Re: Is it ok for a 2 year old not to know their abc's

Yes its perfectly fine. Please don't stress. Some parents just like to brag.

Re: Is it ok for a 2 year old not to know their abc's

Totally fine...and, as an EI evaluator, it is not even something that I would look for when testing children. That is more developmentally appropriate for age 3 and 4!

Re: Is it ok for a 2 year old not to know their abc's

i wouldn't worry about it yet at all!! every kid is different! they all have different things that catch their interest and thats what they pick up on first.
my DS is 27 months. he sort of sings along with the ABC song if i sing it... BUT he knows pretty much all of his letters. even out of order when you show him a letter and ask what it is- he usually gets it right. Now- God knows HOW he learned them bc i'm a SAHM mom, and i know I haven't been drilling him on them all day! LOL If anything I just kind of play around with those foam tub letters with him when hes in the bath.
I really feel like its his personality. hes more into puzzles, books, sitting down and building things rather than running, climbing, jumping- the physical stuff. So he picks up on stuff like this easily. Other kids are better than him with the physical stuff (he has trouble with jumping and going up and down steps)...
Its not a big deal, and it all evens out eventually!

Is it ok for a 2 year old not to know their abc's

Please do not worry. This is completely normal. DD is 22 months and knows some letters, but definitely not all 26!!!!!! I feel like with mothers it's always the keeping up with the Jone's mentality. It's ridiculous what bragging I see on a daily basis. But it never bothers me even in the least- every child develops at a different rate.

Plus I strongly believe that braggers in general are overcompensating for some other thing in their life that they are unhappy with!!! Trust me! I see it every day. The grass isn't always greener!

Message edited 3/7/2013 7:49:38 AM.

Re: Is it ok for a 2 year old not to know their abc's

Reminds me of this. Worth the read.
Not the same age but same idea:

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What should a 4 year old know?

I was on a parenting bulletin board recently and read a post by a mother who was worried that her 4 1/2 year old did not know enough. “What should a 4 year old know?” she asked.

Most of the answers left me not only saddened but pretty soundly annoyed. One mom posted a laundry list of all of the things her son knew. Counting to 100, planets, how to write his first and last name, and on and on. Others chimed in with how much more their children already knew, some who were only 3. A few posted URL’s to lists of what each age should know. The fewest yet said that each child develops at his own pace and not to worry.

It bothered me greatly to see these mothers responding to a worried mom by adding to her concern, with lists of all the things their children could do that hers couldn’t. We are such a competitive culture that even our preschoolers have become trophies and bragging rights. Childhood shouldn’t be a race.

So here, I offer my list of what a 4 year old should know.

* She should know that she is loved wholly and unconditionally, all of the time.

* He should know that he is safe and he should know how to keep himself safe in public, with others, and in varied situations.

* He should know that he can trust his instincts about people and that he never has to do something that doesn’t feel right, no matter who is asking. He should know his personal rights and that his family will back them up.

* She should know how to laugh, act silly, be goofy and use her imagination. She should know that it is always okay to paint the sky orange and give cats 6 legs.

* He should know his own interests and be encouraged to follow them. If he could care less about learning his numbers, his parents should realize he’ll learn them accidentally soon enough and let him immerse himself instead in rocket ships, drawing, dinosaurs or playing in the mud.

* She should know that the world is magical and that so is she. She should know that she’s wonderful, brilliant, creative, compassionate and marvelous. She should know that it’s just as worthy to spend the day outside making daisy chains, mud pies and fairy houses as it is to practice phonics. Scratch that– way more worthy.

But more important, here’s what parents need to know.

* That every child learns to walk, talk, read and do algebra at his own pace and that it will have no bearing on how well he walks, talks, reads or does algebra.

* That the single biggest predictor of high academic achievement and high ACT scores is reading to children. Not flash cards, not workbooks, not fancy preschools, not blinking toys or computers, but mom or dad taking the time every day or night (or both!) to sit and read them wonderful books.

* That being the smartest or most accomplished kid in class has never had any bearing on being the happiest. We are so caught up in trying to give our children “advantages” that we’re giving them lives as multi-tasked and stressful as ours. One of the biggest advantages we can give our children is a simple, carefree childhood.

* That our children deserve to be surrounded by books, nature, art supplies and the freedom to explore them. Most of us could get rid of 90% of our children’s toys and they wouldn’t be missed, but some things are important– building toys like legos and blocks, creative toys like all types of art materials (good stuff), musical instruments (real ones and multicultural ones), dress up clothes and books, books, books. (Incidentally, much of this can be picked up quite cheaply at thrift shops.) They need to have the freedom to explore with these things too– to play with scoops of dried beans in the high chair (supervised, of course), to knead bread and make messes, to use paint and play dough and glitter at the kitchen table while we make supper even though it gets everywhere, to have a spot in the yard where it’s absolutely fine to dig up all the grass and make a mud pit.

* That our children need more of us. We have become so good at saying that we need to take care of ourselves that some of us have used it as an excuse to have the rest of the world take care of our kids. Yes, we all need undisturbed baths, time with friends, sanity breaks and an occasional life outside of parenthood. But we live in a time when parenting magazines recommend trying to commit to 10 minutes a day with each child and scheduling one Saturday a month as family day. That’s not okay! Our children don’t need Nintendos, computers, after school activities, ballet lessons, play groups and soccer practice nearly as much as they need US. They need fathers who sit and listen to their days, mothers who join in and make crafts with them, parents who take the time to read them stories and act like idiots with them. They need us to take walks with them and not mind the .1 MPH pace of a toddler on a spring night. They deserve to help us make supper even though it takes twice as long and makes it twice as much work. They deserve to know that they’re a priority for us and that we truly love to be with them.

Is it ok for a 2 year old not to know their abc's

My almost 2 year old barely has 10 words and definitely doesn't know a thing about counting or ABCs. Every baby is different and unfortunately FB can be bad for us moms because we see all our friends talking about how their kid has made leaps and bounds. It convinces us that our kids are in some bottom percentile. I wouldn't worry about compared to others.

Re: Is it ok for a 2 year old not to know their abc's

I didn't learn the alphabet until I was in kindergarten! I turned out fine. I even majored in English and American Literature in College! lol A lot of children can memorize things, but that doesn't mean they understand the concepts. My friend's kid says ELMO instead of LMNO when he recites the alphabet. I'm sure he has no clue that he is reciting letters.

Re: Is it ok for a 2 year old not to know their abc's

Re: Is it ok for a 2 year old not to know their abc's

Re: Is it ok for a 2 year old not to know their abc's

Every child is different is the absolute rule.

DS was 3 when he could sing the whole song, count to 20. It took him until he was 4.5 to color within the lines and recognize letters and numbers.

DD is 28 mths and can sing most of the ABC...and count to 20.........but she skips letters and numbers here and there. She can color inside the lines.....which always amazes me....and she recognizes parts of her name.

I think girls and boys excel at different things....and having an older sibling that they can mimic helps enormously.

Re: Is it ok for a 2 year old not to know their abc's

Re: Is it ok for a 2 year old not to know their abc's