Is someone going to come stay with you after the baby is born?

Both my mom AND mother-in-law want to come and stay at our house to help. I don't mean to sound ungrateful but I don't think I want them sleeping over. I truly think they will drive me crazy. Both my mom and my MIL are overbearing and big "naggers".

My mom is actually pressuring us to come stay at my parents' house so she can take care me and the baby.

They both live about 1.5/2 hours from our house so it is just far away enough that they probably wouldn't drive back and forth on a daily basis.

Just curious what everyone else is doing.

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I did not have anyone stay. Just DH & I, and to be honest I preferred it that way. When people came to "help" they really were not for the most part. Although well intentioned, they were really just more in the way and IMO interrupted the limited time I had with just me, the baby & DH.

I think everyone's family is different, as are everyone's needs & you have to go with what works for you.

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My mother lives in Florida and is planning on staying for a week once I am home with the baby. Right now she is planning on coming up here I think around Jan 30-31st, as I'm scheduled to be induced on 2/1 (if I don't go before then).

Honestly, I'm welcoming it because I know I'll be overwhelmed as will DH.

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My MIL stayed with me for 3 weeks after DD is born and I'm assuming she will do the same, if not more, this time.

It was really amazing - she isn't a nagger, and never tells me what to do. She respected my boundaries and essentially helped out by doing the laundry, dishes, cleaning and cooking, rather than interfering with me and DD. The only time she would is when I asked her to take her off my hands so I could nap.

I seriously don't know how I would have made it through those weeks without her help.

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Both my Mom and MIL live about 10 minutes away so there's no need for anyone to sleep over -
I know my Mom wants to take the time off to come and help me out, but she's looking to help by cleaning and doing laundry and stuff .......my MIL, on the other hand, while not overbearing at all, I can't see 'helping' me much .....-

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Posted by Bridex100

That's the problem - they don't respect my boundaries. Instead they both push their opinions and boss me around. I get upset and stressed out just thinking about it.

Even at Christmas dinner, my mom was stressing me out by telling me how much I wasn't eating enough. She doesn't seem to understand I am still suffering from nausea.

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my Mom is 10 minutes away and my MIL is about 30 minutes away. Both won't stay overnight and promised not to stay all day, but I do appreciate if they come by during the day.

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My DH was home the first 2 weeks, so no one stayed and TBH I didnt really want vistors..

I just wanted time to adjust to our new little family..

With this baby, again NO ONE will be staying here, and Ill have 2!

Both families live close by, so if I needed something they'd be here within the hour.

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is you dh taking off? if so, i'd tell them not to come right away b/c you'll have dh there and may need their help later on when he goes back to work. that way you can get settled into your routine and by the time it's their turn they won't need to stay overnight b/c you'll have it down (either that or you'll be able to judge if you really do need their help or not). maybe by then you can also convince them to alternate days - that way they won't have to stay overnight or drive 4 hours a day to get to you.

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I don't want anyone to stay over, but I won't mind it if they come over during the day to help out, especially in the beginning. I am sure I will need some adjustments and they will both be willing to help. I am lucky that both parents live within 20 minutes of us.

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when we had dd, it was just us....and we loved it, once dh went back to work, it was just me....I will always cherish that time.....maybe put it out there as a "I want to try it alone" time if oyu want, and offer to call them first thing if you need anything.....personally I reccommend getting used to everytrhing on your own first,, it worked for me...but you know yourself best.....

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My parents live in Las Vegas so they will be coming when the baby is born and they will be staying with us.
But it isn't to "help out." They are staying because they don't live here and will probably not see us again for about 6 months. I rather nobody stays with us so I can bond with the baby and adjust.
I'm not sure how long they are staying. At least 2 weeks. But then my MIL seems to think that she gets to stay over when they leave! Umm no!!! There is no reason to. She lives 20 minutes away! The only reason my parents are staying over is because they live on the other side of the U.S.! I can't just tell them to stay in a hotel! I haven't even seen them in almost two years!
Believe me, I don't want anyone staying over. I plan to BF if all goes well so it's not like I need help with feedings.
I just want to bond with my new baby and my husband.
I appreciate the help. But everyone can visit and then go home!

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My mom is 5 min away and will be off for the summer so I assume she'll be over most days to help out.
My MIL lives in Ireland so I probably won't see her until we bring the baby over when he/she is a few months old. I like it this way because I have privacy but also help from my mom if I need it.

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i haven't asked that yet. a close friend is going to come stay with us for a bit and i couldn't appreciate it more...

my mom is in NY, and i'm in NJ...so i have no idea what they are planning...

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No...def. not sleep over. One MIL at a time will stop by here and there I'm sure, but I don't really want, nor feel I need anyone there for an extended period of time to help with the baby. Unless they want to come every day just to do my laundry, that would be nice.

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I have always thought NO...but now that I am PG...I'm even thinking of going to stay by my moms the first few weeks. Just because she has a HUGE house, AC and will totally wait on my hand and foot!
However I have such a long way to go...lets see how bad she makes me crazy for 9 months before I make that decision.

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I didn't have anyone stay with us, and we got by just fine. Actually, I preferred not having anyone there because then I could do what I wanted when I wanted. I found that I did have a lot of down time to get things done, including packing up our entire apartment to move.

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Both mom and MIL live very close! So they will come by for the day here and there but wont be sleeping over.
I know DH's cousin wants to come up from Florida also when the baby is born but she will stay with the in laws!!

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My in-laws have both passed on so I only have my parents of which I am sure will spend at least a week with us- they live 3 hrs away- I will welcome it with open arms as DH and I will need our rest too- plus somebody else can cook and clean

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My mom and MIL will be staying with us for a few weeks, and I welcome the help!

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my mom is going to stay a few weeks till i feel better, and she can teach me how to wash clean feed etc the baby i have a great mommy who will be a great teacher

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We hired a baby nurse for the first two weeks... After that, we probably won't have anyone stay here.

My mom is a teacher and if the timing works, she'll probably be spending a lot of time over Feb break here, but I doubt she will sleep over. We are also in a 2BR, so it might be a little too close for comfort, but we shall see.

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My mom lives in TX and she will be visiting for about 2 weeks. I am having a c-section so I welcome the help. Plus, I miss her!