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jaysee00
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
OMG! This whole thing is making me nauseous. I have mostly been lurking lately  but I HAD to respond to this.
I could cry thinking about this. What the **** is wrong with our society? I mean SERIOUSLY. My daughter will never take dance lessons unless it is appropriate for her age.
This is borderline abuse in my opinion. I mean, a Britney Spears song for children?? Honestly, a dance school that does sh** like this should be closed down!!!
I just want to say I'm sorry to the OP. I feel bad for you that this has kind of gotten sprung on you. 
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
Posted by ddunne2
Honestly, I'd pull her from the recital right now. And I'd have a converstaion with the teacher about how inappropriate the music choice and costumes are and hit her up with the teen pregnancy rates these days and explain that the behavior she is teaching these children through dance is what causes things like this.
I'm an extremely laid back, but I will not tolerate any of that nonsense when my girls get older.
I would change schools immediately and find one that will let you watch the classes and know what the routines are. Otherwise, I'd move on.
A night of baton twirling is not worth putting any inappropraite ideas in your DD's mind. She should be a child and not be struting around any stage shaking the tassles on her behind. Sure, she'll be disappointed, but you can make it up to her. And shame on those other moms. Most likely they are all also hesitant to say something but are thinking the same as you. Be a role model for them also.
Good luck! 
I couldn't have said it better-I don't know why you would even consider letting her dance to that song in that outfit just because she learned the routine already!
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| Posted 5/8/10 11:43 AM |
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pickles16
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
I'm sorry but I would have a major discussion with the teacher and if she has a problem with it go to the head of the dance school..I doubt you're the only parent to feel this way, but probably no one wants to be "that parent," honestly I don't care, it would bother me too much to not speak to the teacher about it..it's ridiculous!!!! I see girls dressing in things that are soooo age inappropriate as it is, and I think this just adds to it and makes them think it's ok!!!
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| Posted 5/8/10 11:44 AM |
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Janice
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
no effing way.
song, outfit. no.
the time is NOW. set the tone for her teen years NOW.
self respect. independence. modesty.
you are not going to tolerate or accept anything less, no excuses.
the baton could easily be changed out for a pole at this point in the game. song is disgusting. outfit is disgusting.
sorry you have to go through this.
teacher is dead wrong.
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| Posted 5/8/10 11:49 AM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
The outfit doesnt bother me as much as the song and dance. It's a dance recital not a pre-teen strip club.
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| Posted 5/8/10 11:51 AM |
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
I just read the lyrics you posted and it is without question very inappropriate. I would speak to the director and bring it to her attention, she may just not be aware of the content and will likely agree that it shouldn't be used. The costume isn't really that bad to me, but I have seen what the costume companies design and this is pretty standard.
Maybe you could look into a new school for next year? Many allow you to watch the classes in progress and show you pictures of costumes before they are ordered.
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| Posted 5/8/10 11:59 AM |
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FranM
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
No Noi No NO NO Way!!!
I would be down a that school speaking to the director about the song and pointing out the lyrics. At a minimum I would demand the lyrics be cut and an instrumental version of the song be used. Talk to the other Moms I am sure they will back you up.
I am not crazy about the costume but its not as bad as others that I have seen.
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| Posted 5/8/10 12:10 PM |
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
Yikes!!! They were playing this song in the school cafeteria (middle school) and I told the VP about th contents of the song....that was the last time they played it! ITA that the song and costume are totally inappropriate!
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| Posted 5/8/10 12:40 PM |
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kms717
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
No way would I let my daughter stay! Why is everyone trying to make kids grow up so quickly!!! Crap like this is why high school girls have pregnancy pacts and are trying to be adults!
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| Posted 5/8/10 12:41 PM |
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
Posted by ChrisDee
I just wanted to add that the teacher is early 20's with no kids.
Someone needs to smack her upside the head.
After reading the lyrics and seeing that ridiculous get-up I'd have to say "NOPE".
I hate that you've been put in the position of upsetting your daughter by that twit who obviously has no common sense.....
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| Posted 5/8/10 12:41 PM |
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
Posted by Porrruss
Posted by ChrisDee
I just wanted to add that the teacher is early 20's with no kids.
Someone needs to smack her upside the head.
After reading the lyrics and seeing that ridiculous get-up I'd have to say "NOPE".
I hate that you've been put in the position of upsetting your daughter by that twit who obviously has no common sense.....
I agree.
I'm sorry it looks like a strippers outfit.
I know it's easy for all of us to say what we'd do like it's no big deal b/c we don't have to go through it right now. I think if you do plan on pulling your daughter you need to talk to her as to why and why you feel it's inappropriate.
I agree that we are pushing our kids to grow up way to fast. I'm pretty laid back and let me DD wear make if she asks because it's once in a while and I know it's for fun but I am pretty picky about bathing suits and the kinds of clothes she wears.
When I was 9 I feel like I still played with dolls and make believe. Girls these days know way too much for their own good and its just so scary and sad.
We all know the responsibilities that come with sex and adulthood. There is no need to rush any of that.
Then there is the whole body image and self esteem that today's girls deal with. They are beautiful without all the glitz and glam and high heels. They need to be made to believe that not taught that they have to be all dolled up and be put out for show.
I know this can't be easy.
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| Posted 5/8/10 1:42 PM |
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
I agree with all the "no way's" BUT I agree with your dh in that if it is a "no way" you BOTH not just YOU should have stopped this from continuing. To me the whole situation should have been taking care of a long time before now. I think its actually unfair in this stage of the game to say that you dont like it. AT this point I would just remove her from the situation if your not loving the idea. You cant change it thus far. JMHO...
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| Posted 5/8/10 1:58 PM |
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
Posted by Janice
no effing way.
song, outfit. no.
the time is NOW. set the tone for her teen years NOW.
self respect. independence. modesty.
you are not going to tolerate or accept anything less, no excuses.
the baton could easily be changed out for a pole at this point in the game. song is disgusting. outfit is disgusting.
sorry you have to go through this.
teacher is dead wrong.
I couldn't agree more. My DD would be pulkled from the recital, and I'd tell her why. Even though I'm sure if will hurt your DD, everything about this is HIGHLY inappropriate. Your DH was right for being so upset.
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ChrisDee
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
Posted by PrincessP
I agree with all the "no way's" BUT I agree with your dh in that if it is a "no way" you BOTH not just YOU should have stopped this from continuing. To me the whole situation should have been taking care of a long time before now. I think its actually unfair in this stage of the game to say that you dont like it. AT this point I would just remove her from the situation if your not loving the idea. You cant change it thus far. JMHO...
I did not know about the song until just a few weeks ago and the outfit this past wednesday. Like I said too, when Jordan told me the song and I listened to it, I had no idea what it was about. It was not until DH told me about 2 weeks ago. I asked the other mom's if they knew what the song was about and not one did. They all could sing the main part and had heard it a million times, but like me, were clueless.
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
Posted by Janice
no effing way.
song, outfit. no.
the time is NOW. set the tone for her teen years NOW.
self respect. independence. modesty.
you are not going to tolerate or accept anything less, no excuses.
the baton could easily be changed out for a pole at this point in the game. song is disgusting. outfit is disgusting.
sorry you have to go through this.
teacher is dead wrong.
I totally agree. No way I'd let my DD go through with this recital. I'm so sick of seeing little girls dress up like they're going a club to 'hook up'. When did this become acceptable to parents??????? it's crazy! I see girls as young as 7 and 8 at the mall wearing belly shirts and short shorts. Come on people!
I know your daughter will be disappointed. But to see your DD dressed like a hooch and dancing to a song about a threesome is just wrong. That teacher should be fired.
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
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Posted by PrincessP
I agree with all the "no way's" BUT I agree with your dh in that if it is a "no way" you BOTH not just YOU should have stopped this from continuing. To me the whole situation should have been taking care of a long time before now. I think its actually unfair in this stage of the game to say that you dont like it. AT this point I would just remove her from the situation if your not loving the idea. You cant change it thus far. JMHO...
I did not know about the song until just a few weeks ago and the outfit this past wednesday. Like I said too, when Jordan told me the song and I listened to it, I had no idea what it was about. It was not until DH told me about 2 weeks ago. I asked the other mom's if they knew what the song was about and not one did. They all could sing the main part and had heard it a million times, but like me, were clueless.
I dont get it. You see the outfit after its purchased? I guess my thought is, what are you going to do about it now? The only option is to pull her if your not happy. Based on your situation, if I was in it, my dd would be gone. Thats all up to you both. Sitting down to discuss isnt going to change a thing.
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| Posted 5/8/10 2:30 PM |
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usuk2004
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
I actually don't mind the costume, I think it's kind of cute. And to be honest the majority of the audience is NOT going to catch the lyrics to the song.
If the movement is too suggestive, than that's another story.
BUT...unfortunately, I think the damage is already done. Your daughter has been rehearsing this routine for X number of months which means she knows the dance moves, she knows the words to the songs, etc. The only thing that's left is performing in public - is that the real issue? Or was it exposing your daughter to it in the first place...?
On a side note - I used to take dance and baton twirling when I was a kid and I'm still learning what some of the lyrics we used to dance to meant! Now I'm like  but at the time, I didn't understand, so it didn't really matter. Maybe things are different these days, though...
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| Posted 5/8/10 3:30 PM |
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
No way. If I were in your shoes I would never let it be. Such an inappropriate song. the outfit...IDK...not so appropriate either!
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| Posted 5/8/10 3:30 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
I don't think the costume is THAT bad, but the song is a whole other ball game. And I would need to see their dance moves.
The costume looks pretty par for the course with dance costumes and as long as there's no bellies showing or low cut tops, I'm ok with it. But it's not me who has to be ok with it.
I do think something needs to be said to the teacher. It won't matter now, but hopefully for the future it will.
Have you discussed with your daughter your concerns? I'm curious what you'll tell her if you decide to pull her from the recital.
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
Posted by jaysee00
OMG! This whole thing is making me nauseous. I have mostly been lurking lately but I HAD to respond to this.
I could cry thinking about this. What the **** is wrong with our society? I mean SERIOUSLY. My daughter will never take dance lessons unless it is appropriate for her age.
This is borderline abuse in my opinion. I mean, a Britney Spears song for children?? Honestly, a dance school that does sh** like this should be closed down!!!
I just want to say I'm sorry to the OP. I feel bad for you that this has kind of gotten sprung on you.
ITA ! I don't think I would be able to go through with it 
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
Honestly at this point in the game I'd let her stay in the show. The outfit isn't that bad considering what is out there. As for the lyrics yes they are inappropriate but you daughter doesn't understand them so I don't think it will damage her to twirl a baton to the song.
However after this recital I would pull her from the school and let them know why. I'd find a school where you know what is going on in the classroom and what songs/outfit will be used well in advance.
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
Posted by PrincessP
Posted by ChrisDee
Posted by PrincessP
I agree with all the "no way's" BUT I agree with your dh in that if it is a "no way" you BOTH not just YOU should have stopped this from continuing. To me the whole situation should have been taking care of a long time before now. I think its actually unfair in this stage of the game to say that you dont like it. AT this point I would just remove her from the situation if your not loving the idea. You cant change it thus far. JMHO...
I did not know about the song until just a few weeks ago and the outfit this past wednesday. Like I said too, when Jordan told me the song and I listened to it, I had no idea what it was about. It was not until DH told me about 2 weeks ago. I asked the other mom's if they knew what the song was about and not one did. They all could sing the main part and had heard it a million times, but like me, were clueless.
I dont get it. You see the outfit after its purchased? I guess my thought is, what are you going to do about it now? The only option is to pull her if your not happy. Based on your situation, if I was in it, my dd would be gone. Thats all up to you both. Sitting down to discuss isnt going to change a thing.
Yes, I did not see the outfit until after it was purchased. The Teacher picks it and measures the girls. It is the same price each year. $60 and we usually fund raise for it or just pay it yourself. So far she has had a Cinderella costume, a Hula girl and a Cow Girl. So I never really worried about it. She has had the same teacher all along.
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dm24angel
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
OMG...no way. She is 9? That outfit is NOT appropriate for a 9 yr old....
No NO way!
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I don't think this is as bad as the one I posted - I think I might be ok with it - but I showed DH and he said no way....
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Re: innapropriate outfit for recital***UPDATED W/PICTURE & LYRICS
As Rachel said as far as the outfit goes..I don't think it is that bad...It's not the greatest..but her belly will not be showing. As far as the dance I would have to see it and the lyrics..I never really listened to them myself..but when I just saw them typed..I wouldn't be happy.
Maybe the song was changed to a kids bop version?? Is that possible??
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