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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Just had a heated debate at work....
knowing some drama in my OWN family about learning the paternity of a child---part of me would like to say yes.
BUT -- even with the pain my family went thru---i still would say absolutely not. its just a good idea in theory...but its one of those things that chips away at privacy and making a paternity test mandatory is just a stepping stone to testing for other things too. why not mandatory testing for diseases when you start a job ? or testing for STDs or communicable diseases when you go to college ? it just would open the door to more things
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Posted 4/17/08 12:59 PM  |
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Re: Just had a heated debate at work....
No.
For the reasons already stated, and why waste people's time and money on a question they already know the answer to? 
I mean, if there is doubt as to the paternity then that's one thing but if you KNOW who the father is there's just no reason for it.
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| Posted 4/17/08 12:59 PM |
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lbelle821
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Re: Just had a heated debate at work....
Posted by stephanief
mandatory, absolutely NOT
if the father requests one then yes
i also agree
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| Posted 4/17/08 1:02 PM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Just had a heated debate at work....
ITA with all of the privacy issues, but we all know that it comes down to $$$. Insurance companies will never agree to paying for paternity tests for every single baby. If ins won't pay for it, you can't force individuals to pay for an unnecessary test. I don't want my premiums going up just to cover all these tests.
As a society, I don't see the benefit of it. For certain couples, yes, but not society as a whole.
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| Posted 4/17/08 1:05 PM |
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JessInCA
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Re: Just had a heated debate at work....
Posted by Kara
And both are none of the government's business.
I agree.
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| Posted 4/17/08 1:05 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: Just had a heated debate at work....
Posted by Tilde
yikes, that would be so insulting to women!
when i took my ex to court for support, i overheard his lawyer telling him, "why is she asking for money now? are you sure it's yours?" he said, "yeah, i want to get tested."
as SOON as that woman told him that he would have to pay for the test, he said, "it's ok, i know he's mine"
he just wanted to humiliate me in court and on the record. joke's on him.
anyway, to answer the OP. everyone should know where they come from, but the test does not need to be mandatory. what a slap in the face to the mother
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| Posted 4/17/08 1:05 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: Just had a heated debate at work....
Posted by JessInCA
Posted by glinda-goodwitch
it's not anyone's business but the couple's. Plus, a child knowing that the father that is raising them is not their biological father may cause unnecessary resentment.
I have to ask - what about the resentment that occurs when the child grows up and THEN finds out the father that has raised them is not their biological father?
This happened to someone very close to me, and he found out at age 24 that the man he thought was his dad hsi whole life, whose name is on his birth certificate, is not his father. Finding out his parents had betrayed him was painful, and he would much rather have known the truth since he was a child.
But for the record, I voted no too. There's no reason it should be mandatory for everyone.
I have a friend who had the same thing happen. However she agrees that she shouldnt have known at a younger age as she probably wasnt ready to know the truth and the outcome would have been very different.
PS she doenst know her bio dad but is still close with her mom and "adopted" dad.
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| Posted 4/17/08 1:21 PM |
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LFitzy79
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Re: Just had a heated debate at work....
Posted by MrsPJB2007
knowing some drama in my OWN family about learning the paternity of a child---part of me would like to say yes.
BUT -- even with the pain my family went thru---i still would say absolutely not. its just a good idea in theory...but its one of those things that chips away at privacy and making a paternity test mandatory is just a stepping stone to testing for other things too. why not mandatory testing for diseases when you start a job ? or testing for STDs or communicable diseases when you go to college ? it just would open the door to more things
not to totally take this thread off track, but I just found out recently that when a baby is born, if thier mother hasn't yet submitted to an aids test during the pregnancy, they automatically test the baby for aids/hiv. It's mandatory. I don't know when that started, but in answer to your response, there's already a precedent for mandatory STD testing.
Message edited 4/17/2008 1:26:52 PM.
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Just had a heated debate at work....
Posted by LFitzy79
Posted by MrsPJB2007
knowing some drama in my OWN family about learning the paternity of a child---part of me would like to say yes.
BUT -- even with the pain my family went thru---i still would say absolutely not. its just a good idea in theory...but its one of those things that chips away at privacy and making a paternity test mandatory is just a stepping stone to testing for other things too. why not mandatory testing for diseases when you start a job ? or testing for STDs or communicable diseases when you go to college ? it just would open the door to more things
not to totally take this thread off track, but I just found out recently that when a baby is born, if thier mother hasn't yet submitted to an aids test during the pregnancy, they automatically test the baby for aids/hiv. It's mandatory. I don't know when that started, but in answer to your response, there's already a precedent for mandatory STD testing.
the HIV/Aids test i knew about-but i think that is done to ensure the child get diagnosed and started on anti-viral treatments. however the idea of paternity testing isn't for healthy reasons--more for support issues.
when you start doing something that is really private & voluntary like paternity testing.....i feel like it starts to open up more testing possibilities. like someone saying "well i want to know about whether my co-workers have any type of diseases -- so all job applicants should go thru testing." or parents saying "well i don't want my child going to school and having a roommate who might have a disease my child could catch---they should be tested!"
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Shelly
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Re: Just had a heated debate at work....
I think its incredibly invasive, offensive and a waste of resources to perform a paternity test on every baby born in the US.
Lets spend our money on finding a cure/treatment for some of the many illnesses that children suffer from.
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| Posted 4/17/08 1:43 PM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Just had a heated debate at work....
Posted by Shelly
I think its incredibly invasive, offensive and a waste of resources to perform a paternity test on every baby born in the US.
Lets spend our money on finding a cure/treatment for some of the many illnesses that children suffer from.
I agree! 
If the father named on the birth certificate wants to initiate that process that's one thing but to make it mandatory is completely offensive.
If I say that my husband is the father then that's what it is...yes people lie but that's on them. Why should all women then be treated with such mistrust? If my husband has any doubt he should speak up and demand a test - that should be his right - but it should not be mandatory.
And...at the rate that general pregnancy test results get messed up...I can't even imagine the panic and problems these tests could cause - because the reality is that there will be room for error in some way shape or form. Something as simple as the wrong label on the wrong vile could break apart a family. 
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| Posted 4/17/08 1:56 PM |
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BunnyBaby
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Re: Just had a heated debate at work....
Posted by Tilde
yikes, that would be so insulting to women!
Agreed!
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| Posted 4/17/08 1:58 PM |
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browneyedgirl
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Re: Just had a heated debate at work....
absolutely not. i don't need a test to determine who the father of my child is.
that should be a choice, not something mandatory
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