Re: Is someone going to come stay with you after the baby is born?

to be honest, i haven't thought about it. if my mom would like to stay, i would love to have her...we're very close. i am sure my mom would probably want to stay for at least a few days. DH's mom is passed, so that's a non-issue, unfortunately.

Re: Is someone going to come stay with you after the baby is born?

nope!! It will be me and dh and i wouldnt have it any other way. my mom lives 1 mile away and will be over every day but will not sleep over. dh's mom lives 20 mins away and i'm sure will be around often as well!

Re: Is someone going to come stay with you after the baby is born?

With DD #1, my SIL helped out a lot but she lives locally. My parents came for a week when DD was 3 weeks old so we had already settled in a bit. Then my Mom came back when DD had terrible colic for a month. My mom was a huge help both times that she visited. I had no idea what to do with a newborn so she really guided me.

With this child, my SIL will take some vacation time to watch DD while I deliver and am at the hospital. My parents will come again shortly after the birth. They'll probably be here more to help with 2.5 year old DD while I get adjusted with my newborn.

ETA: If my MIL and mom didn't respect my boundaries, I wouldn't want them to stay either. Maybe you could try to explain to them how they can be of help to you so they know what you expect.

Message edited 12/29/2008 9:26:30 PM.

Re: Is someone going to come stay with you after the baby is born?

I had nobody staying with us and I liked it that way. Yes I had a c-section and was recovering from surgery and I was BFing, but in my case, it was doable. Everyone was different.

Message edited 12/29/2008 9:31:27 PM.

Re: Is someone going to come stay with you after the baby is born?

My Mom lives out of state and has already said that she wants to come up and be here for the birth, and then maybe stay a week or two after that. I actually hope that she does cause I would love to have her help in the beginning since I'm going to be pretty much clueless. lol

Re: Is someone going to come stay with you after the baby is born?

My mother lives on LI and I am in CT- she will be staying with us at least a week- she will be a great help.

MIL lives about 10 minutes away and honestly, I can't see her taking off to stay and help with the baby at that point- but she will come by after work most likely. She would be a good help too... but I am glad both moms won't really be around all day- I think that would be too much.

Re: Is someone going to come stay with you after the baby is born?

I would *never* go stay with someone at their house. That would not be a help with a newborn at ALL.

My mom lived about 30 minutes from where I lived when DS was born, she came about 3x a week to help me out, and it was great. My SMIL did the same, she would pop by on an as needed basis.

My MIL lives in Florida. She came up wiht my SIL when DS was 3 weeks old. It was tough b/c we felt like we had to entertain her

Re: Is someone going to come stay with you after the baby is born?

I will not let anyone stay over my house after the baby is born. I will be stressed enough and houseguests always bring me more stress than relief. I will welcome my mom and MIL and sister and SIL's helping out during the day, but I want my nights for just me, DH, and baby!

Re: Is someone going to come stay with you after the baby is born?

Considering we are having twins, my mom will be coming in when they are born & staying with us for a period of time. She will be there more or less to help the function of the house & of course to assist me during the day as DH will most likely only be off a couple of days.

My mom is not one to be in your business & will give us our space, but I don't think I could imagine going through it alone with two especially when DH goes back to work.....My MIL will also come by during the day to help out.