Im seriously on the verge on a nervous break down

My life is just never ending- from the moment I wake up @ 4:45 til I finally go to bed a night- I don't stop.

My DH shares no responsibilities with me- mainly because he works 6 days/week 10-12hr days- but even when he gets some fee time- his first thought is to sit his @ss on the couch, or go and watch the game with the guys...


It is impossible me for to do EVERYTHING and work 10 hr days...(not to mention that working with all women is probably the most draining thing EVER)






Ahhh- thanks for letting me vent!

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WOW...I dont know how you do it.

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I hope things get better for you.

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i feel your pain. on the days i'm not at "work" - im constantly doing things at home etc. i dont recall when i had any down time. DH is great in many ways but it will never occur to him to clean the bathroom or dust or mop or laundry

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I totally lost it tonight-

DS is in a baby gym class, and never participates in any of the group events- all he does is run, run, run all over the place..

He plays so nicely with other kids, would never hurt a soul- but when he is running around like a mad man he dosent look where he is going, and is always running into kids...

Tonight- he was just everywhere, then threw 2 balls across the room (which hit another mom- I was mortified) refused to clean up with the group...

I grabbed him and just walked out of the class- I couldnt deal..

Now Im sitting here in tears because he was so upset we left- but I just couldnt continue to chase him around...

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Posted by Bklyngrl

i feel your pain. on the days i'm not at "work" - im constantly doing things at home etc. i dont recall when i had any down time. DH is great in many ways but it will never occur to him to clean the bathroom or dust or mop or laundry

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Posted by Princessmaris

I totally lost it tonight-

DS is in a baby gym class, and never participates in any of the group events- all he does is run, run, run all over the place..

He plays so nicely with other kids, would never hurt a soul- but when he is running around like a mad man he dosent look where he is going, and is always running into kids...

Tonight- he was just everywhere, then threw 2 balls across the room (which hit another mom- I was mortified) refused to clean up with the group...

I grabbed him and just walked out of the class- I couldnt deal..

Now Im sitting here in tears because he was so upset we left- but I just couldnt continue to chase him around...

Message edited 3/18/2008 7:25:42 PM.

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Oh - I am SOO with you!

It can be so frustrating! A mommy's job never ends, so why does Daddy get all the relax time?

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Posted by rose825

Posted by Princessmaris

I totally lost it tonight-

DS is in a baby gym class, and never participates in any of the group events- all he does is run, run, run all over the place..

He plays so nicely with other kids, would never hurt a soul- but when he is running around like a mad man he dosent look where he is going, and is always running into kids...

Tonight- he was just everywhere, then threw 2 balls across the room (which hit another mom- I was mortified) refused to clean up with the group...

I grabbed him and just walked out of the class- I couldnt deal..

Now Im sitting here in tears because he was so upset we left- but I just couldnt continue to chase him around...

you did the right thing, besides recognizing your limits, you are teaching him to follow rules.

ETA:

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I could have written this word for word a few months ago, but I had a VERY serious talk with DH, and he has definitely stepped up to a plate quite a bit. I think it may be time to really have a word with him!!!!

Message edited 3/18/2008 7:30:13 PM.

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I totally feel your pain. I recently told my BFF who has a new baby "DO NOT DO EVERYTHING AT THE BEGINNING" because I did and now I get NO help at home

I think it is a theme with our generation, we are very driven the point of putting ourselves last

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You're not a terrible mother. You're telling him if he doesn't listen, he leaves. I have the same rule.

It's exhausting. I think you should sit down with DH & say "I need more help." rather than a list of what he doesn't do, point out what he needs to do. I think he's going to lack the initiative always & you can't change it. What you can do is change the expectation & give him things that need to be done every night.

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if you do a search with my name , I post about this frequently~ I am so sorry you are going through this, can someone watch DS over the weekend, so you can get a rest, alone ?

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I'm sorry things are so rough. I hope you find some time for yourself very soon. :

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I have no idea how you do it.

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Oh Marissa,

I have been there so many times I can't even begin to tell you. Every detail working with almost all women, having no dh at home or one that doesn't do that much, having to take care of your DC alone more often then not.

You are not a bad mother at all!! You did the right thing. You sent RJ the message that if he doesn't listen then he cannot continue having the fun that the others are having.

We left the circus on Saturday because my daughter wasn't behaving and listening. OH well, her loss.

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Ya know-

If I ask DH to do something he'll do it (sometimes I have to nag for a bit, but it'll get done)

But when I have had the most stressful day ever, and when I get home and he tells me he's going out to watch the game- I seriously want to choke him...

Lunch still needs to be packed, DS bath still needs to be done, the dishes need to be put away- and your just going to get up and go out????

Where does that leave me- doing it all myself...

I could have someone take DS for me, but I would never do that- this isnt about me wanting a break from him- this is about me wanting someone to share resposibilites with me..

I dunno- IMO it's common sense- if you come home first and its 5 o'clock and Im not home yet- START DINNER...

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Posted by nrthshgrl



You're not a terrible mother. You're telling him if he doesn't listen, he leaves. I have the same rule.

It's exhausting. I think you should sit down with DH & say "I need more help." rather than a list of what he doesn't do, point out what he needs to do. I think he's going to lack the initiative always & you can't change it. What you can do is change the expectation & give him things that need to be done every night.

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