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babyonboard11
In love with my little man!!
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Re: Just curious..
We were married the day after you and got pg this past July
So we waited almost 2 years before we started
The house was the first thing on my agenda after the wedding - after that I just wanted to enjoy being married and alone with DH
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Jesses-Girl
LIF Adolescent
Member since 3/09 568 total posts
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Kristen
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Re: Just curious..
We've been married 2 years as well (as you know Kristin :)
I'm actually happy that we don't own a house right now. In this unstable economy and market, we are not tied down to a huge mortgage.
Because of that, I am able to be a SAHM with my first child, and that is worth it's weight in gold to me.
Buying a house is a personal decision, and as you stated, all a child needs to be happy is love and stability. We were in a 1 bedroom apt before we found out we were pregnant, we just moved into a very nice 2 bedroom condo that we are renting, complete with a beautiful nursery for LO. He won't know the difference between a mortgage and a rent check and we will buy a house when the time is right.
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| Posted 10/22/10 12:41 PM |
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Posted by Jesses-Girl
We've been married 2 years as well (as you know Kristin :)
I'm actually happy that we don't own a house right now. In this unstable economy and market, we are not tied down to a huge mortgage.
Because of that, I am able to be a SAHM with my first child, and that is worth it's weight in gold to me.
Buying a house is a personal decision, and as you stated, all a child needs to be happy is love and stability. We were in a 1 bedroom apt before we found out we were pregnant, we just moved into a very nice 2 bedroom condo that we are renting, complete with a beautiful nursery for LO. He won't know the difference between a mortgage and a rent check and we will buy a house when the time is right.
Don't ever feel guilty about not owning a house. Owning in this market is almost stupid! I'm losing money. We took a huge hit and wish we can sell. Now I'm stuck!
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| Posted 10/22/10 12:44 PM |
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nraboni
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Member since 10/09 6905 total posts
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Nicole
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Re: Just curious..
We were married 10 months before we got our BFP but we had been trying since we got married.
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| Posted 10/22/10 12:49 PM |
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Jesses-Girl
LIF Adolescent
Member since 3/09 568 total posts
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Kristen
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Re: Just curious..
Posted by KevinNKristin8-15-08
Posted by Jesses-Girl
Don't ever feel guilty about not owning a house. Owning in this market is almost stupid! I'm losing money. We took a huge hit and wish we can sell. Now I'm stuck!
On the flip side, I don't think its stupid at all, I commend you for being able to buy right away, it's just not the right time for us. 
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| Posted 10/22/10 12:49 PM |
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momma2b
Princess is here!
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Mommy
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Re: Just curious..
married for 5 years, but we have been together for over 10 years
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| Posted 10/22/10 12:52 PM |
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Re: Just curious..
Posted by Jesses-Girl
Posted by KevinNKristin8-15-08
Posted by Jesses-Girl
Don't ever feel guilty about not owning a house. Owning in this market is almost stupid! I'm losing money. We took a huge hit and wish we can sell. Now I'm stuck!
On the flip side, I don't think its stupid at all, I commend you for being able to buy right away, it's just not the right time for us.
Thank you! I always wish we waited though. What I can buy now as compared to what we did is crazy!!!
Buy when the time is right and don't rush into it!!!! Baby's need love! That's all!! You got to do what's best for you! ya know!
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| Posted 10/22/10 12:53 PM |
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Exarina
My Two Girls
Member since 12/09 1249 total posts
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Lisa Marie
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Re: Just curious..
3 years in Feb...and you know what im glad in a way we have done SO much together...when you get preg you k ind of say to yourself omg no more ME..its all about the baby
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| Posted 10/22/10 1:06 PM |
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Posted by Exarina
3 years in Feb...and you know what im glad in a way we have done SO much together...when you get preg you k ind of say to yourself omg no more ME..its all about the baby
That's very true!!
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| Posted 10/22/10 1:07 PM |
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NinaLemon
It's a boy!!!
Member since 10/07 6453 total posts
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Jeannine
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Re: Just curious..
We were married 5 or 6 months before getting PG for DS, but we were also 33 and 34 at the time.
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Ever-After
Goals w/o plans r just wishes
Member since 6/09 2585 total posts
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C
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Re: Just curious..
At first, we only waited about 8 months after getting married, but that pregnancy ended in a m/c  With this one, it was a year & a half after our wedding date.
Honestly, I don't think there's such a thing as too early or too late. It REALLY depends on the situation. Some people want to buy the house first or get their careers going and that's fine. Others are ready on the honeymoon. I think as long as you're in a stable relationship and ready to give the baby as good of a life as you can - THEN you're ready. At least that's MY opinion on it. For us, we just wanted to make sure that we had Health Insurance first (way too expensive without it!! Eek). And since we didn't live together before getting married, we also wanted to make sure that we had enough 'alone' time before the children came. So I feel like for us, the timing can't be more perfect.
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| Posted 10/22/10 1:26 PM |
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Kelly9904
Mommy to 2 amazing little boys
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Re: Just curious..
With DS we were married just under 3 years when I got my BFP.
We just never wanted kids earlier than that. We were married when I was 25. And had so much going on in our lives...In the few weeks before our wedding, we bought a house and I changed jobs then we got married. A weeek after coming back from our HM my mom was diagnosed with cancer and died 4 months later. It was hectic and crazy firs tyear, and we were young and wanted to just have a few years to relax and enjoy your newly married lives and travel a little and spend time with friends etc.
I am shocked that you got comments on why you waited so long...That amazes me!
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| Posted 10/22/10 1:41 PM |
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luckysmom
Yes it is! Going as planned:)
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Re: Just curious..
Posted by KevinNKristin8-15-08
I was just curious because I had people ask me "what took you so long". It kind of upset me.
UGH! I hated this comment when people would say that to me. I would get that all the time from people who had no idea what we were going through with infertility. When are the babies coming, what are you waiting for? It's just so rude....People have no idea what your situation is and what you are going through.
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| Posted 10/22/10 1:43 PM |
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KD718
LIF Toddler
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Re: Just curious..
10 months (but we were not trying/planning)
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| Posted 10/22/10 1:45 PM |
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Ever-After
Goals w/o plans r just wishes
Member since 6/09 2585 total posts
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C
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Re: Just curious..
Posted by luckysmom
Posted by KevinNKristin8-15-08
I was just curious because I had people ask me "what took you so long". It kind of upset me.
UGH! I hated this comment when people would say that to me. I would get that all the time from people who had no idea what we were going through with infertility. When are the babies coming, what are you waiting for? It's just so rude....People have no idea what your situation is and what you are going through.
I agree. I had a couple comments from friends for DH's family asking what we were waiting for. They had no idea that we were dealing with miscarriages at the time so their comments hurt. People are stupid. Simple as that.
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MrsJakob
Naterade is Thirstade!
Member since 6/10 3002 total posts
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Danielle
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Re: Just curious..
We knew that we didn't want to wait. We also knew there was no perfect time to get pregnant and we knew we would, in the words of Tim Gunn, "Make it work."
We live in an apartment in Queens, the same place I've lived for 18 years  . I took over after my mother passed away. It's a decent apartment and the rent is cheap. It's a 3 bedroom and one of those rooms is occupied by my husband's office. He works mainly from home and I do not work. I consult for him once in a while but get paid in hugs and high fives  .
With all this being said, I got pregnant a little over 2 months after getting married. I'm not getting any younger and know I want another baby quite soon after my  .
At this point, we'll have our DS a week before our first anniversary.
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Mrs007
Im obsessed w my lil man!
Member since 3/09 2528 total posts
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K
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Re: Just curious..
We were married for exactly one year and one month when I got my BFP.
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MrsRbk
<3 <3 <3 <3
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Michelle
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Re: Just curious..
Married in 2005. Started trying in August of 2006.
DD was born Feb 2009 after 2 losses, 5 IUI's and 2 IVFs.
DS was born in Aug 2010 after 2nd FET attempt.
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Re: Just curious..
Got the BFP a month after our 4 year wedding anniversary. We heard plenty of "what are you waiting for?" in that time. After we announced that we were expecting we started hearing "it's about time, I was wondering what was taking so long". You can't please everyone, so just focus on pleasing yourselves! 
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We'll be married 5 years Nov 12. We've been trying since 6 months in, however.
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| Posted 10/22/10 2:43 PM |
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lbelle821
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Member since 2/06 5285 total posts
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Lisa
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Re: Just curious..
we were married just over 2 years before we became PG with DS1.
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3 years and a few months. It was the right time for us. i am only 10 weeks, so not that many people know yet and people are constantly asking us wehn we are going to get pregnant. It drives me insane as it is clearly none of their business (especially after trying for nearly 10 months before getting a BFP)
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| Posted 10/22/10 3:22 PM |
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AutumnDreams
LIF Toddler
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Re: Just curious..
A little over 3 years
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JBaby
LIF Adolescent
Member since 9/10 762 total posts
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Julia
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Re: Just curious..
Posted by jasmine
Posted by dajc23
HOW DARE YOU!
we're apparently idiots too cause i have #2 on the way and I only live in a small 2 bdrm appt.
Oh and it's on the 2nd floor of a building with no elevator. So imagine having to lug 2 kids up and down the stairs with all their crap
I should get rid of them now then 
I guess we'll join you in idiotland 
Well sign us up as well. We rent and plan on keeping renting our one br. DH is still in school and working three jobs. LO was very much planned!!!
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| Posted 10/22/10 4:27 PM |
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MrsYank
She's here :)
Member since 4/07 3238 total posts
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Mrs. Yank
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Re: Just curious..
We found out on our 3 year anniversary- but we were trying for a few months.
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| Posted 10/22/10 4:42 PM |
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