posted by dm24angel

Can I say something here.

I started a thread liek this after I had Noah as well...

And the point of my post and that I got from Diana's was she feels SAD, she feel she lost something.

I didnt hear her asking for opinions on which method was easier or best etc.

On my thread and now on this one...I actually feel WORSE by all the "are you crazy" comments, and "it wasnt a piece of cake to deliver Vaginally" etc.

No one said it WAS....

But why cant we express how we feel?

No two people are the same...I wish we could get more hugs instead of being called crazy over our feelings.

Re: I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

Posted by dm24angel

Can I say something here.

I started a thread liek this after I had Noah as well...

And the point of my post and that I got from Diana's was she feels SAD, she feel she lost something.

I didnt hear her asking for opinions on which method was easier or best etc.

On my thread and now on this one...I actually feel WORSE by all the "are you crazy" comments, and "it wasnt a piece of cake to deliver Vaginally" etc.

No one said it WAS....

But why cant we express how we feel?

No two people are the same...I wish we could get more hugs instead of being called crazy over our feelings.

Re: I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

Posted by babybugsmum

Posted by racheeeee

Posted by babybugsmum

i guess this is the c section debate that was posted on the shoes off post someone mentioned

The thing is, this isn't a debate really! Is it? I am enjoying this thread...everyone getting along (or else I spoke too soon..)

is a debate a negative thing then i never thought of it as that way

everyone got on well on my post too but it was still called a debate

Message edited 12/6/2007 10:51:56 AM.

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Posted by racheeeee

Posted by babybugsmum

Posted by racheeeee

Posted by babybugsmum

i guess this is the c section debate that was posted on the shoes off post someone mentioned

The thing is, this isn't a debate really! Is it? I am enjoying this thread...everyone getting along (or else I spoke too soon..)

is a debate a negative thing then i never thought of it as that way

everyone got on well on my post too but it was still called a debate

I think what I am trying to say is there is a difference between a discussion (what this thread is) and a debate where people go back and forth. No one is going back and forth about this one...thats why its a nicely handled thread. Everyone is talking about how they feel and the pros and cons of one thing over another. No one was slamming each other, or using rolling eyes icons. Things like that turn discussions into debates.

Re: I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

i dont think you should feel sad or jealous because you had a c section the end result of either method is still the same

the most beautiful miracle is brought into the world and your life

i have a friend who cannot have children and she would gladly take either way just to get that little miracle of her own

im sorry that you feel this way

Message edited 12/6/2007 11:03:47 AM.

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I've delivered both and to be honest I had hard times delivering vag. My first was 23.5 hrs, and my 2nd was 18.5hrs. Never went into labor by myself always had to be induced and I looked like I just got off a horse after delivering When I had my c-sec, I LOVED it. Got up took a shower same day, only took pain med when the baby went into the nursery at night. And for me my c-sec baby was the only one with a nice head, the first two had very bad cone heads for the first month

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Nah I am happy I had a c-section, I am so scared of pushing and it looks like it hurts, yeah the pain after the section hurt, but it was not that bad, and now i hardly remember what it was like, i just know that it bothered me............. I am sorry you feel that way

also the thought of being in labor for so many hours I loved that I went in and 2 hours later she was here!!!

Message edited 12/6/2007 11:08:55 AM.

Re: I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

I'm sorry!

I had a vaginal delivery, so I really can't say how I would have felt having a C-Section. I went into the delivery thinking in my head that I would be happy either way as long as my son was healthy. Of course, thinking and feeling are two different things... I understand completely feeling sad about something you feel you missed or didn't experience. I think everyone feels that way about something, at least I know I do. Try to focus on the end result - your happy, healthy baby boy! Also, your birth experience, is YOUR birth experience! Unique and special to you and only you!! It will always be special and wonderful and because of that - you didn't miss a thing!!

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I can't believe this is still going on. I am actually happy that I had a csection and I have said that numerous times before. I loved the surgery (didn't feel a thing) and was deathly afraid of pushing a baby out (especially when mine was 10lbs)

BUT

What I was saying was that I was jealous of the recovery - and the feeling of feeling the contractions, water breaking etc. I never felt a thing. Never dialated - even two weeks late. NADA.

AND

I THOUGHT it seemed that vaginal births were easier. My perception was that you popped the baby out and were dancing around the delivery room afterwards. I now see from your responses it's not really like that.

I for one - am happy that my son got here safe and sound. I demanded a section instead of the cervadil for another 12 hours - because I wanted him out safe!

I was just stating that I thought vaginal births seemed easier - now I know that's not necessarily true. I also still am kind of sad that I'll never feel what it's like to be in labor - but I'll get over that I'm sure.

Sorry if this post hurt anyone's feelings - that was not my intention at all.

Message edited 12/6/2007 11:27:50 AM.

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I think you'll find both positive and negative experiences for both c/section and vaginal deliveries.

I'm going to confess something to you guys I never told anyone. For about the first week pp I had secretly wished I had had a c/section. Strange I know and of course now I feel differently but let me tell you about my experience:

Labor wasn't bad about 14hrs total. Pushing wasn't bad either I pushed for about an hour and a half. But my recovery, holy hell!!!! I had an episiotomy to make room for DD who was born acynclitic (sp?), which basically means her head came out slightly tilted to one side. Well anyway I tore beyond the episiotomy all the way down to my rectum It took them almost about 45 minutes to stitch me up and they had to completely numb me because I kept flinching when they tried to sew me up. Well I couldn't feel my legs for 5hours after that and when I finally got up I saw stars from the pain. I couldn't put my knees together for 2 weeks because it hurt so bad and I had to lift my legs one at a time to get into the shower. To add insult to injury I had strained my neck from pushing in an awkward position and proceeded to have the worst case of whiplash in my life. I pretty much nursed my daughter blindly the first 2 weeks because I couldn't look down to see her. I feel like it took me longer to bond with DD because of my rocky road to recovery.

So while I had wanted a vaginal delivery this wasn't the kind of delivery I had bargained for and sometimes I feel cheated when I hear about all these great birth stories. I only hope next time I can get that "dream" delivery I had really wanted.

Message edited 12/6/2007 11:45:22 AM.

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if it makes you feel better... i had a vaginal birth bc i tore, the pain was ecrusiating to recover from.

Re: I'm jealous of moms who had a vaginal birth

Posted by Palebride

Posted by Diana1215

My perception was that you popped the baby out and were dancing around the delivery room afterwards.